Dr. Julie Buzby’s dad—the original Dr. Buzby—had a profound influence on many lives, especially his daughters’. This article, a departure from our usual veterinary stories, is her tribute to her father who passed away suddenly in 2012—just before Dr. Buzby’s ToeGrips launched. Julie’s father taught her life skills that have served her well as a veterinarian, mom, and human being, and shape our core values as a company.
I always get a chuckle when someone assumes Dr. Buzby is a fictional character…or a man.
Neither are true. However, the original Dr. Buzby was a man. He was an army chaplain with a Doctorate in Ministry. But more than that, he was my dad.
He passed away in 2012, just months before our company—Dr. Buzby’s ToeGrips—officially launched. And a large piece of my soul was buried with him.
I struggled greatly in the weeks and months after his death…to the point where my manifestations of grief caused me to fear that I had a brain tumor. Yet I found purpose in knowing that I would proudly carry on the family name through our small start-up company.
The Buzby Grit
On a daily basis, I use lessons from my dad to survive and thrive. Thinking back to the rigors of vet school, the building of my veterinary clinic from scratch, and the launch of our ToeGrips® business, I found success by emulating my dad. He was a perfect cross between General Patton and Clark Griswold.
When I began the hard labor of transforming the idea for ToeGrips into a real product, a veterinarian coworker said to me, “You’ve got what it takes to make this happen, Julie. You’re a bulldog!” Then he paused and backpedaled…thinking he might have offended me by referring to me as a commonly overweight breed of dog with breathing problems.
But I loved it! I took it as high praise. And, I knew my bulldog tenacity was inherited from my dad. I’m pretty sure that the Apollo 13 directors stole the phrase, “Failure is not an option” from him!
Sewing his way to success
I joke that all veterinarians have to have a bit of “Vet-Gyver” in them to succeed. It’s just the nature of the job. My VetGyver creativity also comes from my dad.
One of his infamous bargains was a three-piece suit he bought at a thrift store for 33 cents. Though the ensemble was on the dollar rack, he rejoiced like a kid on Christmas morning when the cashier told him it was two-thirds off. The suit didn’t fit quite right, but my dad was undaunted. In addition to his talents with duct tape, he was the master of “side seams.”
He could operate power tools and a sewing machine with equal entry level proficiency. In fact, he told me that sewing was just like carpentry without the sawdust. Eventually, my mom had to cut him off from using her sewing machine with a post-it note that read, “Not for leather or canvas!”
A “wealth” of experience on a Greyhound bus
My dad and I were similar in many ways, but we were different too. While he was busy serving our country, I was busy loving animals and plotting my course to veterinary school. And later, as an accidental entrepreneur, I was busy trying to figure out how to turn an idea into a company. It would take every ounce of creative budgeting and scrimping to pull that off. Luckily, my dad had taught me all about that too…
My first exposure to budgeting landed me on a Greyhound bus for three days at the tender age of eleven. My dad was stationed in El Paso, Texas, and we were planning a summer vacation on the East Coast to visit relatives.
Since Dad’s leave was only a fraction of our summer vacation, the plan was for my mom, sister, and me to travel ahead of my dad. Diplomatically, he called a family meeting to work out the details.
“Girls,” he said solemnly, “you have two choices. You can fly to New Jersey, but there won’t be any money left over. Oooorrrr,” he said like a game show host offering the deal of a lifetime, “you can take the bus…and get the travelin’ feeling!”
There was no debate. In our eight- and eleven-year-old naiveté, we opted for the bus, an especially good value since children under ten rode free with a paid adult ticket. My dad saw us off and later took a military flight to meet us.
Our bus trip education
From the get go, ours was an educational trip.
- Culture: I had my first grits at a bus stop in the middle of the night.
- Science: We learned about hemophilia when a poor lady ruptured her shin on the bus steps.
- Physics: Midway through the trip the driver informed us that the bus was full and the “under ten rides free” clause was based on availability. My sister rode from Arkansas to New Jersey on my mother’s lap, illustrating the Law of Displacement.
Three days later we arrived, bedraggled. I think we actually OD’d on “the travelin’ feeling.” And although my mom couldn’t walk normally for a few days, we had spending money!
My dad’s persuasive nature
On the return trip, my dad rode with us. No one remembers why he was bringing soffit across the country on a Greyhound bus. We do remember the altercation with the driver who insisted it be placed under the bus with the rest of the baggage.
Dad was adamant that his bundle of astronomically long pieces of metal be stored in the bus’s overhead compartments. I never saw my dad lose his temper, but with that bulldog passion and persuasion, he argued for the welfare of the soffit.
In the end, that soffit—safely stowed in the climate controlled overhead bins—rode more comfortably across the country than the rest of us.
A good attitude in a bad situation
On July 5, my sister’s ninth birthday, our bus broke down in the middle of Texas. As we sat on the shoulder of the road, the bus’s omnipresent stale aroma transitioned to sweat mixed with despair. We baked like meatloaf under the lights at a cheap all-you-can-eat buffet. We sat for hours. When the damage was finally deemed irreparable, a new bus was sent to retrieve us.
Passengers were testy as they collected their purses, books, and soffit for transfer. My dad took advantage of the idle time by commandeering the bus’s microphone to announce, “I would like to ask you all to join me in singing Happy Birthday to my daughter!”
His enthusiasm inspired a wave of good cheer and spontaneous generosity from our fellow passengers. The number of boxes of travel-sized raisins we received was uncanny.
Of course, he convinced the bus driver to drop us all off along the way at a bench in front of a strip mall instead of going all the way into the heart of town to the bus station. Dad then sprinted home to get our VW Rabbit, so he could come pick us up, bungee the soffit to the roof, and claim victory in the adventure.
My dad, my superhero
As absurd as this sounds, prior to June 2012, I’d never truly realized that close loved ones can just up and die. I was so naive. I struggle to believe that life has gone on without my dad, always the life of the party. And yet I know he’s integral to who I am as a person and who we are as a company.
Perhaps my most favorite memory of my dad was while my parents were stationed in Washington D.C. during the years I was in veterinary school. One crisp winter morning, shortly after Christmas, my dad dropped me off at Dulles airport to catch my flight back to Kansas State University for second semester. I was a few hours early because that’s how he rolled.
But shortly after Dad left, the flight was cancelled. This was before the days of cell phones. I tried for an eternity to sort it out, but there was no way I was flying out that day. It didn’t take me long to become rattled. I was stuck in a chaotic airport with no way back home and no plan. I scrounged up the change to call home on a pay phone. My dad answered, recognized the distress in my voice, and assured me he was on his way. He was, above all, a man of action.
About 35 minutes later I looked up to see my dad, with his long-legged stride, sprinting down the airport corridor to rescue me. An invisible red cape was billowing behind him. He was not a sentimental guy, but I’ll never forget his tenderness that day. Only years later, did it dawn on me that in addition to his concern for his daughter, he was probably sprinting through the building because the airport parking was expensive…but free for the first hour.
For more about Dr. Julie Buzby…
…please read her true and poignant story about a hero pony and a veterinarian in training, How a Pony Helped Pioneer Veterinary Orthotics.
Laurie Novotny says
Dr. Buzby: your writing skills show! Where I live we had a column in the newspaper called Ask Dr. Brad. He was not only informative but entertaining. Just like you! Laurie in Michigan
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Hi Laurie,
Thanks for the kind words! The Ask Dr. Brad column sounds like it would be fun and educational. ?
Ralph Cecere says
Your Dad has raised you in spirit of our Lord. You have been truly blessed.
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Proverbs 22: 6
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Amen to that Ralph! I am so blessed to have been raised by Godly parents. ❤
Chris Mills says
Thank you for sharing your Dad’s stories. Mine passed away 18 years ago and there isn’t a day I don’t think of him and remember how wonderful he was, too. Having wonderful and caring parents is a true gift. Hugs.
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Hi Chris,
So sorry for the loss of your dad. It sounds like he was a wonderful man and had a huge impact on your life. Sending love with understanding as you think about your dad and all the memories you shared.❤
Sherri Rusch (& Cali from the Rainbow Bridge) says
Dr. Buzby, I LOVED your story! Thank you so much for sharing this piece of your heart with us. Your dad was right! You do have the tenacity of a Bulldog AND a heart of gold. Bless you for all you do to help others.
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Sherri, your sweet words mean so much to me. ❤ I am so thankful for my dad and grateful that I got to share a small piece of him with others in this blog.
linda samson says
This world could really use more people like your amazing father!
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Thanks Linda! He was very special. ❤
Roddey says
I love this history/story of you and the original Dr. Buzby.
Thank you Julie and family
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Thanks for reading our story! It was an honor to get to share some of my favorite memories of my dad. ❤
Kathy Curtis says
Your sweet post made me laugh and then left me in tears.. I can identify with the unexpected reality that our fathers can leave our everyday existence.
My own dad shared so many of those “practical” traits you described and we had a home full of DIY projects, even before YouTube instructions were available. He was a meteorologist and aerospace engineer who regularly assembled the family to witness barometric pressure drops and passing satellites. I continue to share those very well-developed skills with others! ?
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Kathy,
It sounds like our dads were cut from the same cloth! Thanks for sharing a brief snapshot of the things that made your dad so special. I’m glad that you too get to pass on the things your dad has taught you. It is such a special way to honor the legacy of the dads who shaped our lives. Much love to you as Father’s day approaches and you remember your dad. ❤
mary ann hopkins says
What an beautiful tribute to your Dad. I doubt you remember me but Kenny and Jeanne were friends of mine. I met you a few times at their farm while you were still in school. I was also (briefly) a girlfriend of Bill C. I haven’t seen Bill since he moved back to NC but we stay in touch. I am so lucky to still have my Dad – he will be turning 97 years old in September. He is still acting like the energy bunny. Physically and mentally he’s at 80-90% and still insisting on living in his home in PA. He’s a very stubborn WW2 ex-Marine.
Thank you for all the love you put into your practice. I wish my home was closer to your practice 🙂 I have two seniors Although I am a Jersey girl, I’ve been living in TN for nine
years. God Bless you and your family!
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Of course I remember you, Mary Ann, and I’m so happy to hear from you!
What a blessing that your amazing dad is about to turn 97 and is still independent and living on his own. As a Marine and WW2 veteran, I am sure is is full of grit and can stand his ground.? He sounds like a very special man. Do me a favor this Father’s Day. Sit down with him and tell him about his impact on your life. It may be awkward, but it is something that I wish I would have been able to do more with my dad.
Hope you and your senior dogs are doing well! ❤
Deborah Crowder says
Wonderful story & tribute! Thank you for sharing!
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Thanks for your kind words! ❤
P.G. says
What an amazing father and human being! Thank you for sharing him with us; us whose fur kids are living better lives because of toe grips.
Dr. Julie Buzby says
It was an honor to get to share about my dad. I makes me so happy to hear that ToeGrips are helping your fur kids live better lives too because that was a big part of my vision and goal when I started the company. Thanks for you kind words. ❤
Christine Booras says
Such a beautiful and heartfelt tribute. I’m sure he has always been so proud of you!
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Thank you for your sweet words Christine. ❤
Amy says
That’s a beautiful tribute to your father. He sounds like a great man.
Dr. Julie Buzby says
Thanks Amy! I am so blessed to have had him as my dad. ❤
Ruth says
Thanks for your story and reminiscing about your dad. Brought tears to my eyes.
My dad died in 2005. He was my hero.
I was blessed.
Dr. Julie Buzby says
So sorry for the loss of your dad, Ruth. He sounds like he was a wonderful man. Sending so much love to you, especially as Father’s Day approaches. ❤