If you’re making the difficult decision to say goodbye to your beloved dog, integrative veterinarian Dr. Julie Buzby understands your grief. In part two of her series on grieving the loss of a dog, she offers guidance on how to prepare for your dog’s euthanasia. By understanding the procedure, may you embrace the final gift you’re giving your dog … and may you find peace.
After last week’s blog post (Grieving the Loss of a Dog After Euthanasia) generated the most reader comments of any blog we’ve ever published, I realized that I owed it to our community to write some difficult things about pet euthanasia.
Replace your guilt with grace
The overwhelming sentiment in those comments was grief wrapped in guilt. It broke my heart to realize the abundance of guilt burdening the souls of our readers—sometimes for years—regarding euthanizing their dogs. These dog parents had done the best they could with the information they had. They had nothing to feel guilty about. Rather, they had heroically given their suffering dogs a final gift when they unselfishly let them go.
But at the root of most of the reader comments, there were some common threads: lingering questions, confusion, and a lack of confidence in their decision on the euthanasia process.
Letting your dog go is every shade of difficult
As a veterinarian, helping dogs and their families through this difficult time is something I’ve done hundreds of times. It’s not routine by any means, but it is familiar. However for pet parents, it may be something they are experiencing for the very first time or will only experience a few times during their lifetime. There is nothing familiar or comfortable about it…at all. It’s the worst of times.
I can’t provide specific medical advice as to determining the right time to let your dog go. Even for my own clients, whose dogs I know well, I often find myself telling them it’s not a black and white moment in time—it’s a grey zone. But what I can help you with is the fear of the unknown and managing expectations.
Finding the peace in the goodbye is possible
I want to give you as much honest information about the procedure of pet euthanasia as I can. It’s a painful subject, but it shouldn’t be taboo. I want you to feel proactive, prepared, and peaceful when it’s time for you to say goodbye to your dog.
10 things to help you thoughtfully prepare for your dog’s euthanasia
1. Give your dog a party or “best day” beforehand.
Inevitably, I find myself saying to my clients during a euthanasia appointment, “I’m so heartbroken for you, but I’m not sad for your dog!” What do I mean by this? While saying goodbye to your dog may be one of the worst days of your life, it can be one of the best days of your dog’s life.
First of all, you are making this decision because you know it’s time to end your beloved friend’s pain and suffering. I take hope in knowing that the dog is going to be better off. But we can take the “best day” idea one step further.
One of my veterinary colleagues tells his clients to bring chocolate to their dog’s euthanasia appointment. In the moments preceding the euthanasia, while the doctor and owners are talking, they feed chocolate pieces to the dog, who thinks heaven has descended on earth.
If your dog is food motivated and has an appetite (I know many don’t at this stage), consider feeding a little bit of something typically “off limits.” You don’t want to do this in advance of the appointment because you don’t want to create an upset stomach. However, a few bites of a previously forbidden delicacy right before the euthanasia procedure can spark joy and create a special memory.
2. Script the setting and characters of the last chapter of your dog’s story.
I have euthanized dogs in living rooms, in clients’ vehicles, in backyards, on porches, and on clients’ beds. Although I know it’s still “the norm” and sometimes it is for the best, my least favorite place to facilitate the goodbye is in a veterinary exam room. It’s not that the environment isn’t compassionate—often the staff weeps alongside the owners—but there’s no real privacy and it’s probably not the dog’s favorite place. So I hereby give you permission to write the end of your dog’s story.
When it’s time to say goodbye, where would you and your dog like to be? And who would be with you? Sadly, COVID has ushered in some limitations.
However, I want you to know that in addition to working with your regular veterinarian, there is a growing subset of veterinary medicine that is dedicated to customized in-home euthanasia for dogs. (Lap of Love Veterinary Hospice and the Association of Pet Loss and Bereavement are two excellent resources that offer compassionate end-of-life care and euthanasia services.) Ideally, I try to euthanize pets in the location where they are happy and most comfortable.
3. Bring the props—your dog’s favorite comforts.
In addition to the characters and setting, you may bring “props” to make the sad appointment a little bit brighter. Perhaps you know that your dog is relaxed by a certain type of music. Feel free to play it on your phone during the euthanasia. Further, consider bringing along a favorite toy or “comfort” item.
Finally, whether at home or at the veterinary hospital, your dog will be lying down for the euthanasia. Plan to use your dog’s favorite dog bed. (You may want to place a waterproof pad on the bed under a blanket in case urine is leaked.) Remember, the goal is to help your dog feel comfortable and content.
4. Pre-pay at the beginning of the appointment.
My friend, Jamie, whose goodbye story was shared in last week’s blog, says, “As a kid, I remember watching my dad with tears in his eyes paying the bill after losing our family dog. From that memory, I learned to pay ahead, so that afterward I could just walk out.”
I couldn’t agree more with Jamie. Most vets handle payment discreetly, along with the required paperwork, at the beginning of the appointment. This way you don’t have to leave the privacy of the exam room or vehicle.
5. Understand what to expect in the process.
Typically, both the dog’s body and the humans’ hearts are fragile during this journey. Both deserve to be gently cared for throughout the process. As a veterinarian, I’m privileged to help the dog through this final transition and to act as a sherpa for the family.
I always begin a euthanasia by carefully explaining to the family what to expect. It’s natural to fear the unknown, and I think having a roadmap is somehow comforting, even though it’s a roadmap of sorrow.
I tell my clients that the euthanasia process will be extremely smooth thanks to wonderful drugs. However, this is not Hollywood. The dog will not close his eyes after the procedure and look like he’s in a Disney movie.
He may urinate and/or defecate after he’s gone. This occurs as the body “lets go.” (Taking the dog for a slow, sniffing-filled potty walk before the procedure reduces the likelihood of this happening.)
Sometimes after passing, a dog will take a few deep, dramatic breaths. We call this agonal breathing, and the very name is creepy. Watching it happen is even creepier, so I’m careful to prepare my clients in case it happens. They need to know that this is not an active reaction of pain or distress on the dog’s part. It’s simply a reflex.
And during those initial moments after the dog has passed, it’s possible to observe the muscles twitching as nerves fire and cells die. This is involuntary and not cause for alarm.
If and when any of the above occur during a euthanasia, it’s important to remember that the dog is unconscious, the heart has likely already stopped, and the spirit is free.
6. Allow your veterinarian to place an IV catheter.
Although I concede that placing an IV catheter does cause a prick of pain, because I know how it feels when I’ve had one inserted, an IV port ensures no future pain-associated injections. Injecting into the IV is not painful and is reliable. On the contrary, often our patients are frail, dehydrated, or hypotensive. Injecting a solution intravenously can be tricky even for seasoned vets under these circumstances. Without an IV catheter, I may struggle to hit the vein the first time. If any euthanasia solution is accidentally injected outside of the vein, this will cause a painful response.
An IV catheter is a one-time step in the procedure. It’s designed to save the dog from pain and anxious moments later.
7. Allow your veterinarian to administer a pre-euthanasia sedative injection.
Not all dogs follow the textbook as they transition out of this life. There are three reasons why I prefer to euthanize a sedated dog:
- Occasionally, a dog seems to “stall” after the euthanasia solution is injected and seemingly refuses to go to sleep. This may be due to the dog’s underlying disease process (especially if there’s brain involvement), organ dysfunction, or abnormal drug delivery because of dehydration or poor perfusion. Whatever the cause, sometimes the dog lingers. And it’s not because they don’t want to leave their loved ones, or are fighting the drugs, or their heart was too strong—all things I’ve heard well-meaning pet owners say. It’s because the chemicals are not working as expected in an old, sick, or diseased body. But when the dog is sedated, if things don’t go as planned, I can simply administer additional injections as needed without the dog feeling pain, stress, or anxiety. Once the dog is sedated, there’s virtually nothing that can derail a peaceful euthanasia.
- A second reason why I prefer sedation is because some dogs briefly vocalize (bark or cry out) while they are being euthanized. You can imagine how upsetting this is to the family. The good news is the vocalization is not considered to be a fear or pain response, but rather what we call “dysphoria”—an excitatory “high as a kite” disoriented feeling from the drugs. Thankfully, this virtually never happens in a dog who’s had a sedative injection beforehand.
- Finally, a dog who is sedated before euthanasia is much less likely to experience agonal breathing (explained in point five above) after the procedure.
It’s important to mention that, while the sedative is just that—heavy sedation—sometimes it seems to push dogs right into the realm of anesthesia. I hadn’t considered how critically important communicating this detail was until reading Jamie’s story in last week’s blog post.
When describing the loss of her elderly Cocker Spaniel, Rémedy, Jamie shared her disappointment in not realizing that, after Rémedy was given the pre-sedation injection, her beloved dog would become so unresponsive that it was almost as if she were already gone—even though the euthanasia solution had not yet been administered.
Jamie regretted not taking time before the sedation was given to look into her dog’s eyes and say all that she wanted to say. She thought she’d have time before the actual euthanasia injection was given to share that moment.
I experienced something very similar when a colleague came to my house to euthanize our dog, Luke. Even though I knew exactly what was going to happen, I missed my opportunity to be intentional about saying goodbye to our dog because of Luke’s quick-acting sedation.
It should be mentioned that veterinary associations consider pre-euthanasia sedation be the gold standard, but sedation can occur very quickly. Oftentimes, sedation from the first injection will be so profound that you won’t be speaking to an alert, responsive dog once it takes effect (typically within moments).
In the interest of honesty and transparency, the other thing I tell my clients is that the sedation injection may sting a bit. The dog may even react a little. But this is very fleeting and, I think, greatly outweighed by the many benefits of administering sedation before euthanasia.
8. Keep speaking loving words (even if your dog is sedated).
So what words of comfort did I have for Jamie when she lamented the way Rémedy left her? I explained that a dog’s hearing is the last of the five senses to be lost in the journey of death. And even though she was not able to look into Rémedy’s eyes when she spoke the words on her heart, I believe Rémedy still heard those words and knew she was present. I encourage owners to speak loving, reassuring words until I let them know that the dog has slipped away.
9. Take the time you need (and don’t feel guilty about it).
If at any time before, during, or after the procedure, you have a question, please ask freely. I tell my clients that I want their minds to be free to focus on their dog and grieve without being entangled by confusion. This means that before the euthanasia I spend time getting an update on the dog, reaffirming their decision, and just listening to them.
After the euthanasia, I always let the client know that their dog’s heart has stopped, and he is free. The room typically gets very loud or very quiet. Some clients burst into wailing; others are reverently silent. Some clients leave quickly after the euthanasia; others stay for extended periods of time, holding on to those last moments in the presence of their dog. This is also the time that I recommend removing the collar and keeping it as a memory of your beloved pet.
Please know that as veterinarians (and this is true for veterinary staff too), we don’t judge you. Virtually every one of us has walked in your shoes. Take the time you need and grieve without feeling embarrassed.
Our hearts are with you.
10. Know your wishes for care of the body.
Before your dog’s appointment, speak with your veterinarian about final arrangements such as burial or cremation. Sometimes I discuss the options of burial, affordable communal pet cremation, or private cremation at the beginning of the appointment when heads are clearer. But more often, I discuss these types of decisions with my clients well in advance of the painful day. This way, when emotions are raw, the client already knows what they want and doesn’t have to give this decision a second thought.
I would encourage you to make a plan in advance of your dog’s last day. Also, if cost will play a factor in your decision (because private cremation service is significantly more expensive), call your veterinary hospital to get pricing.
Finding peace and comfort through understanding
Whether you are grieving the loss of your dog or dreading an upcoming decision, I hope somewhere in these 10 points you are able to find comfort, understanding, and empowerment to reject the guilt you are not meant to carry.
Are you preparing for your dog’s passing?
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I just put my dog down this past weekend and was still in doubt on whether or not I did the right thing. Then i came across this article and realized I had done everything mentioned above. I feel more at peace knowing that I celebrated his life and had control over his last peaceful days/moments rather than waiting too long for him to pass tragically somehow.
Thank you for your words, it’s helped me realized not to be selfish, but letting him go this way was actually a gift. <3
Dear Jo,
Thank you for the kind words. I am so glad the article was helpful and offered some comfort and closure as you grieve the loss of your beloved pup. May his memory stay with you always and continue to be a blessing in your life. ♥
I’m in the decision making period. Up and down for months. He is in pain from arthritis but is it so bad that I should kill him?
I just don’t know! He still loves cookies but can barely walk! 80 pound, 14 1/2 year old labrador …Jackson.
Dear Tina,
I am sorry your boy is struggling with arthritis pain, and I understand why you are conflicted about how to proceed. If your boy has uncontrolled pain and cannot do the activities that bring him joy, I am not sure a willingness to eat treats is enough to make up a good quality of life. I would rather let go one day too early than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. I will attach links to other articles with more information and advice on making this emotional decision. Praying for your strength as you face the unknown path ahead. Bless you and Jackson.
1. When to Euthanize a Dog With Arthritis: A Vet’s Heartfelt Advice
2. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
3. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
My dog is 15 years old and has had a heart condition for years. Due to her old age, she can’t see or hear well anymore and has had mild CCD for the last two years. Over a week ago, her condition took a turn for the worse, She suddenly became paralyzed. I brought her to the vet, and it turns out she has a spinal problem, heart disease at stage C, and kidney disease at stage 2. She has lost weight and doesn’t have much of appetite, which breaks my heart. She is still drinking and eating her treats, though. She still wags her tail when she sees me, despite not being able to poop or pee with dignity anymore. I told the vet that I don’t want her to suffer any invasive treatment with her old age and asked about when will the right time to let my dog go because I owed this dog my life, and suffering is the last thing I want for her. The vet said anytime you’re ready. It dawned on me that she was never going to get better, I do know this deep in my heart, and over the years I have seen that my dog is getting more and more tired. Sleepless nights are more frequent due to her panting excessively and breathing difficulty. At some point, her tongue turned bluish because she was breathing so hard, even with medication. While I made the decision that I would put my dog to sleep, I kept wavering and kept postponing the date. I feel like it’s too soon, yet whenever I see her breathing and panting so hard, I keep crying to see her having such a hard time.
Dear Elvy,
I am sorry your senior girl’s health is declining and you are facing these difficult decisions about her quality of life. I know you don’t want to let go too soon, but I would rather say goodbye one day too early than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. It worries me that your girl is having so much trouble breathing that her tongue is turning blue. Air hunger is a very real and tragic symptom of worsening heart disease. I will attach links to other articles with more information and advice. Hoping you can find what you need to make the best choice for you and your sweet girl. Praying for clarity and strength to face what lies ahead. Bless you both.
1. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
2. Signs of a Dog Dying of Heart Failure
3. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
Thank you for this article. My 13 year old border collie cross “Jack” has severe CCD and unfortunately we’ve hit the point where I had to make that hard decision. I’ve had him since he was 8 weeks old and to see the mental decline the last few years has been awful. The medications have quit working and its time. It feels so much harder because physically he’s healthy, but he’s not him anymore. The grief already is terrible but I’m trying to not feel guilty and approach this as more of an act of grace as your article mentions.
Dear Jack’s Nic,
I am sorry your senior guy is struggling with mental disease and understand how hard it is to choose to say goodbye. You are allowing your own heart to break so your beloved pup doesn’t have to suffer needlessly. I cannot think of a greater act of selfless love than that. When the time comes, I hope Jack’s passing will be smooth and peaceful. Praying for your strength and comfort. Bless you and your sweet boy.
Hello to all. We are in the difficult moments that preceed having to let go of one of our four beagles, Tommy. All four are from the same litter and we feel blessed to have had 14 years, and four months with him so far. He has an enlarged heart and has gone from eagerly taking his two daily pills to spitting them out or refusing them. A couple days ago his eating pattern has changed to picky. We’ve raised and kept (not bred) beagles for around 35 years now and have a lot of urns here to prove it, but we always wonder if it is their teeth giving them trouble instead of them telling us they are done. Last vet appointment was six weeks ago and they stated his teeth were fine. Two weeks later I sent them a pic of the inside of his mouth and he clearly had a bad abcess. They gave us an antibiotic and that was that. I have hated myself for euthanizing my pet family without ever knowing the answer to that question. My other concern is, as I am sure many other pets have experienced, Tommy has become hard of hearing. He can hear when we yell or his siblings bark. I am the type of person who does want to say some things to him when his time comes, but worries that he won’t hear them. Do you have any suggestions like a temporary doggie hearing device or ANYTHING? I would appreciate any help you could give us. Unfortunately these may be my last dogs because despite the many I’ve lost in my life, it seems like it’s getting harder to lose them. I’m not sure why but maybe it has something to do with the fact that since I got a severe staph infection that ate up my spine resulting in surgery and unbearable pain for the last 12 years, I’ve only left home maybe 3 or 4 times a year for doctors appointments. This means that I have clocked in a ton of hours with these last four. They are my babies that have been there for me, but grief is eating me up even well before I know time has come.
Dear Laurie,
I am sorry Tommy’s health is beginning to decline and you are facing this emotional decision about his quality of life. I am not aware of a hearing device that is available but am certain your presence and comforting touch will convey the message of love you wish to leave with your boy. Of all the ways we show love to others, our speech is probably the least important. As you spend these last days together, I pray they will be filled with joy. Wishing you both comfort and peace. Bless you and yours.
Needed this today. My 16 yr old dog Dragon has dementia, been urinating everywhere and just recently seems to have lost most mobility with his hind legs. The vet says in his opinion he’s just “existing” when I asked what he thought of his quality of life, and while we have the dog on meds for the moment to see if anything improves, he’s prepared us that it’s likely “time”. I’m not dealing with this very well…. But while him being in a daze and having to clean up after him or keeping him in diapers is no good, the sight of him struggling to walk/dragging his hind leg and carrying him a lot has me emotionally destroyed, wondering if a doggie wheelchair would be a good idea, etc. Anything….but…that.
I love the guy and just cant seem to say goodbye.
Thanks for this article….. it helps a lot putting in perspective!!!
Dear Kerry,
My heart goes out to you as you face this difficult decision for your senior guy. I know you would do anything to keep him by your side but letting go may be the only way to give your sweet boy peace and freedom from his struggles. It is ok to let go before all joy is lost and the only thing that remains is pain. I would rather say goodbye one day too early than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. Praying for strength and comfort as you walk this emotional path. Bless you and Dragon.
Thank you so much for this article. I have read it no less than 10 times. Our 15 year old pittie, Madison, has had arthritis and mobility issues for years, but now no medication is enough (unless it is 4-5 gabapentin a day). And signs that some cancer has decided to diligently spread and causing GI issues. For anyone reading this wondering if the sleepless nights, whines, listlessness, loss of mobility is enough, please talk to your vet. They are excellent guides and know your dog well and should be good listeners enough to help you know when discomfort is no longer manageable.
Thank you to everyone who shared their story. It makes this gut wrenching choice less lonely. My family is shattered. She is my soul mate.
Our doctor helped us by teaching us how to use the upped amount of pain medication this week so we can have the best week ever. It’s made her more like herself, and more apt to rest (she whines & has issues laying down due to discomfort), but it’s made this week all the harder because we are seeing how our girl used to be.
I’m so grateful we get to make a loving choice versus an emergent choice. She doesn’t have to cry if we misjudge her medication time. Or the times she has fallen when we aren’t immediately there to help her.
I am shattered. I am so grateful for all the kind words. I’m grateful we can set them free. I just also so deeply wish they could be with us in the flesh forever.
Dear Jessica,
My heart aches for you as you grieve the loss of your beloved Madison. What a blessing you were able to give her such a wonderful week and ensure her passing was peaceful. I can only imagine how much you miss her. It is clear she was a huge part of your lives. May her memory stay with you always and bring you joy. Wishing you brighter days ahead as you continue life’s journey. ♥
We have made the sad decision to have our senior dog euthanized this coming Saturday. We do not know his true age. He is a Lab/Pit mix that we adopted 6 years ago from the shelter. He was already pretty old at that point. He used to be so vibrant and full of life. As he got older, he developed Hip Dysplasia and arthritis. He has been on medication for several years to help, but it seems as though his mobility has declined even worse the past couple months. He has trouble getting up and down, is very restless and pants quite a bit. All he does is sleep and eat. He no longer enjoys playing or walks, or can jump up on the couch or bed. He has to wear belly bands as he leaks urine constantly when walking. This has been a tough decision, but came down to the fact of his quality of life. We also do not want him to get to a point of not being able to stand at all and become more anxious. Even though we know this is best for him, it doesn’t help the fact that we are giving him his death sentence. He is deaf and has been ever since we have had him so he won’t be able to hear us. We don’t want his last memories to be of pain and anxiety, We just hope we are doing what is best.
Dear Jen,
My heart aches for you with the recent loss of your senior pup. I understand how difficult it is to say goodbye but from what you describe, this was definitely a selfless act of love. You did the only thing you could to give your sweet boy rest and freedom from his struggles. I hope his passing was smooth and peaceful. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Wishing you brighter days ahead and may the memories of the good times you shared continue to be a blessing in your life.
Due to severe allergies, we had to make the difficult decision to have our puppy euthanized. It was a heartbreaking choice, but ultimately necessary for their well-being. For my self-healing am going to buy a new puppy from Petzlover.
Dear Maria,
I am so sorry for the loss of your pup. I understand how emotional it can be to have to choose to say goodbye. I hope the new puppy will help to heal your broken heart. Wishing you brighter days ahead. Bless you. ♥
We’re putting my 13 yo dog, Bailey, down on Sunday. She has an aggressive cancer and cannot balance herself and will not eat and is very lethargic. We were told that even if we were able to do chemo, it would only give her a few more months and then she would deteriorate again,
I really thought I would have more time with her and that she would live till 15.
We’ve decided to put her down soon because wage only has a few days left and soon she will have trouble breathing.
I feel like euthanasia seems wrong bc it’s like we’re signing her death contract, but we don’t want her to get to the stage where she cannot breathe.
Will miss you so much baybay. Luv u
Dear Avery,
My heart goes out to you as you prepare to say goodbye to your beloved Bailey. I know you would do anything to spend more time with her, but it sounds like offering peace and freedom from her struggles is the most loving option. I pray her passing will be smooth and that your presence will be a comfort in her final moments. Wishing you strength as you walk this emotional path. Bless you and your sweet girl. ♥
Thank you so much for this article. I have to put my beautiful, sweet, goofy, funny, loving, argumentative Susie (Bindi Sue) down this coming Monday (July 15th) and I have done nothing but cry and felt the guilt. She’s 14 and I feel like I have taken advantage of her time with me; that I will do “this” or “that” with her tomorrow and I ran out of tomorrow’s. I should have made every day a special day with her and I didn’t. Bindi Sue is my emotional support dog from a near fatal car accident from 13 years ago and I feel like I won’t survive after losing her. I live alone and after she’s gone, I will be alone and I don’t know how to cope with that. I know she’s suffering and in pain and to keep her around for myself is selfish and I am not a selfish person. She comes into the office with me every day while I attend classes; sleeps on her bed and snores so loud that I can hear it through my headset. And to know that when I come back into the office and she won’t be here, feels like a burning knife in my heart. I’ve leaned on her so much and she will be gone. Her hips are done and she has that look in her eyes like she’s telling me it’s time. She can barely walk and since she hurt herself just this past Monday (which I think pushed her over the edge), I have to use a towel to support her back end so she can go potty. I am disabled from the accident and it’s hard on me to keep up with her and to be able to hold her up and at times she potties laying down in the grass. I have to bend down to help her pick up her back end and put the support towel under her to help her up and back into the house. This isn’t her….she’s always been so independent. And yet, as I am typing this out to you, I am beginning to see that she doesn’t want to be this way. Then, I turn around and starting uncontrollably crying again…..like I am bipolar. I have so many emotions running through me, i don’t know which one to rely on and even lean on. These next couple of days are going to be the worst rollercoaster ride ever and I am terrified of rollercoasters to begin with. I’ve been spending a lot of time with her and taking videos of her playing with her favorite squeaky tennis ball and her talking to me like she does. Letting her hear happy tones in my voice and trying not to let her see me cry or be so upset.
I am sorry that I wrote so much and yet as I look back at it, I can’t believe how many times I referred to myself and how many times I mentioned Bindi’s name. I guess she has the easy part in all of this…..she gets to be set free and I don’t want the last thing she sees when she looks at my face is tears. I want to be smiling and talking to her and telling her how much I love her and that her sister Chloe ( my Malinois/Collie mix who i lost to cancer on the 29th of March this year), will be waiting for her to take her across the bridge and show her the ropes.
Thanks for the ideas about the chocolate. She loves McDonald’s cheeseburgers so I think I will get her one and a chocolate shake to help it go down.Her birthday isn’t until September so it will come early. Just to let you know about Susie, she was a rescue dog from 4-PAWS in Manhattan Kansas. My daughter thought Fin a pit bull would be ideal for me and she took a pic of him but in the background of Fin, was Susie. I immediately fell in love with her when they brought her out to my house while I was still in the wheelchair from the accident and she ran the backyard like she owned it. I never looked at another dog. I feel like I won’t survive without her. How do I cope with that when she helped me cope for so long?
Dear Christine,
My heart aches for you as you spend these final days with your beloved Bindi Sue. She sounds like an amazing pup. The kind you only know once in a lifetime. I am not sure the hole in your heart will ever be filled, but I do know the grief gets easier and fades with time. Try to make the most of the time you are gifted and spoil your girl rotten. I hope she really enjoys her cheeseburger and chocolate shake. ♥ Praying for your strength and comfort on Monday and that her passing will be peaceful and smooth. Feel free to reach back out for support as often as you like. We are all here for you. Bless you friend. ♥
Grieving the Loss of a Dog After Euthanasia (& Finding Peace)
Thank you for this article,
Even though I have gone through this once 15 years ago, every goodbye is different. Today I made the appointment to euthanize Reagan. He’s 16 years old and even though a part of me knows this is the right thing to do, as I was on the phone I just wanted to scream, “HELP ME, I CANT DO THIS!” Today is Tuesday and we will say goodbye on Friday. Thanks to your article I plan to celebrate my crazy boy in these last days. I will make this the best I can for my dear friend. A part of me is struggling because somewhere in me I feel it’s wrong to put out the light that is my dog. I don’t feel worthy of choosing the moment he leaves this earth. I know I’m giving him a gift by ending his suffering and it’s not right to want him to stay when he can’t hold himself up on this back legs and he falls down because his front legs are knuckling.. The toe grips weee a godsend and they are helping my other dog who is now 14.
I already made and cancelled this appointment once. I know I need to follow through so we can do it at home and not in an emergency situation. The selfish part of me was wishing he would pass on his own.
I’m going to try to handle this with grace but inside I am still screaming.
Please keep us in your prayers.
Dear Colleen,
My heart aches for you as you face this impossibly difficult decision for Reagan. It is clear he is dearly loved, and I am certain he knows how much he means to you. What a blessing you will get to ensure these last days are filled with joy and happiness. Praying for your strength and comfort. Bless you and your sweet boy. ♥
Dr. Buzby,
I just wanted to give you a big thank you for all your advice and articles and a big big thanks to your kind words!!! You’ve helped me so much with my boy Spunky and me!!! IVDD IS DEVASTATING AND HEARTBREAKING!! I hope I never have to see an animal die from this disease again in my lifetime!!! I’m so sorry for anyone that is going through this!!!
Thank you again Dr.
I’ll let you know what happens on Tuesday!!
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HELLO EVERYONE
Thank you so much for this article! We recently had to say goodbye to our beautiful Skye…a rescue Golden from Turkey. We were told she needed dental work, and then found out she actually had cancer and had days to live. She was only 7 or 8 years old, and we expected to have her presence with us for many more years…
But thanks in part to your article, and the the amazing fortune of finding a good end-of-life vet, her departure was peaceful – she was surrounded by all of us who loved her, outside in the backyard on a warm spring day, on her bed with her favourite toys…
It’s been almost 6 weeks – i can hardly believe that – and I haven’t yet had a single day where I haven’t cried. The grief is so big and so real, and so often discounted as ‘only a dog’. But they are so woven into the fabric of each day – every moment of every day..
So thank you for your article and your compassion – we need more people like you!!
Gratefully,
Deb
Dear Deb,
My heart aches for you with your recent loss of Skye. I am glad you were able to make her last day a happy one and am certain your presence was a comfort. Thank you for the kind words and for sharing Skye’s story with us. As time passes, I hope the grief will fade and your heart can begin to heal. Wishing you all the best and praying for brighter days ahead. ♥
We will be putting my 12 year old pug Sully to sleep this afternoon. My heart aches as the clock ticks on. He’s been such a good boy but recently due to heart failure can hardly walk and falls over so much. He’s stopped eating and drinking. I will miss this little dude so much but I know he doesn’t have much of a life anymore. I’ll never forget my good boy Sully and the 12 years of joy he brought me and my wife and I hope and pray we gave him the best life we could with the time he was with us.
Dear Chad,
My heart goes out to you with your recent loss of Sully. I hope his passing was smooth and peaceful. Praying for healing and comfort as you walk through this grieving process. Bless you and your wife. ♥
This article was what I needed tonight. We are fighting with the decision as to when the “right time” would be to put to rest our border collie. She’s 10, but been in several fights and ongoing severe anxiety/overstimulation/jealousy/reactivity. We’ve tried meds and training in the past 9 years but her attacks on another dog in the home are becoming harder to cope with. She’s otherwise healthy which makes the decision that much harder. If we’re able to make it as comfortable as possible, it may help. We’re torn between when to make the call as the last thing we want is to lose two dogs because of a fight…this sucks so bad.
Dear Sarah,
My heart aches for you as you face this impossibly tough decision for your girl. I wish I had some great advice or could tell you what is best. You have to trust your intuition as you know your pup and this situation better than anyone. I tend to err on the side of caution and not offer much grace when it comes to aggressive tendances. What a blessing your girl has not focused her anger toward the people in the household yet. I worry about what her reaction would be with an unexpected interaction with a child. I am sorry the situation is forcing you to make these emotional decisions. Praying for clarity and strength as you navigate this difficult path. Bless you and your family.
Thank you for this post! It helps.
Tomorrow my parents will be saying good bye to their amazing 15 year old yorkiepoo. He’s really a part of the family and had such amazing energy up til just a few weeks ago. Then, it’s been like a light switch went off and his usual self just faded away.
It’s funny in a way. I think the older he got the more we forgot that this moment would come. We commented to each other tonight that it started to seem like he’d “outlive us all.”
There’s guilt associated with not fighting more. But after so many appointments and medications, all to no avail, there’s a point when it’s time to “call it.” There’s no right answer, just a gut instinct.
Thank you for shedding light on the unknown for tomorrow. I’m scared for me and our little guy. But I take solace in knowing he’ll be waiting for us someday along the rainbow bridge. .
Dear Shaun,
I am sorry for the loss of your beloved pup. I agree, when it comes to this decision you just have to trust your intuition since you know your boy better than anyone else. Hoping his passing was peaceful and wishing you comfort as you face each new day. Bless you and your family.
Thank you so much for this very informative- and compassionate – article.
I gave my babygrrrl. (8yo female Pit, OSA of maxilla – way caudal and inoperative) her wings via Lap of Love 5 weeks ago. I feel very fortunate in that I seemed to have timed it just right. TBH her oral mass sort of made the decision for us: it had been entirely excised when the incisional biopsy was performed 6 weeks prior, and was already larger than before, and growing exponentially. She was perfect in terms of her demeaner, her appetite, her energy- everything- but all I could think was that any day she’d be unable to eat or that she’d go blind in one eye (it had invaded her orbital floor) or had unmanageable pain and that we’d end up in some emergency clinic at 3am with her in acute distress. So we made the appointment with Lap of Love.
As you’d mentioned, our only real defense against this horrible diagnosis is to live each moment to the fullest, which we did both before and after her diagnosis. I feel like I had to break my own heart in order to do right by her, that’s ok. She never knew a single second of suffering and after this seemingly bottomless pain subsides, I hope to find solace in that. Thanks again. You’ve helped me more than you know.
Dear Lisa,
I am sorry for the loss of your beloved pup but what a blessing you were able to give her a loving and peaceful goodbye. I am glad she didn’t have to suffer and only knew joy and happiness in her life. Thank you for being willing to share her story with us. Praying for comfort and healing. Best wishes to you and yours.
You are so right when you said you had to break your own heart to do what was right by her.
Hi, so tomorrow we have to put my family’s beloved rottweiler judge.. this has been an unimaginable heart break for myself and family. he just turned 8 this month and we were told last month that he has progressed osteosarcoma in his leg and that he had a month to live😭 the vet said that his leg will likely break and that’s when it will all be over. we made the decision to have him put to rest tomorrow evening at 5:30. this news of his cancer threw us all for a loop. I just got married Friday and I thank God every day that he was able to live long enough for this decision to be made after the wedding. even though it’s impossible no matter when it happens. Judge is my little baby, he’s my ball of sunshine and this is even harder because he is still himself. I always thought when this day would come that he’d be old and very and it be his time. not out of no where like this,. he can’t use his right leg and I noticed yesterday that his back leg was starting to give a little bit to. I don’t know how to cope with this. Judge has been my whole world, he’s my rock. when we first got him he changed my life. I’m a better person for having gotten to know and love him. I’ve had many dogs in my life but he is the one that changed me for the better and even cured my anxiety all those years ago. I owe everything to him. My heart is completely broken and I want to be in the room tomorrow when it happens but idk If I can handle it but I know I have to be there for him in this moment because he was there for me everytime I needed him and when I needed him most, and now he needs me to be strong for him. we decided because it wouldn’t be right to let this get to the point where he suffered and God forbid his leg breaks when we’re at work and has to lay there. that wouldn’t be fair and I honestly would never forgive myself if he ever had to endure that. I need help. he’s my beautiful baby boy and idk how I’m gonna recover from this. my mom, dad and fiance will be there and I’m also upset that it will happen at the vet because laps for live is too expensive for us to afford… how do I cope with this I’ve been a wreck this whole month but I try to remind myself that my life has been blessed for getting to love him and watch him grow. he has forever changed my life in the best of ways and I can’t wrap my head around him being gone, even more so cause his life has been shortened by this horrible disease and it all just seems so unfair. I don’t know what to do or how to be strong for him during this,. he’s the same judge he’s always been but he can’t run and play anymore because he’s leg could snap…. how do I cope with this. I know he knows how much I love him but how do I deal with this heartache
Dear Stephanie,
My heart aches for you with the loss of your beloved Judge. The pain of saying goodbye is such a heavy burden, but it was the only way to free Judge from his suffering. I wish I could spare you from the grief but that would mean never having loved a dog to the deepest parts of your heart. And the absence of that kind of love is far worse than the grief after letting go. I hope with time your heart can begin to heal. May his memory stay with you always and continue to be a blessing in your life. Wishing you brighter days ahead as you continue life’s journey. Congratulations on your new marriage. I wish you both the best. ♥
Today I had to make the most hardest decision of my life. Ruger has been my constant for 13 yrs. But Cushings won and I feel I’ve could of done more. In reality, I did what I was able to do. In order to make this decision, I started reading articles in Google and came upon Dr. Buzby’s articles, I knew that when I got home today, I needed to set my best boy free. I won’t lie, I’ve gotten angry, I’ve cried my eyes out, I’ve gone through every memory I have of him and felt selfish because I didn’t know what I’d do without him. I took a deep look into his eyes, and he told me that it’s for the best, he wasn’t going to get better and it was time to let him be at peace. My boy. He’s a master at making everything ok. Thank you Dr for being forthright and very insightful with the most honest information a pet parent could ever have to help ease the deepest pain us humans feel for our fur babies. You’re a good soul that loves animals.
Dear Debbie,
I am sorry for your loss of Ruger. I understand how heartbreaking it can be to have to make a choice to say goodbye to a beloved pup. That is the curse that comes with the blessing of loving a dog with your whole heart. I am glad you were able to have 13 years together as I’m sure you have tons of wonderful memories. I hope Ruger’s passing was peaceful and smooth. May his memory stay with you always and bring you joy. ♥
Dear Julie, thank you for this article, and comment section. I think we find ourselves amongst kindred spirits here, people who deeply loved a dog. We are making this difficult decision right now. Sophie, our beautiful 6year old Orange Roan Cocker Spaniel have been diagnosed with Lymphoma stage 4 in this week. We had to immediately let her go or choose Chemo (9months added) . She had her 1st round yesterday. She already went irreversably blind just before diagnosis. But today her eyes are filled with fluid and very very painful. We said we’ll give the chemo a bit of time, but started approaching peace. Our connection is so strong. I’m a work at home artist with her always by my side, the sweetest, brightest most loving dog, and really the one everyone comes home to. Can’t imagine her light gone. But we said that the moment we see her suffer, it’s time to say goodbye. Thank you that I can spill a bit here.
Dear Alida,
I am sorry Sophie has received this difficult diagnosis and her days are limited. There is no greater gift than to love a dog with your whole heart and ensuring they have a peaceful goodbye is just as important as giving them a happy life. I am glad you are monitoring Sophie’s quality of life and will offer her peace when the time comes. Make the most of the time you are gifted and spoil her rotten. Wishing you all comfort and strength. Bless you and your sweet girl. ♥
Today I had to make the choice to put down my 12 year old pug, Sophie. We got her as a family dog when I was 15 and a few years ago my stepmom passed, and I inherited Sophie myself. She was diagnosed with glaucoma in one eye and was on eye drops for a while but she needed eye removal. Her other eye then had a lens luxation and filled with blood. I couldn’t put her through another surgery and she was already in so much pain, so I took her in this morning and held her as she went to sleep. She has been by my side constantly, I brought her to work, to school, everywhere. I am in so much pain from this decision and am constantly wondering if I made the right call. I know I made the right call, it’s just hard to feel it when grief overcomes me.
Dear Madison,
My heart aches for you with all the loss you have endured over the past few years. I am sorry you had to say goodbye to Sophie but what a blessing you were able to offer her a peaceful passing. I am certain she knew how much you loved her and that your presence was a comfort in her final moments. I hope with time your heart can begin to heal and the grief will fade. May Sophie’s memory stay with you always and be a source of joy in your life. ♥
I’m having my 10 year old Jack Russell Cross Chihuahua put down tomorrow afternoon. He was the runt of the litter and when I took him to the vets to get registered as a pup, they told me due to his health issues, he’d probably make it to about 6 years old – so very pleased he made it another 4 years past the estimated time! He was such a loving, happy, (and definitely cheeky) boy. He was my 21st birthday present, but turned into my baby dog and number 1 best boy. He was diagnosed with really bad arthritis in November 2023 due to pancreatitis and managed to feel himself again after that passed. He has been on medication daily since then… and the vet said he’d be on this for the rest of his life. But unfortunately since this weekend, he doesn’t engage as much anymore, he doesn’t really wag his tail anymore, doesn’t get excited when I come home, nor does he bark when the doorbell rings (used to be our doorbell before anybody even pressed it). I think I knew it would be time soon, and was just waiting for all the right signs before I made the decision. I never realised how hard this would be, especially when I was prepping for it last year, so didn’t think it would be that bad. But these past couple of days, I can’t help but burst out crying. Sleep tight my little man, I hope you’re not in pain and enjoying dog heaven with all your favourite foods and toys. Forever my first born and best dog ever ❤️
Dear Lisy,
My heart aches for you with the recent loss of your beloved boy. I know you would have done anything to give him more time, but you made a loving and selfless decision to offer him peace and freedom from his struggles. I hope his passing was smooth and he was comforted by your presence. May his memory stay with you always and continue to be a blessing in your life. ♥
I’m struggling with our 15 yr old – “sweet old man” named Buster. He was diagnosed with TCC on his bladder 5 weeks ago. A week after his diagnosis our otherwise healthy 6yr old pup Ramsey suddenly went down fast on Saturday morning March 17th. I got him to the ER vet in less than an hour but by then he could barely walk, his heart rate was 70 and could barely be heard. We don’t know what could have happened and it’s heart breaking. He started to have diarrhea all at once, a high fever of 103.7, he couldn’t stand up without wobbling, couldn’t keep his head up. He didn’t respond to the bolus of fluids, so we did one more. Still did not respond. We gave cerenia shot for nausea, antibiotic shot for possible infection or sepsis, antihistamine for possible allergic reaction. No change. The ER was so busy that day (God bless those people!). By the evening he started with blood coming from his nose. He was still stable with his low heart rate and would lift his head up to acknowledge you if you came near and pet him through his oxygen chamber. Our last resort was to test for hemophilia and blood clotting. Came back borderline so we we did a blood transfusion. In the end it didn’t work. We went home while they watched him (we have four human kids and Buster was home with his new cancer diagnosis) and just after midnight we got the call that he had passed. I have so much guilt over this. We tried everything possible because in our minds he was so young and goofy and childlike. This dog literally was like a toddler! I wish I had made the decision to euthanize as soon as he did not respond to the fluids. We ended up using a med to bring his heart rate up which accelerated the now what we believe was internal bleeding hence the blood through his nose and the blood in the trach during the recessitation attempt. I haven’t slept a night since that night. Now we are deciding when to let our 15yr old pass. His cancer spread to his prostate a month after his initial diagnosis of bladder cancer. He’s tired, will only eat human food and only eating at all because he’s on a cerenia daily. He circles in our bed at night multiple times. Extends his neck out and has some irregular breathing. He pants during the day if he takes stairs or just randomly. He drools a little every morning and afternoon. I’m afraid if we wait any longer to euthanize him that he too will experience a tragic situation like Ramsey. This is so so hard. My logic tells me to let him go now when he can still enjoy walks and is still eating to avoid any future pain with this fatal disease. Do you have any advice on either Ramsey or Buster? Also Ramsey’s chest xray showed fluid or a mass in his right lung that we did not know about. But he never let us pick him up, ever. And he was was our respiratory kid even with all vacs. He also would get out of breath on walks sometimes and I figured it was just hot but he should have been able to go longer than he did. Thank you for reading this lonnnnnng comment.
Dear Lisa,
I am so sorry for your tragic loss of Ramsey and this difficult decision you are facing for Buster. I know you want to give Buster as much time as possible. It is clear he is dearly loved. I would rather say goodbye one day too early than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. It is ok to let go while there is still some joy, before all happiness is lost and the only thing that remains is pain. I will attach links to other articles with more information and great advice from other readers about how to know when it is time. As far as the circumstances surrounding Ramsey’s passing, I too am at a loss. I am not sure what the cause could have been. I am suspicious about hemangiosarcoma because of the bleeding but some of the symptoms just don’t fit well. You may never know for sure, but I hope you can find comfort in the fact that you acted quickly and got him the medical attention he needed. I am sure the staff was with him in his final moments and were offering love and support. I pray your family can remain strong as you face emotional days ahead. Bless you all. ♥
1. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
2. Bladder Cancer in Dogs: A Guide to Transitional Cell Carcinoma (TCC)
3. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
4. Dog Euthanasia: Knowing When to Say Goodbye
Thank you so very much, Dr Buzby, for these several posts relating to euthanasia, and for the great compassion you show throughout for senior dogs and their families. I especially appreciate your quality of life assessment, which I’ve found quite helpful as my husband and I approach the day to say goodbye to our rat terrier Owl. He is at least 18 yrs old and has had a magical life until the last year when arthritis has really ravaged him. I’m past ready to let him go, as I believe those long, soulful looks into my eyes are saying he’s ready. My husband doesn’t see how miserable he must surely be, though. His experience with suffering and mine have been very different. We did 3 QOL assessments separately, and yours came closest to my estimation, though all were close and we both ended with quite similar scores. Sadly, he seems to want to keep waiting, and our boy will suffer most. I’d say to anyone wrestling with this, if you think it may be time, it most likely is. Don’t wait until your dog is in misery. He deserves better, and you will have less regret.
Dear Christine,
My heart aches for you as you face this difficult situation with your senior pup and your husband. I agree with your statements about letting go sooner rather than later. I am glad you found the articles to be informative and helpful. I just wish I could offer something more or relieve a bit of your stress. Praying for your strength and comfort as you continue to navigate this emotional path. Bless you and your sweet Owl.
Struggling even with the decision my puppy is only 4 years old and hasn’t been himself since he all of a sudden start having seizures. Medicine controlled if for a little while but now he is not stable on his feet, He doesn’t interact and he is a shell of himself.
Dear Dwayne,
I am sorry you are facing this difficult decision for your young dog. I know you would do anything to give him more time, but sometimes saying goodbye is the most loving option and only way to offer a beloved pup freedom from their struggles. Hoping you can find the advice you need to make the best choice for everyone involved. Praying for clarity and strength as you navigate this emotional path ahead.
We are preparing to let our 11yr old, olde English bulldog go here soon. I have come to terms with it myself but our 15 yr old daughter is having such a hard time at the thought of it. She was 4 when we got her. Their birthdays are a day apart. I have just been trying to find resources for her to read to make this easier for her. Thanks for putting this website together. ❤️🐾Tundra Sue is our dog’s name.
Dear Jennifer,
My heart aches for you as you navigate this emotional situation with your daughter and Tundra Sue. I pray for your strength and for clarity in how to proceed. Wishing you all peace and comfort. ♥
We’re waiting here now for the vet to come. Our sweet boy Elvis has had such a decline over the past 6 months. This is so much herder than I ever thought it would be. He has his best day ever yesterday, and he has neen allowed to bring his favorite stick in today. This article is wonderful. Thank you for the post.
Dear Dan,
I am so sorry you had to say goodbye to Elvis this morning. What a blessing he was able to experience so much joy in the last couple of days (I love that he had a favorite stick ♥). May his memory live on and always bring a smile to your face.
Our sweet pug Louie was diagnosed with Hemangiosarcoma last Friday…… with multiple tumors in his liver, spleen,, kidneys and lungs.. He acts normally, eats well, sleeps well and this breaks our hearts even more.. We will enjoy every moment we can posaibly have with sweet Louie. and your blog helps so much to try to be prepared and to share the sadness and love during these most difficult times.
Dear Danica,
I am so sorry Louie has received this devastating diagnosis. My thoughts are with you as you face some difficult days ahead. Praying you can make the most of the time you are gifted and ensure your sweet boy is happy and comfortable. Wishing you strength and peace. Bless you and Louie. ♥
We recently lost our beloved Shih-Tzu Monkey after battling lymphoma more than 4 1/2 years. (What a fighter!)
I wish we would have seen this before his euthanasia, as we didn’t know about the chocolate treat and thought it was just a weird thing to suggest at such a time that was so painful to us.
I would add to the list to get photos of the whole family in the last days. Even though we knew it was near, Monkey’s end came rather suddenly and our only regret is that we didn’t get a final portrait together.
Dear Daniel,
I am so sorry for your loss of Monkey. What a blessing you were able to gain over 4 extra years together after her diagnosis! Thank you for sharing the advice about taking pictures with family. I am sure that will be very helpful to others as they face the final days with their beloved dogs. May your sadness be replaced with comfort as you think back on fond memories. Praying for healing and peace for you and your family.
I am so glad I found this article. on Thursday we will be sending my Bailey boy to doggie heaven. he is an almost 15 year old Maltese/shih tzu but has really declined in the last 6 months. He either sleeps all the time, or the extreme opposite of constantly barking. this is breaking my heart but I know it is time. I am now worried about my ava girl. she is 10 and has been around Bailey her whole life. my heart is breaking….but thank you for all of the information and the tips of forbidden foods and pictures etc …
Dear Kelly,
My heart goes out to you with the recent loss of your beloved Bailey. I am glad the article gave you some ideas on how to make his last days special. I hope Ava will adjust to this change as smoothly as possible, but she will need some time to grieve as well. Some dogs don’t show much difference after the loss of a housemate, while others can take it very hard. Here is a link to another article with more information: Do Dogs Grieve? Helping Your Dog Cope With Loss
Praying for comfort and healing for your heart. May Bailey’s memory be with you always and continue to be a blessing in your life.
I wish I would have been able to read this before my dogs euth. He stopped being able to walk all the sudden and I was afraid he was in kidney failure. It was a really bad snowstorm and his original vet closed so I had to take him to the emergency vet. I feel like I just rushed him out the door and I didn’t get any time to spend with him in the morning and he was really confused about what was going on. He had to be carried, but walked into the emergency vet a little. Back legs giving out.. He was a 10 year old, 100 pound German Shepherd, and when we got there They had to have three people hold him down in order to give him the sedation injection. She tried to place the catheter several times and he was crying in pain. Then they tried to put a muzzle on him and it was too small and he was running around the room freaking out. His last moments were not peaceful and I was really sad. We were there for 90 minutes. When they finally injected him,as he was crying in pain, l The sedation injection kicked in within 30 seconds and he was on the floor snoring really loud and seeming like he was having trouble breathing. I yelled for the doctor to please come in and just give him the euthanasia injection because I was worried he was having trouble breathing. It was not a good experience and I’m having a really hard time with it. I don’t know how often this happens. 😢
Dear Sarah,
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I wish things had been different and my heart is heavy knowing how terrible this experience was for you and your boy. Please know that after the sedation took effect, your boy was no longer scared and was at peace. Even with the ongoing chaos I am certain your presence was a comfort and that he knew how much you loved him. I hope with time the grief will begin to fade and you can take comfort in knowing you gave your big guy a wonderful life. May his memory live on and be a blessing to you. Wishing you healing and peace.
i found this page after putting my dog down a few hours ago. awake after midnight and feeling guilty and pretty sad. i know my dear vet explained things to me but i was in such a haze i couldn’t process it all at once. i wasn’t expecting the sedative to hit so hard so fast, like the story you told above. it felt like both my boy and i were caught off guard because he dimmed out before i knew what was happening. i was shocked and just kept telling him he was a good boy until the doctor said his heart stopped. maybe less than 20 seconds. i feel a lot better knowing that even if i missed giving him his peanut butter (still feel sad about that) it was the instant relief he needed, and he heard me telling him how good he is. he’ll always be a good boy. i did try to sneak him a little taste before it was too late. hopefully he found it over the rainbow bridge. thank you for this post. it has brought me comfort.
Dear Natalie,
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved boy. What a blessing his passing was so smooth and peaceful. I am glad you were with him and know your presence was a comfort. I am praying for healing for your heart. May his memory be with you always and bring you joy.
My Lupe is 15 years old and I remember the first day I saw her and I adopted her like it was yesterday. I have never had the experience of putting to sleep one of my dogs since all have them have died in there sleep. This has been the most confusing times and most difficult thing I would ever have to do tomorrow and I don’t know with what strength I would be able to do this, My Lupe has cognitive dysfunction , she is not aware anymore of her surroundings and always is in a acute state of anxiety and crying every time she wakes up from a nap. She does not recognize me or any family members and recently has lost appetite , has been incontinent while sleeping and has been experience involuntary movement and head movements ( seizures) while asleep. i have been debating with my self if to put her to sleep, I feel guilty , I feel that I am killing her and I really feel I might regret it afterwards. i am praying to God for direction and also for some peace because I don’t want to see her suffering the way she is. This article gave me some peace in the matter , this has been the worst weeks of my life and praying that I would be at peace and her without any pain.
Dear Stephanie,
My heart aches for you as you face this emotional decision for Lupe. Sometimes saying goodbye is the only way to offer a beloved pup the peace and rest they deserve. I know you would do anything to give your sweet girl more time if her quality of life was still good. But it definitely sounds like she is struggling and only you can make the selfless decision to let go and give her freedom. My thoughts are with you, and I pray for your strength and comfort. Bless you and your sweet girl. ♥
My Lulu, a beautiful 15 year old cream golden. I was blessed that i was given her when she was 9.. Her hind legs are giving out, she is blind, deaf and has dementia. We have come to the point where there are more bad days than good hours/minutes. Most of the time she doesn’t know where she is, she uses walls to walk, she will defecate while she is lying down and doesn’t realize, has fallen often- and if we are not home stuck until we get home, I had to stop her from walking over a stone wall- basically its now a rapid decline. We have an appointment to send her over the rainbow bridge in 2 days. My heart is broken. I have sobbed over each of these stories and what I am now facing. It feels wrong making the decision to end the life of a pup that I love so much. Today i looked at a video from 2 years ago where her tail is wagging, she’s playing and actually smiling. She does none of this anymore. She has lost the joy of life. I am just so grateful that this beautiful dog brought so much joy into my life. Her memory will live on with me and my family until the end of time. Thank you for the article and thank you for allowing me a place to express how i am feeling.
Dear Toni,
My heart goes out to you as you grieve the loss of your beloved Lulu. What a blessing you were able to offer her a wonderful life and a peaceful goodbye. Thank you for sharing your story with us. May Lulu’s memory bring joy to your days, and I wish you all the best as you continue life’s journey. ♥
Thank you for writing this. It made such a difference recently when navigating the heartbreaking decision on behalf of our 14.5 Border Collie, Drift.
Having his blanket, teddy and high value treats after the best day of paddling in our local river and mummy and daddy cuddles just made him so happy and settled on his last day.
Our vets and team were amazing too – Drift made so many friends everywhere he went and the outpouring of love and grief is comforting.
Thank you again – words can’t express how impactful this article was x
Dear Sam,
I am sorry for your loss of Drift. He sounds like an amazing boy, and it is clear he was dearly loved. May his memory live on and continue to be a blessing in your life. Wishing you comfort and peace as you continue life’s journey.
Thank you! We are preparing to let my 16 year old dachshund go. His health has not been the best over the past 6 months, diagnosed with sick sinus and kidney failure, now cataracts and some dementia. After some weight loss and now showing some more concerning signs, we may be letting him go in the next few days. Even though you prepare you are never really prepared. We will be giving him the best days with all his favorite things!
Dear Amy,
My heart goes out to you as you face this emotional decision for your senior boy. I think it is great you are planning some special things for him over the next few days. Make the most of each day you are gifted. Hoping his passing will be smooth and peaceful. ♥
Struggling with creating the “best last day”. That may be today. She’s dealing with kidney issues, cancer, cognitive dysfunction, mobility issues etc. And isn’t present or interested in food or normal activities. I took her to our favorite outdoor park last week and she just paced around, so I don’t think she’d enjoy that today. This is so hard
Dear Lauren,
I am so sorry your pup is in her final days. I know you want to make things special and right now that might be just spending time holding your girl and making sure she is comfortable. She is very lucky to have you taking such good care of her and being so attentive to her feelings. Wishing you both peace. Bless you and your sweet girl. ♥
My 12yo goldendoodle, Ruby, was diagnosed with a meningioma (brain tumor). She started having seizures in August and an MRI in October confirmed the diagnosis and was told 3-6 mos avg quality of life. (Grateful I had pet insurance!) Meanwhile, as the disease progresses I’ve started making arrangements for in-home euthanasia because Ruby is SO anxious leaving the house, especially at the vet. I’ve also arranged for some of her favorite people to come by and visit with her now while she is in relatively good shape (although she is social for about 5 mins before she wants to lay down). Her seizures have increased in frequency (sometimes 3 in two days and then nothing for a couple weeks) and they vary in presentation (from full body shivers to the typical seizure with paddling, foaming, etc). Other than the seizures, her wobbliness from the meds and her lethargy, she still excitedly barks at visitors, runs after a toy, loves to shred paper, actually runs to the kitchen if I mention the word “chicken”, and eats and drinks as normal. (More so, since she is on prednisone.) She is my first dog and only child. My heart is broken. I am not ready to “pull the trigger” yet. I raised her myself with support from my Mom, who is very attached to her. I worry that we will wait too long and that she will have a seizure that will require us to bring her in to the hospital and we’ve lost our ability for her peaceful home hospice and bridge crossing. The waiting for the “right time”, knowing it’s only going to get worse, is so hard. In the meantime, we love on her as much as she will allow us. Thanks for the article and for all the comments it invited. Grace and peace for all. Thanks.
Dear Stacey,
I am sorry Ruby’s health is declining and she is nearing the end of her life. I understand how difficult it can be to decide when to say goodbye. The plans you have in place to allow her final moments to be at home surrounded by those she loves most sound ideal. I hope it comes to pass just as you wish. Praying for you and your mother as you navigate this emotional path. Wishing you comfort and peace. ♥
Hi Stacey,
I read you story and I really feel you – my Cara, a female Cane Corso 9,5 years old, has also a brain tumor and is on prendisolone among other drugs. What you describe is exactly the same for us regarding her behavior and condition, which makes it oh so difficult to make the decision, the only difference is that she had only a small seizure. You are not alone, and I am happy I am not also. 💜🙏
Dear Stefania,
My heart goes out to you as you navigate this difficult path. Wishing you comfort and peace. Bless you and your sweet Cara.
Hi Stefania – Thank you for the kind and validating response. Sorry I didn’t respond sooner. Also sorry about your pup’s similar situation. I hope Cara’s seizures have lessened or remain small. Tip: We recently discovered that placing a light blanket over her when she is paddling seems to settle her. (The first blanket we tried a couple times was too light. The medium was still light, just not weighty at all. It had more substance to it.) Every dog is different, and it may not work or be appropriate every time, but more often than not it has helped us. We have “set the date” for Ruby – 2/26/24.. I’m gutted but getting used to the idea. Mom is still in denial. Would be great to stay connected. DM me if you’d like. Sending light and love to you and Cara.
i stumbled across your page as I was trying to find some ways to help with the horrible pain I am in. On Friday afternoon, my 14 yr old golden will be put down. I’m an absolute wreck at the idea of not having Nugget around to greet me when i come home to come looking for me after she has been outside, no toys around, the cats not trying to eat her food… everything! This isn’t my first time, but she’s my oldest and the absolute best dog! My heart is shattered, but I know I can’t selfishly avoid this and allow her to suffer. Im going to take her favorite toy and some chocolate for her to enjoy as her last treat. Thank you for sharing!
Dear Stephanie,
I am so sorry for your loss of Nugget. I hope her passing was peaceful and she found joy in her last moments. I am certain your presence was a comfort, and she knew how much she was loved. May her memory live on and be a blessing in your life. ♥
I’ve been gone for some time, but now I remember why I used to love this site. Thank you, I will try and check back more frequently. How frequently do you update your blog?
Hi Codi,
Thank you for the positive feedback about the site! New articles are published 2 to 3 times each week.
My dog Kirby is 12 started having issues in June and that’s when I learned she has a failing heart. She seemed to be doing fine until about 2 months ago, and since then she has been declining so fast. The part that angers me is that she is losing all her fur and is constantly itching. She clearly has a low quality of life from it and barely moves anymore. Kirby has been my best friend and I don’t remember much without her by my side. Everything I’ve done lately has been in sadness, I can’t do anything without thinking of her. I’m always told to keep loving on her and to not think about the end, but I can’t not think about it. I am devastated to lose her, but I know she is ready to go. I’m not a very religious person but it’s people and dogs like her that make me hope heaven really is real.
I’ll always love you kirby❤️
Dear Connor,
I am sorry Kirby’s health is failing and she is nearing the end of her days. It is clear you love her dearly and she has been an important part of your life. I pray her passing will be smooth and peaceful. Wishing you strength to continue forward and comfort for your heart. ♥
My wife and I are preparing for an emotional road ahead as we prepare to say goodbye to our wonderful baby Dakota. She is a 10 year old Husky and the absolute sweetest best friend I have ever had! I’m tearing up as I write this. She has recently been diagnosed with nasal adenocarcinoma, a malignant tumor in her nasal cavity. It’s already blocked one side of her nose and is causing her trouble breathing. I know what to expect. We’ve had to euthanize one of our Malamutes years ago shortly after we got Dakota. My wife however has a very hard time with it. She says it is murder and feels all the guilt. All the unknowns you mentioned in this article is what she feels and I don’t know how to make her realize that it is the most important gift we can give, even though the loss we go through is agonizing. I pray she does not suffer silently in the coming weeks/months, however long she has remaining.
Dear Chris,
I am so sorry you are facing this difficult situation with Dakota. I know what an emotional decision this can be and understand why your wife is struggling. I will attach links to other articles with more information and great comments from other readers. Maybe you will find something that will be exactly what your wife needs to hear to put her mind at ease. Praying for comfort for sweet Dakota and wishing you strength and peace.
1. In-Home Dog Euthanasia: Heartfelt Answers to 12 FAQs
2. Grieving the Loss of a Dog After Euthanasia (& Finding Peace)
3. Dog Euthanasia: Knowing When to Say Goodbye
4. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
5. Dog Hospice Care Can Bring Peace and Dignity to Your Dog’s Final Days
I am saying goodbye to Sasha, after 13 years of live and joy. My heart is breaking for me, but she will feel so much better. It will be Wed 12/ 20.
Dear Louise,
I am sorry you will be saying a final goodbye to your beloved Sasha this upcoming Wednesday. Praying her passing will be smooth and peaceful. Wishing you strength and comfort for the days ahead. ♥
Thank you so much for this article. Our 7yr old mini schnauzer was diagnosed with Mega Esophagus and struggling so much. She was just recently diagnosed with IBD as well and her quality of life is rapidly diminishing and so heartbreaking for us. We’ve tried everything, but I have tremendous guilt about whether I actually did enough for her and if we’re giving up too soon. Your article was very helpful about what to expect. Thank you!
Dear Julia,
I can understand why you are conflicted and am sorry you are facing such a difficult decision. I am glad the article was helpful and offered you comfort. Wishing you clarity and peace as you make a way forward. Bless you and your sweet girl.
I have just lost my darling eleven year old whippet Lucy,on New Year’s Day, I took her to the emergency vets out of hours appointment at 8am after phoning the surgery. Little Lucy a kind loving little whippet . She walked into the vets and was greeted by a vet who promptly took her off of me, lifting her up swiftly, and said someone would contact me in about 2 hours. I went home and waited they phoned early afternoon saying they would do an ultrasound and that she had perked up since being on the drip, she was very dehydrated. I waited until late afternoon when they phoned to say that she was very ill and that I should come to see her as she wouldn’t last much longer. When I got there she was laying in a crate completely out of it, still on the drip. One of the Vet Now vets said she had a tumour on her spleen and that she should be put to rest. After going into a lot of details. I agreed broken hearted. I knelt by her stroking her telling what a good girl she was. I just can’t get over it, I’m 79 yrs . Old.
Dear Jean,
I am so sorry for your tragic loss of Lucy. What a blessing you were able to be with her during her final moments. I am certain your presence was a comfort and that she knew how much you loved her. I can only imagine how much you miss her. It is amazing how deeply the love of a dog can penetrate out lives. Praying for comfort and peace as you continue life’s journey. Bless you. ♥
Thank you so much for this article.
My little French Bulldog Bella is my heart and everything! She is 12 years old.
In 2020 she lost her sight … in beginning of 2022 she started soiling and suffering incontenice …. Come back to a house of mess every time go out. She struggles to walk with her back legs giving in and drags them but can get around … lost some hearing.
After two years of contemplating … athe vet says not best quality of life but up to me … the worst decision to make. I’m crying non stop. I made an appointment for next Monday. I don’t know if making right decision … I’m devastated and full of guilt if too soon. I just don’t know what to do. I love her so much!
She is so special and has accomplished so much in her life being a tv and commercial star!
I can’t stop crying! She still eats and seems okay but struggles with walking and soiling
Dear Michelle,
I am so sorry you are facing this difficult decision for Bella. I know you would do whatever it takes to give her more time, but sometimes saying goodbye is the most loving option and it may be the only way to offer her freedom from her struggles. I know Monday will bring very strong emotions. I pray Bella’s passing will be smooth and peaceful. Wishing you strength and comfort for the days ahead. ♥
I am in the same position and my dog has the same condition and issues yours had. I totally get it and have been bawling all morning.
My dog of 8 years Biggie was diagnosed with Hemangiosarcoma. Biggie had surgery last week to remove his left kidney, spleen, and softball size tumor.
Biggie is my first dog that I have owned, has been through it all with me in these past 8 years.
After reading about Hemangiosarcoma, the future is very short, yet Biggie’s energy and signs of lift beg to differ. I am giving him Yunnan Baiyao, turkey tail, and other herbal supplements to help on any preventive hopes of any kind of healthy, happy longevity.
I pray that Biggie lives longer than what everything is saying, and I pray that he most importantly is not in any sort of pain at all..
Biggie has been the biggest blessing to me, but also all of my family and friends throughout these years…I cannot believe that this is even happening, and I am being strong for him since he was so strong for me.
My prayers forever are with Biggie, and every other dog owner going through these tough stages of our dogs lives.
Dear Jesse,
I am sorry Biggie has received this devastating diagnosis. What a blessing the surgery was able to give him a better quality of life and restore his energy and joy. Make the most of the time you are gifted. Enjoy each day and go make some wonderful memories. Wishing you both comfort and peace. Bless you and your sweet boy.
Hi
Thanks so much for your article. And a lot of the comments have helped me ease my guilt. I read another article with the quote “rather a month too early than a day too late”. This is our second time doing this with a senior dog. Our almost 10 year old Basset, Watson. It’s been a weird ride owning a Basset after only ever having Terriers. I’ve been struggling with guilt, having made the decision. Even though I know he hasn’t been really living for the past 6 months. I kept telling myself he’s always been lazy, but now I can’t deny the weight and hair loss anymore. He’s just doing the basics. Sleeping, bathroom activities, drinking and eating. That’s it. He doesn’t play or run anymore. His barely notices his pack anymore.
I just want to thank you for this article.
Love from South Africa
Dear Thea-Marie,
My heart goes out to you as you make this emotional decision for Watson. Allowing your own heart to break so your sweet boy can find rest is the ultimate act of selfless love. Praying his passing will be smooth and peaceful. Wishing you comfort and strength. ♥
Our lil’ fella Ozzie (chihuahua) has stage 4 arthritis. He can’t walk or stand anymore. He stopped playing with his beloved Joe Otter months ago. We feed him while he is laying down in his bed and he won’t drink water, so we give him chicken broth which he barely drinks. He now cries at night while we are watching tv on the couch because he just wants to go to our bed where he feels most comfortable and safe. He’s still so loving and he enjoys being snuggled gently.. As I write this I’m realizing we have to do this (put him to sleep) but I feel so guilty.
Dear Kathy,
My heart aches for you as you face this emotional decision for Ozzie. Praying for your strength and peace as you face the days ahead. Bless you and your sweet boy.
Wow, I wish I had found this article before our appointment.
Our euthanasia appointment felt like such a betrayal.
We did choose to do an in-office appointment, because Link was extremely anxious and had stranger danger fear and aggression, especially as his neurological condition deteriorated. He loved his vet and their office. He was never anxious there. I thought I prepared and did everything right. I spoke to the vet many times because we knew we wanted a necropsy due to his rare illness. I never asked specific details about the euthanasia itself, though, because I assumed they would handle it with respect and comfort in mind.
The entire experience, from the beginning, was horrible for both Link and my husband and myself. We originally had a regular appointment scheduled, but we realized his deterioration, and called the vet the day before to change it to Euthanasia. I then even called the morning of because we were still on the fence about maybe doing in home, but they told us none of the in-home vets were available, so we told them that we would definitely be there for the in-office appointment for euthanasia, then.
When I arrived, I had to stand in the packed lobby, sobbing, for well over 5 minutes. I noticed the little candle they have for euthanasias, asking people to be quiet when lit, wasn’t lit. When I was finally greeted, the receptionist asked me chipperly “you’re here for bloodwork?” Me, still sobbing: “No, we are here to put Link to sleep.” It was so hard and painful to utter those words in that moment. I should have left right then. I should have realized how underprepared they were. But I was too scared of having to endure this pain again. I waited in the car, and they brought us in the back, as they always do, because of his dog reactivity. Instead of leading us to the exam room, though, I was shocked to see a towel and syringes laying on the table in the middle of the room. This wide open room, people are passing in and out of. The surgery room, where dog kennels are stacked on the wall, and full of dogs. Right beside my dog reactive dog who we are about to have euthanized.
The worst part, though, was the process itself. The veterinarian pushed the euthanasia solution before I even had a chance to lower Link to the ground from the sedation. She declared that his heart had stopped just seconds later, before I had even had a moment to utter a word to him. I never even got to say goodbye.
Then, despite all of my calls, and arrangements, they made my husband handle the worst part of preparing for the necropsy. They didn’t put Link in a body bag, and my husband had to pour ice over his lifeless body himself. Driving two hours with him in our car was heartbreaking enough, but this just added so much more pain.
I have an immense amount of respect for veterinarians and I can’t imagine how painful this part of the job is, but I’m so very disappointed in how this went. I honestly thought that I might have just perceived things wrong, due to the stress, but my husband is a physician, and watched directly as she did the injections. There was no time between the first and the second.
I appreciate this thoughtful article, and I will make sure to share it with anyone I know who is facing this.
Dear Diana,
This absolutely breaks my heart. I just have no words. I wish I could go back and change this experience for you but know that is not possible. Even though things did not go as you or I would have hoped, I am comforted knowing your boy did not suffer and feel certain your presence was a comfort to him in his final moments. Thank you for being willing to share your experience here. It may save someone else from a similar situation and give them the knowledge and confidence to advocate for different choices and circumstances. It is clear Link was well loved and I have no doubt he knew. I hope with time your heart will heal and you can focus on all the good times you shared. May his legacy live on and be a blessing in your life. ♥
My cocker spaniel was pts monday 6th November 2023 – it was an awful experience, nothing like what was promised. My dog had CCD and whether this contributed to it, I’m unsure but think the vet should have taken it into consideration.
We were advised he would be sedated before the IV was inserted but when they turned up at our house and explained it all, they said that sedating would mean the vein would be difficult to find and anyway the IV insertion will be straightforward., he will hardly feel anything.
Well the look of distress and pleading for it to stop in my dog’s eyes as the vet attempted to insert the catheter is something that will haunt me to my dying day. Botched attempts in one leg and then the vet finally gave him a sedative in his rump but I didn’t think he waited long enough for ity to take effect before trying the other leg as the response was the same// It went in there in the end but again my boy was in such pain..
We spent 13 years caring for him and our last ‘act of love’ to give him peace is now how we remember hist last minutes of life. We felt we had to rush the remainder of the procedure just to give him the peace he deserved.
We failed him in his last moments and we will bear the scars of that for the rest of our lives.
Dear KC,
My heart breaks for you with this tragic experience you have endured. I wish I could take these memories away and replace them with comfort, but I know that will only come with time. Please know that after the medication finally took effect, your boy was no longer afraid or feeling any pain. I am certain he knew how much you loved him and that your presence was a comfort in his final moments. I pray for healing and peace for your heart. May his memory bring joy to your days and continue to be a blessing in your life. ♥
Hi Julie,
My dog Cameron is 15 years old and he suffers from Sundown Dementia, which makes him very anxious in the evenings. Physically he’s fine, and he still gets excited about going out for a walk and getting a treat, however he no longer wants to sit or lay with us like he used to.
During he evening he just walks about the house in circles and makes hi-pitched anxious noises.
Unfortunately, the way he is at the moment is causing issues between my wife and myself.
My wife just doesn’t have the patience to handle Cameron in the evenings, and sometimes neither do I. It’s causing us to have arguments and a strain on our relationship.
I know that putting a pet to sleep is about easing their pain and suffering and I feel so selfish for even thinking about it, but there are times when I think I should just say goodbye now before he gets worse, but also because it would end the arguments and tension.
Do you have any advice or has anyone else come to you with the same issue?
Dear Daniel,
I am so sorry you are in this difficult situation with Cameron. Yes, there are countless others dealing with this exact same issue and feeling much like you and your wife. You are definitely not alone and your concerns about the quality of life for EVERYONE involved are valid. The most important thing for a dog is the human-animal bond. Unfortunately, dementia alone can break this bond and then when you add in the frustration of becoming a caretaker it often suffers greatly. I know you would never choose euthanasia out of convenience, but that is not at all how I see your situation. Cameron is struggling daily with confusion, anxiety, and restlessness. I honestly think the suffering caused by mental disease is just as bad (if not worse) as physical disease. It is ok to say goodbye while there is still some joy left instead of waiting till all happiness is gone and the only thing that remains is suffering and pain. We focus on giving them a great life and can forget that a peaceful goodbye is just as important. I will attach links to other articles with many comments from other readers just like yourself. I hope you will find the advice and guidance you need to make a decision with which you can be at peace. Praying for your strength and comfort as you navigate this emotional path. Bless you all. ♥
1. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
2. Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
3. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
Julie & Daniel, this was an incredibly helpful article and response to read. My family has made the very difficult decision to put our sweet 16 year old Brady to sleep in a couple weeks. Like Cameron, he too gets excited for treats and even still has zoomies, but he paces in circles, limps on walks, and frequently has accidents in the middle of the night. I no longer live at home, so this has all come down on my parents and been very difficult for them. I have felt a sense of frustration and guilt as it seemed that my parents came to this decision to ease their lives. Although I am heartbroken, I can now see that maybe it really is better to let him go before he experiences any more pain. Thank you. ❤️
Dear Maddie,
My heart goes out to you as you face this emotional decision for Brady. I know the idea of saying goodbye is painful, but it may be the only way to offer your sweet boy freedom from his struggles. Praying for your strength and comfort and wishing you peace. ♥
I’m reading this with tears in my eyes, and waiting for my girl’s emergency appointment with her vet in the morning. My American Eskimo, Sheena, turned 15 in September and I knew I would only have so much longer. She’s been pacing a lot at night in the past 6 months, and getting anxious. She has been stumbling more and more recently, and today when I got home from work she could hardly walk. She’s favoring a back leg, and while I hope it’s a simple thing to remedy, I’m steeling myself and trying to remain realistic. I’ve let go my other 2 seniors in the past 2 years, one just this past May, and my vet and I have an agreement that I’m not interested in prolonging my babies’ lives just because the end is hard. I know at her age there’s only so much that can be done, even for ‘simple’ things. Even then, the guilt and wondering if I’m not trying hard enough is there. I know grief has a funny habit of lying to us in this way, so I try to be mindful. But I think of my sweet girl Sheena, when I rescued her at 5 weeks old, and how I could hold her in both hands she was so small. And I just fall apart.
Hi Rachel,
My heart breaks for you and for the pain you are experiencing. Losing a beloved dog who has been part of your life for the past 15 years is so difficult. You are making the most loving and merciful choice for her that you can—the choice to set her free from her failing body. I hope that you were able to have a peaceful goodbye yesterday and that you can find some comfort in knowing what a wonderful life she had with you. ❤️
This site has been incredibly helpful as I’ve been faced with the agonizing decision to let my elderly dogs go, three times in the last 2 years.
To be honest, I’ve not had the smoothest experience with the euthanasia process and I have so much pain and guilt from it.
I just let go of my 15 year old pug Rosie on 11/30. She was unable to do anything on her own anymore, and the day I made the decision, she couldn’t even sit herself upright. She seemed dizzy all week, another bout with vestibular symptoms. Rosie was blind, making those symptoms so much harder to deal with. She was eating laying down that day. She didn’t even seem to be excited over food (chicken nuggets) her favorite… 😔
I didn’t want her to suffer. I took her to a vet in hopes maybe there was something else they could do. Her body was just so tired.
She seemed to be at peace at the vet’s office – almost like she was surrendering. She didn’t love the vet, so that was maybe a cue from her that she was ready. The vet didn’t think there was anything else they could do, so I knew what I had to do.
Where I am struggling most is how the procedure happened this time. She was not administered a sedative, just given the euthanasia drug in her abdomen. They didn’t want to poke around her arm over concerns that would be painful because she was dehydrated. Everything I’m reading says that euthanasia drug hurts or burns going in. It took her what felt like a few minutes to drift off…she sat up at first and looked scared for a moment before relaxing. Did she suffer? Did she hurt when the drug went in? Were her last moments scary and painful?
She was in my arms the whole time. I never left her side, telling her she could let go now and how much I love her. I just wanted her to be at peace and not hurt anymore – these last few years have been hard for her health-wise. I am so scared that I caused my sweet girl pain and suffering in her final moments. I’m devastated.
Dear Ariana,
It is clear that you love Rosie very much, and always did the best for her, even in the middle of difficult end-of-life decisions. It is really tough to see our pets in pain. You saw that she was struggling, and knew it was kind to set her free. She was lucky to have you caring for her! As far as the procedure itself, there are many different ways to peacefully help a dog pass. Each vet has preferences, and each pet’s illness may require different choices. Sometimes a vet will place an IV catheter, while other times that would be too stressful. Sometimes the pet needs sedation or pain medication first. But every situation is different, and I’m sure Rosie’s vet made the decisions they did with her best interests in mind, and based on how she looked and what her body was going through at that time. When euthanasia medication is given under the skin, it can sting, but giving the medication in the abdomen (IP) is different than under the skin, so it may not have caused any discomfort. When we give sedation, sometimes it can sting too, but only for a brief moment before the meds start to kick in. If sedation isn’t given as the first step, Euthanasia medication causes sedation first, then deep anesthesia, followed by passing in that deep sleep. I imagine that if Rosie had a funny look on her face, she was likely feeling the beginning effects of the sedation. This can happen when sedation is given under the skin as well. The most important thing is that you were there with Rosie, so your smell and your presence brought her comfort as the medication started to take effect. Dogs are good at sensing our intentions, and I’m sure Rosie knew you were taking care of her in the best way possible. I hope that this helps a bit, and that your heart finds peace and comfort, even on the difficult days. Bless you. ♥
Daniel, I am so sorry you and your family are facing this. I found this article this morning for this same reason. Our wonderful Westie Ian has had dementia for years but still enjoyed (and sometimes still enjoys) life. But he is getting more confused, paces more and more, sometimes for hours each night even with sedation. I am already doing all dog feeding, medications, and urine cleanup since I work from home. This morning Ian is having some diarrhea, and needed his bed cleaned and a bath. My partner and I started yelling at each other, he was late to work because he stayed to help with the bathing. And he is angry that I want to let Ian go before he is visibly physically hurting, while he still enjoys treats and rubs. He is deaf and mostly blind, but he still knows our smell and touch. I also feel guilty, especially for being so frustrated. I’m not mad at Ian, I love him so much, but it’s terrible to hear him crash around at night. My partner says it would be easier if he was clearly physically suffering. I wish clarity and comfort for all of us.
Hi Alistair,
Dementia can certainly take a large toll on our dogs, and on their caretakers too. All the cleaning up, medications, lack of sleep, etc can get to be a lot, and it isn’t unusual for frustrations to mount. It doesn’t mean that you or your partner love Ian any less or resent him for the results of his disease. It is just hard sometimes, and those feelings are natural. Caretaker fatigue in dog owners is real, and it is a topic that my friend Dr. Woodruff is going to be addressing on the blog soon. All this to say, you are not alone in how you feel, and it is nothing to be ashamed of or feel guilty for.
In terms of the right timing for euthanasia, it is a personal decision and one that is important to be unified on. Yes, like your partner said, it is sometimes easier to make that decision when you can see the physical suffering. But mental suffering from dementia is suffering too, and it can significantly impact a dog’s quality of life even if the dog isn’t painful. I’ll include a link to an article that addresses the timing of euthanasia for dogs with dementia more specifically. Hopefully it will help give you the clarity you and your partner are seeking.
Thinking about you as you make these tough decisions.
Here is that link:
Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
Thank you for this article. We just had to let our sweet jack russell of 15 years go 4 days ago and I’m trying to let go of the doubt and “what ifs”. We were on vacation and he was staying with our in laws. The morning on the day we were returning, he fell off the bench he was napping on and injured his spine rendering him paralyzed. They brought him to the emergency vet where they administered methodone to manage his pain and gave him an anti inflammatory that would last 24 hours, and he was able to go home with them with gabapentin so we could meet him at their home. He was so anxious and in pain. He already had a heart condition that he took meds for and his kidneys were not in the best shape so we were limited with what we could do for him. We were told a surgery for his spine would cost between $8000-$12000 and he wasn’t likely to survive it based on his age and heart condition. We held him for the next 2 days giving him gabapentin to try and manage his pain while we came to the acceptance that we had no choice but to let him go. It was the most painful thing we had to do but we couldn’t let him suffer anymore. He had a special last day where he ate an epic meal and spent time outside being held and walked around to enjoy the sunshine. Then we brought him in and he was sedated to take him out of pain so that he could fall asleep slowly in my arms while we kissed him and told him how much we loved him. He was the most special dog to me and I will always love him. Rest in peace Pthalo until I see you again.
Dear Ari,
My heart aches for you with your recent loss of Pthalo. What a terrible tragic accident! I am so sorry for how things developed but what a blessing your sweet boy was with family who took such good care of him till you could make it back home. I definitely think you made the right call in offering him peace and rest instead of pursuing surgery. It sounds like his passing was smooth and I am certain your presence was a comfort. May his memory live on and bring you joy as you continue life’s journey. Hoping with time your heart will heal. Bless you. ♥
This is an excellent article and very empathetic.
My amazing dog, Moxie, lived to be almost 17. I had a traveling hospice care vet treating her the last year and a half of her life. I was privileged to be able to do so. Moxie seemed to have degenerative disc disease and was in a lot of pain. She then began to lose her vision and hearing and was circling at night and getting scared. Periodically, though she zoomed around the yard, even the day before her death from kidney failure. She also enjoyed being with me.
She ended up taking Meloxicam, Gabapentin, and CBD oil. I was able to give her accupuncture and heat treatments for pain, and some IV fluids. I carried around at times, but have a large flat backyard. She lost about 7 pounds in the end but gradually.
She left on a beautiful, sunny June day on my back screened-in porch with the trees gently blowing in the wind. I talked to her and sang to her on her large Tempurpedic bed. I thanked her and told her she was all done and that she had done a good job. I was looking into her eyes and singing the little song I made up about her and had sung for over 16 years.
One tear appeared in her eye – the one facing me. The vet said that she could not explain it because it was not from the medication and Moxie had no fluid left. She told me just to take it as her saying goodbye. I was so surprised.
This wonderful dog comforted me in so many ways as I adopted a child from Russia who could be violent. Also, she was a big presence. She appeared to be mostly Sky Terrier. She was a gorgeous white and appricot dog who had a big personality and was silly, loyal, loving, fun, engaging, loving, and fierce. Everything I aspire to be. We have many Moxie things – I have a ring and pillows with her face on it and so much more. She was wonderful. Everyone found her to be amazing and unique. People knew I would be devastated so I received many cards, flowers, and gifts.
I found another rescue dog, Willow, who lived outside for over four years under bad conditions. Moxie was found roaming the streets and had been shot five times. Willow is so loving and cuddly – she is part Border Collie and she holds hands, sits on me, cuddles, and is so attuned to me that she comes to reassure me every time I cough. I tell her that Moxie made a place for her. I have had Willow for three years now and I can still cry about Moxie.
Dogs are all love and are amazing creatures that we have the privilege to escort through life.
I will always have a dog now no matter the pain of each loss. I recently turned 60 and my dog is my best friend, and I have a wonderful job at a global think tank to end my career and do media work, write, speak, interact with famous people, and travel but home with my dog is the best place to be.
Thank you for the work that you do.
Dear Alina,
This is such a beautiful story of Moxie’s life. Thank you for sharing her legacy with us. There is absolutely nothing that compares to the love of a dog. I am glad you have Willow by your side as you continue life’s journey. Wishing you all the best for many happy years ahead. Bless you both. ♥
Hi. Thank you for this article, it doesn’t make the task any easier but it’s nice to be informed. We are at the final stage of our dogs 14-year life. She has bone cancer in her front shoulder and barely uses that leg at all. Our local vet has given us meds for her pain, but they don’t seem to do much. It’s so hard as dogs don’t show pain the way humans do. I have lost several dogs over my life, but this is my wife’s first dog, and she is beside herself. I love that there are companies that will come to your house to do this as it’s less stress on everyone. Thank you again for this article. Daisy will be missed.
Dear Keanan,
My heart aches for you as you prepare to say goodbye to Daisy. I hope her passing will be smooth and she will find comfort in having those who love her most by her side. Praying for healing and peace for you and your wife. Bless you all. ♥
My dogs is 7 yrs 4 months she is being out to sleep tomorrow. She has epilepsy and onset doggy dementia which has lead to self injurious behaviour. I’m wracked with guilt and I keep having people ask me if I’ve exhausted all avenues. I have epilepsy myself and i would like someone to do me the kindness if I lose my faculties, my son also had seizures and 2 brain tumours. I would never approach this lightly after 6yrs of meds not working I feel there’s no other option. I hope she doesn’t hate me and that the rainbow 🌈 bridge does exist. I’ve given her forbidden foods and she’s having a long walk with the dog Walker this afternoon. I want tomorrow to never come but equally come soon so I can properly grieve. I miss her already
Dear Kirsty,
I am so sorry you had to make this emotional decision for your pup. I cannot think of a more selfless act of love than to allow your own heart to break so your sweet girl could find freedom from her suffering. Wishing you peace for your heart. May the memories of all the good times you shared be a blessing and stay with you always.
Thank you for this information. I’m sorry for Ann those who have posted about the decision to euthanized their pet. I made that decision last Friday for my my 15 year 7 month old, precious dog. I wish I had given her a sedative orally before we left for the vet. I didn’t like the catheter being put in before she received a sedative, especially since they took to a different room to do it. She was upset to leave me. I was too)
Dear Pamela,
I am so sorry for the recent loss of your senior girl. May her memory live on and be a blessing in your life. ♥
Thank you so much for your article! My 10.5 yo GSD/Red Heeler Mix boy has Cushing’s Disease and has been having a harder time getting up the stairs. We used to take daily 3 mile walks but those have proven too long for him. He still loves his booty rubs and mama time. He was the cutest little ball of fur at the rescue as a puppy. He looked like a little fox and I was a goner from then on. My grandson tried to love on him (as a toddler does) and my dog nipped at him and got him in the face requiring 4 stitches. We took him in to euthanize him and were told by our vet that we had to wait two weeks due to it being a dog bite. I am completely heartbroken! I plan on bringing our other dog with us (9.5 yo) so he doesn’t wonder why his brother didn’t come home. This situation sucks!😭😭😭
Dear Kathleen,
My heart goes out to you with the recent loss of your beloved pup. I hope his passing was peaceful and smooth. Praying your other dog is handling things well and starting to adjust. Wishing you comfort and healing for your heart. May the memories of the good days be a blessing. ♥
On August 2, we had to make the horrible decision to put down our 7.5 year old collie. He was playing in the backyard and collapsed. When we got to him, we noticed his gums were pure white and he was panting. We took him to the ER vet where they said they could not let him go home because he would die. His heart was enlarged and swimming in fluid and his abdomen was full of fluid. They said we could transfer him to a different hospital a half hour away for surgery, but he probably wouldn’t make it through the anesthesia. They said it was likely cancer, but wouldn’t know unless the fluid was drained, but the majority of cases turned out to be a very aggressive cancer. We chose to humanely euthanize him instead of making him suffer, or risking him dying under anesthesia without us there. Now, a month later, I feel so much guilt that we should’ve tried harder because he was so young. I miss him so much and I feel like a part of me died right along with him.
Dear Laura,
My heart aches for you with the tragic loss of your Collie. I know you wanted to give him every chance, but I agree that letting him go was the most loving choice. The cancer the vet suspected (hemangiosarcoma) is nasty and even with surgery only allows a couple months survival time in the best cases. I cannot think of a more selfless act of love than to allow your own heart to break so that your sweet boy could be free from his suffering. May his memory be with you as you continue life’s journey and hoping it is a source of joy and comfort. ♥
Two days ago I made the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make.. i thought id have a little more time. a week ago he randomly started to bleed from his mouth so i took him to my vet. i thought he just bit his tongue or he hurt a tooth. he had a mass high up in his gum that i didnt know was there. They did blood work and they were going to do a biopsy a week later. the blood work came back and i was told his kidneys were shutting down. i had no idea. i did notice he drank a little more water recently but its been so hot here I didnt think too much about it.. he seemed to be in pain so I got some meds for him but they weren’t working. I called the vet and let him know that the pain meds weren’t working so the vet wanted to see him right away. they gave him 2 shots. one for pain and an anti inflammatory one. they pushed up his surgery date by 2 days. the day of his surgery to see what was happening. the vet took x-rays and did his biopsy. the vet called and said it was cancer and it spread into his jaw. the vet had me come back amd we decided I wouldn’t wake him up just to put him to sleep. it would be selfish of me to do that to him so I said goodbye to my best friend of 16 years. my bichon Franky. I knew it was time and the kind right thing to do. I’d always want just one more day but his last day here he wasn’t himself. he wouldn’t come to me he would just stare at me. every time he step on something or hurt himself he look at me to help fix it amd I couldn’t fix this. there a huge hole in my heart. I feel so lonely without my best friend. I love you so much Franky and I hope amd pray I get to see you again.
Dear Diane,
My heart aches for you with your tragic loss of Franky. I know that was a very difficult decision to make but it was certainly a loving and selfless choice. I am sure your pup knew how much he meant to you and that your presence during his final days was a comfort. May his memory be with you always and bring you happiness and joy. ♥
Thank god for angels like you. I’m trying to prepare for the passing of my 8 years old JRT, he’s a puppy at heart, however he has a tumour on his pituitary glad, he’s had radiation treatment and has done very well for the past 12 months, however the mass is growing again and it’s breaking my heart, he’s the most loving, caring best friend I’ve ever had. He’s doing ok at the moment but the Oncologist has given him 3/6 months survival. So everyday is a special day, bringing him to his happy place with his twin Copper the beach, they have so much fun. He medication slows him down but he does his best and is shears wagging his tail with those living eyes. When this dreaded day comes I know it will be such a sad day for us and cooper but a heavenly release for Jake. He’s such the perfect dog and he doesn’t know he is I’ll, so one day at a time. Once his pain is controlled to the point where he’s gone beyond that he will travel to rainbow bridge from home surrounded by his loving family. ❤️🌈🐶 we are heartbroken to be loosing our beautiful brown eyed baby boy 💕😭 A spark will leave a massive void in our wee family, our Beautiful Jake! 🐾🐶❤️ thank you for your love, care and compassion
Hi Charlie,
My heart goes out to you. It is clear how special Jake is to you and Copper, and I know he will be greatly missed. It is wonderful that he is still feeling good right now and able to enjoy having fun at the beach. I love your approach to making every day special for him and hope you are able to have many more special days before that dreaded day when you say the final farewell. Thinking about you as you treasure the moments you have with your special boy and do your best to prepare your heart for eventually losing him. ❤️
I’m so thankful for this article and to everyone for sharing their stories. We are faced with this decision. Oreo is my first pet. He was my husbands and I had only been in his life for seven out of his 14 years.
I truly appreciate the advice of one day sooner over over one day later and will carry that with me.
Oreo, our 70lb lab mix, had lost his hearing as well as vision over the last two years. His back legs are weak and we had been carrying him up and down stairs for almost two years. He was crying out in extreme distress yesterday and the vet told us it is neurological. There are tests that could pin point the issue. We have discussed we don’t want him kept at the hospital and surgery is not an option at his age and condition. What quality of life will he still have?
We took him home for palliative care but I question the benefit of this. He still has his appetite, so will will be bringing his favorite off limit foods when the time comes. He is comforted when I’m around so this makes me feel like I’m letting him down. But he looks so scared and confused a lot of the time. The meds is making him even more lethargic. I know this can be prolonged any further. But I’m so heart broken.
I feel blessed to have him in my live and I know deep down this is the right thing to. I just struggle with the when.
Hi Kitty,
Oreo sounds like such a special dog, and it is clear how much you love him. Deciding when to set a dog free can be so challenging, and there isn’t ever going to be one right moment. Instead, there is a range of times in which euthanasia may be the kindest choice. Some people choose to let their dog go early in that window, knowing that things are only going to get worse, and wanting to skip over those parts. Others prefer to wait a bit and savor the time they have as long as their dog is still comfortable. Both are acceptable decisions.
I hope it becomes clear to you when the right time is to say your final goodbye to Oreo. Thinking about you as you grieve the loss of your sweet boy. ❤️
Thank you so much for posting this article. I will have to be putting my cat down soon and this helps me a lot!! Honestly had no idea what to expect! We are getting closer every day. The good days are getting less and less. It’s definitely hard to figure out when one should do it. I don’t want her to suffer, but yet it’s hard to let them go! 🙁
Dear Kelly,
My thoughts are with you as you face the difficult days ahead. Praying you will know when the time is right and that your sweet girl will pass peacefully. Wishing you strength and comfort. Bless you.
Thank you for the info on your blog. I found it useful as we have to put our family dog Raffles to sleep tonight. He was with us when we were single, married and through the birth of our four kids. The most loyal and affectionate dog there ever was. His body is riddled with lumps of cancer and he has not eaten in 4 days. I keep thinking that he’s just eaten something that doesn’t agree with him like he often did, but vet x rays have confirmed he won’t survive this. His breathing and energy levels are fading. He is 15 and a bearded collie cross we got as a rescued dog at 18 months. Such a hard and horrid call, but one that is the kindest I hope for him. Thank you for reading this, Completely heartbroken xx
Hi Cat,
I am so sorry for the loss of Raffles. It sounds like he was very special and supported you through so much of life. Praying for peace and healing for you during this difficult time. ♥
Hi Dr. Buzby.
Thank you for this helpful article.
My beloved dog is scheduled to be put down this Saturday evening. She would be turning 16 next month; I’ve had her since I was 7. I grew up with Lilly and barely remember life without her.
She has kidney disease, dementia, arthritis, hearing and vision loss. My husband gave her too many treats a few days ago. She threw up and hasn’t eaten since. She’s been too weak to walk without guidance and collapses often. She can barely get up to use the bathroom.
I don’t resent my husband for giving her the treats. She’s so fragile; if it wasn’t this it would’ve been something else. She sure did enjoy those treats.
My question may be hard to give a complete answer to, but I’m wondering about her mindset in this. I’m as ready ready to let her go as I can be, but I want her to be ready too. I don’t want this to catch her off guard. She’s half toy poodle and half chihuahua, and the latter breed sure kicks in a lot when getting over illnesses. She’s been bulletproof and refuses to give up.
I pray she isn’t fighting too hard this time and expecting this one to pass, because it likely won’t. Even if it does, she won’t return to a healthy, happy and maintainable status.
It’s time. I’ve accepted it, and I want her to accept it too. What can you tell me that could help with this?
Thank you.
Dear Holly,
My heart goes out to you as you face this emotional decision for Lilly. She is a lucky girl to have you taking such good care of her and I applaud you for even considering what she might be thinking during this time. Dogs are amazing creatures. They definitely have feelings and great memories too. But unlike most humans, they live in the present. They are aware of how they feel today, and what is happening today. They don’t think into the future like we do when anticipating next Christmas or next weekend. So, the best way to make sure your girl is content is to fill these final days with happiness and joy. Love on her and spoil her rotten. Hold her and let her sleep wherever she likes. We always think about quality of life, but I think the quality of their passing is just as important if not more so. You are doing the right things and this loving choice you have made will give Lilly the peace and rest she deserves. I am praying for your strength and comfort. Bless you both. ♥
I’m so sorry for your loss of Raffles. Five days ago I put my boy to sleep due to kidney failure. He was fed grapes at 10 months and nearly passed then due to kidney damage. He lived until nearly 13 years old a full and happy life until his kidneys shut down. He literally became lethargic on Monday and by Tuesday he was a very sick boy. After fluids, anti-nausea meds and antibiotics for a UTI that accompanied kidney failure, I took him home for a night to say goodbye and allow my elderly dad to say goodbye to his buddy. Even though I tried to alleviate his suffering, I am gutted. Everywhere and everything reminds me of Hunter. I don’t know why, but I felt embarrassed to sob during and after his euthanasia. I wish I would have come across this article before he went to sleep. I hope you’re navigating life without Raffles despite probably everything reminding you of him. .
Dear Suzan,
My heart aches for you with your recent loss of Hunter. I know you must miss him terribly but what a blessing to have shared almost 13 years together. You made a selfless choice to offer your sweet boy freedom from his suffering. It is clear he was dearly loved, and I have no doubt he knew. Praying with time your heart will heal. May his memory stay with you always and be a source of joy in your life.
We had to get our beloved furry family member, Venus (Jack Russell Terrier) put to sleep on Friday 7th July. it has been the most difficult time of my life and I’m filled with overwhelming sadness. She provided us with 17 years of unconditional love and I regret the decision to put her to sleep. She had never been to the vets before this experience and trusted us with all her heart to make the right decisions for her. My mother was the one pushing for her to be put to sleep because she had her own regrets about delaying this decision about our first dog who was in a lot of pain in his last moments.
My sister and I agreed that if she wasn’t in horrible pain then she had more time to live and we went to the vets hopeful. Unfortunately the first vet suggested she had pyometra and was potentially too old for surgery as the euthanasia COULD kill her anyway. This vet sent us to their other branch for an ultrasound to confirm this diagnosis.
It was confirmed and everything happened so fast. Venus was investigating the many smells and just being her inquisitive self, unaware that we had cried non-stop since departing from our family home and unaware that we were discussing euthanasia as a more likely prognosis.
The second vet confirmed pyometra and didn’t once mention pain but said that she was constantly feeling “sickly and uncomfortable.” This should not have been enough for my mother to rush us to a decision.
We made the decision under pressure in less time than it would take to deliberate what to have for dinner and Venus, having all the trust in the world for us was taken by the vet to be prepped. She trusted us unwaveringly and without question to make the right decisions for her and I’m now riddled with the worst guilt I’ve ever felt. I haven’t stopped crying in days and know I completely made the wrong decision because Venus had open pyometra and whilst it would have progressed to closed pyometra and then progressed rapidly from there, she still could have had a few weeks to be spoilt, to be the centre of our worlds.
17 years of unconditional love and we took 10 minutes to make this life-ending decision.
When we went into the room, Venus had her catheter on her tiny paws (she deplored her paws being touched 😔). We gathered round and my sister held her, unfortunately we could not contain our tears and wept as we spoke to her. We all petted and attempted to reassure her and I told her it would be okay. She kissed us all (which was not something she really did). She had no idea what was going on and was trying to comfort us 🥺.
The vet used the one-injection method and after the first injection, Venus was unphased after 5 minutes and had her head held high just pulling her paw from the vet afterwards (she really did hate her paws being touched 😩). My mother implied she was “fighting” the drug which only hurt more because I feel she exhibited all manners of joie de vivre that day and I ignored them.
The vet then had to remove her and change paws and then brought her back out fully alert to give the second injection and I’d looked into her eyes and told her she was the biggest, greatest love of my life and repeated that she’s okay and then, after 17 years of life on this planet, she slowly faded into unconsciousness and was never going to wake up. 17 years and we made a decision in 10 minutes.
I failed her horribly and her little sad eyes looking at me whilst it happened broke my heart. She had a few bad days and we were rushed into a decision to put her to sleep. She was lively that day, enjoying an adventure. 3 weeks before she was trying to fight with a dog she didn’t like and was eating etc. She slept a lot more but always came downstairs to say hello to visitors.
Venus could have had another few precious weeks of life on this planet and I feel that should have been worth the risk. We should have opted for surgery, there would have been a waiting list and in the meantime she could have enjoyed a few last weeks AND the surgery still had a better prognosis than euthanasia.
I’m heartbroken, will never forgive myself and I just hope Venus forgives me. If anyone is reading this; DO NOT make a decision on the spot unless your dog is in absolute pain. Never because he or she is uncomfortable or just sickly. Think about the decision and spoil your beloved fur baby because otherwise you’ll regret it the rest of your life, like I will.
❤️💗🐶🐶🥺😔💔💔
Dear Carla,
My heart aches for you as you grieve the loss of Venus. It is clear she was dearly loved, and I have no doubt she knew. I understand you wish you had given her more time, but to be honest I think you made the most loving choice, one I would have made for my own pup. Venus was just uncomfortable, but we know it would have progressed to suffering and the vet did not think she would live through surgery. I always think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. Letting go is the greatest act of selflessness I can think of. You allowed your own heart to break so that your sweet girl wouldn’t experience additional pain and could truly be at peace. I hope with time you can allow yourself some grace and your heart can begin to heal. May her memory stay with you always and be a source of joy in your life. Bless you and your family. ♥
We just put our 3 year old Great Dane Abbey Rey to rest 30 minutes ago. I came across your article this morning and we are so appreciative. We brought her favorite bed, blanket and toy, we laid down with her on the grass under a big tree here in Kona Hawaii, We loved on her and she relaxed and dozed off before the vet came out. You’re article helped us prepare and make her transition peaceful and calm for Abbey. keep up the good work.
Dear David,
I am so sorry for your loss of Abbey Rey. What a blessing you were able to make those last moments peaceful and she felt comforted and loved. Thank you for the kind words. May Abbey’s memory be with you always and be a source of joy to you and your family. ♥
Thank you so much for this informative and thoughtful article. Our eldest dog lives with my daughter now; she is her beloved companion and helps allow my daughter to live alone (my daughter is high functioning autistic, and while she is academically brilliant, her social skills are not). Diamond is a hound/doberman mix and is almost 15, she no longer can control her bladder (she has a growth in it) or her bowels, she is hard of hearing, has cataracts, and ear infections are common, but she still gets up to greet my daughter, looks forward to her daily walks, (which require her to go up and down stairs), loves food and wants love.
We have been trying to prepare my daughter for the unenviable task of making end of life plans, and I have shared this article with her.. She has read it and has decided to implement many of your tips into her plan. She said it is also good to know what might occur.
From the bottom of my heart, I wish you well and know you have helped my daughter.
Hi Jenn,
My heart goes out you and your daughter on the impending loss of Diamond. She sounds like she more than lives up to her name, and it is clear how special she is to your daughter (and your whole family). Please pass my condolences on to your daughter as she prepares to say goodbye to the dog she loves and who has offered her so much freedom, comfort, and companionship.
Thank you too for your kind words about the article. I’m so thankful that we were able to bring some comfort to your daughter and help her prepare for what is to come.
Thinking about you all! ❤️
Lily, my 13 yr old boxer mix has been in amazing health her whole life. She’s been struggling with arthritis and I knew we’d have to make a decision at some point for the sake of comfort and quality of life. We have been so thankful for no disease, but she had some scary episodes starting in May – first blood in her urine that didn’t scream UTI, so much blood they thought someone put a blood sample in with the urine by mistake. Then a few weeks later she had another episode, no blood this time, but she was in pain and weak. The thing is, in both situations she was better the next day, great actually, it passed.
My vet recommended x-rays last week just to be sure there was nothing underlying and my sweet girl has a large mass on her spleen which explained everything. This is so hard because she is good, she is energetic, she eats (most of the time), she still jumps with excitement (despite us trying to keep her from doing that lol). Knowing I have to make this decision before she is in crises to ensure she does not suffer, that is the easy part, I will do anything for her, but seeing her so good everyday, how do I know when? I know no-one can answer that for me. I know she is past average life expectancy for her breed and she’s been healthy for 13 yrs and so very loved. I know doing this sooner rather than later is the right thing for Lily, but I don’t know how to make that decision. This is so hard. I knew this day would come and I knew it would break my heart but I had no idea how much.
Dear Dawn,
My heart aches for you as you try to navigate this emotional path. Here is a link to another article that deals with this exact situation: When To Euthanize A Dog With Hemangiosarcoma: A Vet’s Guidance
I pray you can find the answers and advice you need to make a decision with which you can be at peace. Wishing you strength and comfort. Bless you and sweet Lily. ♥
We are putting our old man Josh (almost 17 years old) down on Monday so I really appreciate this article. All of our other pets throughout the years have died naturally and/or had to be put down due to illnesses. Josh is somewhat of an amalgam. He has a heart murmur and bad kidneys but has functioned fine with both for years (with no pain according to the vets). We have consulted with the vet about what to look out for and the last few months he has started getting weaker and slower and especially the last few days he has been struggling and is showing some of the signs of hiding pain. We don’t want him to suffer.
We have another dog (a 5-year-old rescue mutt) who has been with Josh her whole life. We are planning on bringing her with and having her in the room with us so that she understands what is happening and why he’s not coming home. Do you have any other suggestions to make this transition easier, both for her and Josh?
Hi Niki,
I’m so sorry for the loss of Josh. It sounds like he had a wonderful life with you and it is clear how much you care about him.
I definitely understand your concern with how your other dog will cope with the loss of Josh, especially since they have been together your other dog’s whole life. My dear friend and end-of-life care veterinarian actually recent wrote a blog for me on this very topic, so I’ll link it below.
Thinking about you and your other dog as you process this loss. ❤️
Do Dogs Grieve? Helping Your Dog Cope With Loss
Thank you for the informative and honest answers to the questions I have recently been thinking about. My beautiful 18 and a half year old border terrier cross chihuahua Rosie, was diagnosed with Cushing’s disease nearly 3 years ago, but I don’t think she’s ready to leave us just yet. This article and your other one with Dr Woodruff, has given myself and my hubby, the information we need to prepare us for the right time to let our beloved Rosie go. Thank you so much for your honesty, empathy and compassion.
Hi Lucy,
I appreciate the kind words and positive feedback about the articles. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Wishing you and Rosie comfort and peace. Bless you both.
This article was both incredibly helpful and extremely sad for me. My 14 year old cockapoo has been struggling with back pain for the past 2 months and the vet has prescribed her pain meds to manage it; x-rays don’t show anything significant, and it may just be a reoccurring disc injury. She gets really ill and won’t move for hours, and won’t eat unless I feed her though a syringe. Then one day she recovers and is fine again, only for it to happen suddenly again 1-2 weeks later. This time however, I can tell it’s worse than all the other times and I’m torn because I don’t know if I should allow this cycle to continue, or just resign to the fact that it’s time to let her go. She is still letting me know when she needs to go to the bathroom but will not play, eat, or move around with ease. Any advice?
Dear Teresa,
My heart aches for you as you face this difficult situation with your senior girl. Without examining her myself, it is hard to make specific conclusions. I encourage you to discuss your concerns with your vet. They can give their honest opinion about her quality of life and help guide you as you navigate this tough path. I always think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. I am confident you will find the answers you need to make the best choice for everyone involved. Wishing you nothing but the best. Bless you and your sweet girl. ♥
I’m never usually one to post comments, but I wanted to say thank you for your informative, empathetic and honest article. Tomorrow morning I will say goodbye to our Collie-Cross, Lucky, who has been an integral part of our family for nearly 17 years. She learnt to heel within 10 minutes, never needed a lead past a year, never reacted when my newly born daughter kept trying to poke her in the eye, helped me get fit again and enjoy the outdoors…. The list goes on. It’s hard to put into words just how good a dog she has been., I just wish I could tell her this, and how grateful and fortunate we consider ourselves to have had such an amazing dog, and that she would understand.
All I can do is make things as painless,, comforting and the least stressful that I can and reading this, will help me to do this for her. Thank you.
Simon.
Hi Simon,
What a beautiful tribute to a one-of-a-kind dog! My heart goes out to you on the loss of Lucky. It is clear how much you loved her and what an amazing part of the family she was for the past 17 years. I have no doubt that she knew how special she was to you and the rest of the family and that she loved you dearly too. Thank you for sharing a bit of her story with us. ❤️ I hope that in time you will find a measure of comfort in all the wonderful memories you shared together and the knowledge that you gave her a wonderful life and a peaceful farewell.
I enjoy the conversational tone of your blog, which makes me feel like part of a conversation.
Hi Reklam,
I appreciate the positive feedback. Thank you!
I too deeply appreciate your comforting tone for this most difficult decision to make. I have a 12 yr old male boxer, Phoenix, a rescue at 3 yrs old. He’s had the best living life we could give him. He’s dying of osteosarcoma. We found this out 2 months ago when my other rescue and he were rough playing and broke his femur. Surgery, pin and wired and prayed it wasn’t cancer but it was inevitable in the past two months and regressing rapidly. Been dealing with this decision for about 2 weeks now and seeing he’s deteriorated so bad these past few days that I must let him rest in peace and coming to the realization that’s what’s best for him and not for me. Truly a difficult process to come to that decision. My husband and I have been crying so much and my husband got on the floor and laid next to him for awhile as he was in pain and waiting for his meds to kick in. Tuesday is the earliest to get back with my vet. My daughter used to work for a vet and familiar with the process and so she will be with him and comforting him and loving him through it. My husband and I just can not handle this. I appreciate seeing this and don’t know how I came across it but truly believe it’s an answered prayer for peace and direction in this. Thank you immensely for all your love and insight.
Dear Mrs. Johns,
I am so sorry for your loss of Phoenix. I hope his passing was smooth and peaceful. What a blessing your daughter was able to be with him in his final moments and allow you to do what was best for your heart. I pray for your comfort and strength as you work your way through the grieving process. May Phoenix’s memory live on and be a source of joy in your life.
Thank You for this blog,page,website. I’m in my last hour with my 17yr old chihuahua before at home euthanasia. I’m having so many doubts and so torn inside. Am u doing the right thing.
Dear Jessica,
My heart goes out to you with your recent loss. I am sure you made the most loving decision for your senior pup. Wishing you comfort and peace. Bless you.
I came across this post when searching for ways to prepare myself for the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make. Thank you for providing this information.
We found out about 2.5 months ago that my 12.5 year old Rotti Xena has osteosarcoma. it was such a shock and devastating as the lump on the back of her leg just appeared one day.
because of her age and other things going on with her joints, amputation was not an option. we were sent home and told that she would only have a few weeks to live.
We have been blessed with 2.5 months of having Xena in our life, but unfortunately the past 2 days we have seen a rapid decline in her ability to walk and have now made the decision to say goodbye to her tomorrow.
I just can’t imagine life without my girl, the house will definitely be a lot quieter and different. I have a 15 month old girl who adores her and I’m sure she will miss her until the memory of her fades. We are going to make her a special book, telling her how much Xena loved her and how much my daughter loved Xena.
I also hope that other read my story so that she will never be forgotten.
We love you Xena XXX RIP my girl.
Hi Lauren,
My heart breaks for you and for your daughter. Xena sounds like such a special dog and I’m sure she will be dearly missed. I’m glad you were able to have 2.5 more months with her, but I also understand that no amount of extra time with our beloved dogs is really enough. The book you are making about Xena sounds like such a beautiful way to honor her memory and help your daughter remember Xena. Sending love during this difficult time. ❤️
A few days ago I have read your article about saying goodbye, and that is better to do a day earlier than a day later. This prompted me to think that maybe it is time to say goodbye to my beloved Jax. He is about 15 years old Siberian husky. I had him for about half of his life. About 1.5 years ago we discovered he has a big mass on his liver. We decided to opt out of surgery not knowing if it will benefit or will have complications. He surpassed expectations of many including veterinarian and still here. But he lost 20 lbs ( he was 50+ and now about 32). Over the time he lost appetite and we struggle to find things he would eat. Sometimes it is a peace of chicken, sometimes treats, sometimes bread, or tri tip. His arthritis is worsening and in the last few weeks his legs are getting weaker, sometimes he falls or stumbles, sometimes he struggles to get up from his back feet. He used to love walking and he still enjoys being outside but really struggles to walk and would stand for a while. He had his favorite dog walker for 8 yes’s and she shared it has been hard to watch him slow down so much. He can’t really do stairs so I carry him up and down to go potty. He used to smile on pictures, and I noticed a few weeks ago he stopped smiling. We decided to schedule an appointment for Memorial Day and I couldn’t stop crying for days. I am so scared of loosing him but I don’t want him feel like he can’t get to walk, or starts having accidents in himself. And I can’t shake off the feeling of his bones when I hold him. I share him with my ex, and I was told he had a few accidents in the house because he can’t use doggy door. I really want to have more time with him and feel guilty that I could have done more over the years. We are traveling next months so we dint want something happen to Jax and one of us not being able to be there to say goodbye. I am planning the last few days so I can’ take him to the park, I got him a pet wagon and I hope he likes it, and I will just give him lots of cuddles and pets. I am praying we are making the right decision for Jax but I am so heartbroken inside. The last thing I want to do is to cut his time short if he is still enjoying this life with us.
Dear Elena,
I am sorry you had to face this difficult decision for Jax. I definitely think you made the right choice in giving him freedom from his struggles. It is clear Jax lived a full life and was dearly loved. I am certain he knew how much he meant to you. Thank you for being willing to share your experience with us. It is comforting for others to know they are not alone. I pray Jax’s memory will be a blessing and stay with you forever. Wishing you the best for a happy future.
Stumbling across this article couldn’t have been at a better time. My first love, Kipper, just got euthanized today in-home. 15 y/o Papillon & long-haired chihuahua diagnosed with Lymphoma, heart failure & stage 6 murmur, and debilitating arthritis. With all of the cancer symptoms and his intense labored breathing, his poor heart needed to rest and be at peace. It was my first time doing it at home but I will never again experience this heartache at a vets office. Is there a service or community where dog food, meds, and supplies can be donated? I understand the risk of meds being gifted but I feel so wasteful since Kipp was on so many he still has 75% full prescriptions. I have no qualms tossing it but wanted to reach out and see if I could help someone else since meds are not cheap. Bless all of our little furry friend’s souls, they give us unconditional love, we are their world, they deserve the world in return and a peaceful way to leave this world. Stay strong everyone, we are not alone in our grief and it helps me to know that to try and heal and continue to move forward.
Dear Amber,
I am so sorry for your loss of Kipper. I am glad you were able to have him at home where he was most comfortable while he passed peacefully. It is clear he was dearly loved, and I am certain he knew. I think it is very kind of you to want to donate his things to help other dogs. I am not sure there is a specific organization that takes items such as medications. I recommend you reach out to the local vet clinics in your area and possibly the shelter or humane society. There are a few clinics in my area that will take used or expired medications and offer them for free to families with extreme financial limitations. They let the owners know the medications were donated and the quality and safety of the drugs cannot be guaranteed. I am sure you will find the best way to keep Kipper’s memory alive and share his legacy with others. Wishing you comfort and healing for your heart. Bless you. ♥
Your article is very helpful for me after reading your article I got a lot of information my name is Elias Jaxon. I am gating information about cat your article is very fantastic.
We will say goodbye to our 14 year old Rat Terrier, Adidas, later tonight. She is the last of her original pack of four. Even though I’ve done this three times before, she will be the hardest one to let go. I’ve spent this work morning searching for articles like this because I’m feeling like recovery will be insurmountable.
Her seizures started about six weeks ago. Her bloodwork was good, it was suspected to be a brain tumor. We tried to treat it but the med’s did not work. When seizures increased, new bloodwork showed that her kidneys have failed. I’m trying to wrap my mind around how this was not evident on the first visit, but it is moot, even if we had known six weeks ago it would not have changed the outcome.
Adidas was a four week old stray and a foster fail, the “little girl” in a pack with two lab’s and a German Shepherd, all male. Amazingly, she never (ever) barked inside, even when everyone else did. Once outside she made her presence known. It was not something we taught her (evidenced by her brothers’ behaviors). We have been each other’s constant companions as the people, pets, and places around us all changed. She’ll be cremated and will rest with the rest of her pack. I already miss her. Thank you for providing this forum to share our thoughts, it has already helped.
Dear Kevin,
I am sorry you had to say goodbye to your senior girl. I can only imagine how hard it must have been to let go of the last of your pack. Adidas sounds like a once in a lifetime kind of pup. Thank you for sharing her story with us. She will definitely not be forgotten. May her memory live on and bring joy to your days. Bless you.
About 10 years ago, I made a difficult decision to re-home my beloved Yorkie, Jorja. Fast forward to 2023, we receive a call from a shelter saying they had her and located us via her microchip (new owner would not call me back to transfer information). Without missing a beat, I went to get her and have been loving on her, along with my two other Yorkies (acquired in 2020) ever since.
Seemingly out of nowhere, she became very lethargic and I was told she had yet another infection in her gums. Post medication she was getting back to normal and then two days later, she was not eating, barely drinking and not wanting to walk at all.
An immediate visit back to the vet was when bloodwork results from the previous visit were shared (said they tried to contact me; left msg on my daughter’s phone). Bad kidneys along with a bad pancreas and still the infection.
She has not eaten in four days, the water she consumes she basically spits back up within moments. The vet said we could do fluids daily, but she can’t hold that in her system either. She has urinated once, perhaps twice to my knowledge, made an attempt to poop and still will not eat. I have never had to do this before and already still held on to some guilt for giving her away years ago. Now I feel as though I am letting her go again, even though just like then, I felt as though it was best for her.
She is such a sweet girl and her sometimes bossy yet sweet personality will be greatly missed. I have been online reading so many articles about what to expect, how to deal, what to do, best practices and more.
I cannot express how grateful I am to have come across this article and be able to leave a comment. I have been praying off and on, talking to Jorja a lot, holding her, allowing her to be outside as much as she wants (she attempts to walk but very short distances). I believe I am more prepared now than before and your experience and expertise are one of the many reasons for that.
Thanks so much again…..
Dear Monique,
Your story really touches my heart. I am sorry you are preparing to say goodbye to your senior girl, but what a blessing she came back into your life! I am glad you were able to spend these last few months together and give her some peace and comfort. Please don’t let unnecessary guilt be a burden on you. You have made every decision based on what was best for Jorja and it is clear that she is dearly loved. Praying for your strength and wishing you both peace. Bless you. ♥
I have a 12 year old boy who has been declining for 3 years now. he has serious trouble getting around most times he can’t stand up on his own and needs total assistance. he lost all control of his bowels and has been pooping where ever he is and creating quite the mess. recently he started urinating everywhere and we came to find out his bladder can’t release itself and it’s basically so full it just leaks out. we have to now express his bladder for him. the vet tells me this is all a neurological thing and basically he isn’t in pain or suffering and as long as we can handle it it’s OK. yesterday he suddenly can’t even walk at all and his what I believe is his knee is making a popping noise with every step he takes. I’m going to have to have a mobile vet come to my house and I’m terrified this is the end. it has been the most.stressful time of my life dealing with this and it makes me feel guilty. we try our best to take care of him. he still Is enjoying life and not letting his issues bring him down. so if there is something wrong with his leg that they say it’s time I don’t know how to handle that. how can you euthanize a dog who is still happy and mentally there? I have been losing sleep over this and non stop crying. I don’t know how to deal with this and I think I am scarred.from every having a dog again. I just cant imagine looking at him while he’s ok mentally and saying goodbye it makes me ill to think about.
Dear Becky,
I am so sorry you are in this difficult situation with your senior pup. Unfortunately, there are times when a physical injury or disease will cause the need to say goodbye even though a dog is mentally still very alert and well. Choosing euthanasia may be the only way to prevent suffering and pain and can be the most loving option in certain situations. Were you able to have a vet come to your house to evaluate your boy? Praying there was a clear path forward. Feel free to leave an update if you have a chance. ♥
I have an appointment on Wednesday 5/4 to euthanize my 16yo pitbull Petey. It brings up a lot of feelings of when I lost my dad in 2016. It’s been harder because my father had the ability to tell me he wanted a DNR and Petey just wants to eat and sleep and wander around the yard. He is very wobbly on his back legs, but gets up quickly when he hears us or falls over. I think everyone wishes that their loved one will just pass away in their sleep, but that rarely happens.. I never expected or even thought about these days when I got him as a puppy or all the years we spent together. I am sad and feel like the pain is holding on until I hit that point of realization at his appointment. I am very torn but know that if he is in pain, which the vet confirms his arthritis is most likely painful, that the best decision is to end his pain and endure my own. I love Petey very much and appreciate the support and information the blog has brought me. His vet doesn’t offer in home euthanasia, but does have an individual cremation option that includes a paw print. I don’t know if there is a “right way” to go about this but I just feel like I’m going to miss something. I liked the idea of feeding chocolate before the procedure and never thought of that. I hope I am making the right decision that is selfless. He isn’t the same as he was even a year ago, and although he still loves to eat, his quality of life has certainly diminished. I will try to focus on all of the happiness he’s brought me over the years, but it’s just a tough and stressful, heart wrenching time. I’m sad but also hopeful that I will live another dog, although completely differently, just as much some day.
Dear Aaron,
I am so sorry for your recent loss of Petey. I commend you for being strong enough to allow your own heart to break so your sweet boy could find freedom from his struggles. I am not sure there is a more loving choice you could have made. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Petey will not be forgotten. May his memory live on forever and be a blessing in your life.
Thank you for this article. We are going to have to let go of our beloved girl, Lucy, one day next week. Beautiful Lucy is a small, fancy-fawn Boxer, who turned 10 in December. She is our world. Being unable to have children, she’s been so much more than a pet to me and my husband. Lucy’s the sweetest, most gentle and loving “daughter” that I could ever have asked for. My husband is disabled and he trained her to be his service animal. She is in every family portrait (we have 3 families) and is beloved by everyone.
I’ve been struggling. My husband is struggling. This article has brought some peace into my tortured heart. Thank you.
Dear Martha,
My heart aches for you with your recent loss of Lucy. She sounds like an incredible pup, and I know she was a major blessing in your lives. I am glad you were able to find some comfort in the words of the article and comments from other readers. May Lucy’s memory stay with you always and be a source of joy as you continue life’s journey.
Thanks for this article. We have a 10.5 year old pit mix who has leg problems, intense allergies, and is very depressed. Our two dogs got into a fight two years ago that sent me to the hospital and to surgery on my face and arm, and a result we now have two dogs that can’t see each other and live in separate rooms and separate lives. We have to walk them separately. With our baby, neither can leave the room much. She is depressed, she doesn’t want to leave her room often and we have to force her to get up and go outside often. We have made this decision because it just seems like in the past month it has gotten so much worse. And she’s also been throwing up in the last month. We decided on Thursday to do the procedure this coming Tuesday. The guilt is enormous. The guilt of keeping her in her room, knowing we have done everything we can for her, and it will not improve and her being depressed in there is so much. And the guilt of putting her down, even if we do know she is in pain, is enormous as it has benefits for our family, and our other dog who will be a much better single dog, and she may be able to not have to take so many anxiety pills anymore, She has had a couple of better days since we made the decision and now we are second guessing ourselves. This sucks.
Dear Caleb,
I am so sorry you had to make such a difficult decision about your senior girl. I can only imagine how hard it must have been to say goodbye. While I’m sure it was very emotional, I hope it was also a blessing to free your sweet girl from her struggles and your family from some of the stress you’ve been under. Praying you can all find a way to continue forward together and allow your other pup to live her best life. Wishing you hope and happiness. Bless you all.
Thank you so much for this article. Two weeks ago I had to make an abrupt decision to put my 16.5 y/o chihuahua down and I’m still struggling so much with the events of that day. To come here and find out that my best friend could still hear me up until the very very end post-sedation brings me so much comfort. She brought me out of rock bottom and it’s been really hard to navigate life without her, but I feel better knowing that the sedation and euthanasia process brought her nothing but relief. That she merely drifted off into a nap which she was so fond of doing. Thank you for writing this. My heart still aches but this allowed me to let go of the guilt I was carrying.
Dear Caitlin,
My heart goes out to you with the recent loss of your senior girl. I am glad to know the article was able to relieve you of the unnecessary burden of guilt you have been carrying. I can only imagine how much you miss your sweet girl, but what a blessing you were able to offer her peace and rest. I cannot think of a more loving act than to allow your own heart to break so your pup could be free from her struggles. I am glad you were with her in her final moments and am certain your presence was a comfort. I pray with time your heart will heal. May her memory be a blessing that stays with you forever. ♥
hello dear, my boyfriend and I got our dogs together 5.5 years ago. they’re like our kids before having kids. they’re the highlight our our lives. my dog is healthy but his pomeranian developed renal insuffisency and convulsive crises 3 years ago and has been controlled with foodswaps and meds and he was doing really good since then..
last saturday we were surprised he had a status epilepticus and he’s so tiny and we got the PTSD again and ever since everyday he ‘s been having a seizure every other day. yesterday the vet said he has only 1 functioning kidney at 30% and has limited days to weeks. he is 1.6 kgs and is so tiny and has serum attached to him most of the time…. we are considering euthanasia bcz he is not comfortable seizing everyday this is a nightmare but everything escaled so quickly we don’t want to decide quickly and then feel guilty but rly there is nothing to be done and our hearts are breaking at this sight…. i cannot stop searching about euthanasia and finding the right thing to do but i rly am still in shock and need to be strong next to my boyfriend’s family too cz he is abroad and i am there in charge instead of him…. it’s horrible . i keep thinking that i dont want to end his life myself and rather give it to time and if it happens it would be from his deterioration not my intervention… i have no idea it’s no hope for him anyway but he’s not well eitherrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. he’s only 5 years old!!
Dear Perla,
I am so sorry you are in this difficult situation. I can only imagine how hard it is to face these emotional choices while your boyfriend is away. I know you are hoping your pup will pass on his own so you don’t have to make the decision to say goodbye. But a natural death is often not pretty or peaceful. Saying goodbye may be the most loving option and only way to give your little guy freedom from his struggles. I honestly think it is better to let go one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. We have the opportunity and the responsibility to give our beloved dogs a peaceful goodbye. I am hopeful you will find the advice you need to make the best choice for everyone involved. Praying for your strength and comfort.
I was very distraught a few years ago when I had to make the decision for my 2 fur babies 6 months apart. I contacted the Billy Graham Evangelical Association and asked them if my dogs would be in Heaven. They told me that God wants everyone to be happy in Heaven and if that means you have to have your pets with you then they will be there with you. I’m looking forward to it.
As I write this, I’ll be making the decision for my little girl Daisy. She’s 16 years and 4 months old. She has dementia and other problems. 😭 You and everyone here are in my prayers.
Dear Pam,
My heart goes out to you as you make this emotional decision for Daisy. Thank you for sharing this with us. Wishing you peace and comfort for your heart. Bless you and your sweet girl.
not sure how to post… But I have a 17-year-old Shih Tzu that doesn’t really know where he is most of the time anymore. He has horrible Cataracs and can’t hear and I think it’s time to let him go but just struggling with the fact that he can still go outside, even though I find him in the middle of the street, which is bad… My own child passed away at 39 four years ago so doing this is very challenging for me and my grandson… But going to schedule an appointment to go in the next couple of weeks and appreciate the thoughts of having a party before he goes… Charlie appreciate you all very much
Dear Brenda,
My heart goes out to you as you face this most difficult decision. I am sorry for all the loss you have endured over the last few years. I hope your sweet boy will pass peacefully surrounded by those who love him most. Praying for peace and comfort for you and your grandson as you continue life’s journey. Bless you both.
This blog is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to stay informed and educated on the topic.
Thank you!
we are reaching the end of my 16yo jack russels life and to be honest knowing the time is nearly up i dont know how will cope, i know it will be the best for him when the time comes but i will be saying goodbye to my best friend…the vet told us he is now on borrowed time and soon we will need to euthanise, i still pray before then he will pass in his sleep
Dear Simon,
I am sorry you are facing this difficult decision for your senior guy. I am hopeful his passing will be peaceful and smooth. Praying for your strength to navigate this tough road ahead and for comfort for your heart.
Our dog Oreo is 15 and 4 mrhs. She has cushings,heart disease, compromised airways and watching her finding it harder to breathe as her stomach goes in and out deeply, she has asthma and possible enlarged liver we now have to try and decide to put her to sleep. This is very hard as she is my husbands best friend, but we know the time is coming, as if we leave it too late, her trachea could collapse and it will be awful, but we are finding it hard as she still goes for short walks and is still eating so when to choose the right time
Dear Susan,
I am so sorry Oreo’s health is declining and you are facing this most difficult decision. I truly think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. Letting go may be the most loving option and only way to give your sweet girl relief from her struggles. I pray for your strength and comfort as you navigate this emotional path. Bless you and your senior girl.
My Gracie is 14 years and three months old and is suffering from dementia. I took her into the vet on 3/24 to speak to her about her latest behaviors, moving her head from side to side and multiple days in a row where she cannot settle and will pace endlessly in circles. This is even with a whole table of trazadone over the course of the day. When I leave she will pace the whole time I am gone. She gets “stuck” if she runs into something and when I go to gather her up and return her to her bed, she looks as though she doesn’t know where she is. She is urinating on the pee pads still but also has several accidents a day on her pee pads covering her beds. I have come home to her splayed out on the floor unable to get up after squatting to urinate. It is breaking my heart daily. She is my baby and I am so scared of letting her go even though I know this is probably time. She was having good days and bad days but it seems they are just getting worse. I don’t want to be selfish and have her suffer. She has a very good appetite still and gets excited for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I have made her food her whole life. She has a hard time with depth perception though, I have also noticed and have to show her where her bowl is. How many days in a row of “bad days” before I let her go?
Dear Tricia,
I am sorry you are facing this difficult decision for Gracie. From what you describe it does sound like her mental state is in decline and her quality of life is not the best. I understand how hard it is to know when to let go. I always think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. I will attach links to other articles with more information and great comments from other readers. I am hopeful you will find the advice you are looking for to make the best choice for Gracie. Praying for your strength and comfort for your heart.
1. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
2. Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
3. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
Tricia, I have the exact same feelings for my 15 year old dog right now. He’s blind in one eye, walks and stumbles in circles, and often gets stuck in spots in my house. I spend my days following him around and making sure he isn’t stuck somewhere. My house is covered in rugs now, but before he would get stuck sprawled out on the floor like a starfish and unable to get up. He has betters days and bad days, but just watching him slow down has been making my heart ache. I love him so much, I’m 21 myself and don’t remember life without him. He is my best friend. I fear the time is soon. How are you now? What, if anything, has helped you get through these sad times?
I adopted my female Blue Heeler/Basenji in January of 2017. She was older than what the humane society thought because the next year she had gotten arthritis. She has been having “episodes” for the last few months. We have tried all medications and tests in our price range. The last test they tried was for her blood pressure although the vet already told us if the blood pressure pills don’t work she is has concluded that my Harley has Doggy Dementia, I am going to have to put her sleep almost for sure this Friday April 14th. Thank you for this article. Even though I am heartbroken beyond words the article helped me and I saved to post on Facebook to help other pet parents. Thank you and God bless!
Dear Tina,
I am sorry you had to say goodbye to your senior pup. I understand how difficult and emotional that decision can be. I hope Harley’s passing was peaceful and smooth. Thank you for the kind words about the article. It makes me happy to know it offered you some comfort and will be passed on to others as well. May Harley’s memory be a blessing in your life. Wishing you the best for brighter days ahead.
I agree. We just made the appointment today to euthanize both of our boys this Saturday. It has been a hot topic the past few months but we have really struggled with our decision. We are still not 100% as these are the only dogs we have had our entire marriage. They are 12.5 and 13.5 years old and have lived a good life. We were searching for the perfect sign it was time but we never found it. After a long discussion about all of their difficulties and decline we have noticed….We decided to go with the quality not quantity phrase to help with our decision. I have been a blubbering mess since my husband called to make the appointment today. We plan on spending this week filled with all of their favorite things. Thank you for this article, it did help me do some processing.
Dear Alicia,
My heart aches for you with the recent loss of both of your senior boys. I am glad the article was helpful and offered some peace of mind. May the memories of all the good times you shared be a blessing in your life. Wishing you comfort for your heart and happier days ahead. ♥
Hi.
I found this really helpful, in currently going through the process of coming to terms with letting my 13yr old husky go. We have an appointment for Wednesday, but I’m still constantly questioning myself on if I’m doing the right thing. we have spoken to the vet about her quality of life and all agree it is probably time.
She used to be so bouncy loving and all round nuts, about 2 years ago she was put on metacam for her back legs which were causing her pain.
We have found that the last couple of months she has really slowed down. struggling up hills, sleeping so much more, she has lost a lot of weight, she seems so uncomfortable and unhappy, she can’t go through the night anymore without needing to go out. We think her kidneys might be failing as her drinking has increased. I keep trying to look at the bigger picture. She doesn’t enjoy walks as much anymore. she doesn’t play with her toys, and people she used to love she barely looks at, and takes herself off. it is the fact this has taken 2 months to change so dramatically that I think it is fairer for her to say goodbye before she is in more pain.
Dear SA,
My heart goes out to you as you face this difficult decision for your senior girl. It sounds like her health and mental state are declining and saying goodbye may be the most loving option. I think you are making the right choice to let go before things get worse. What a blessing you can save her from unnecessary suffering and pain. I hope her passing is peaceful and smooth. Praying for your strength and comfort for your heart. May the memories of the good times you shared stay with you always. Bless you both.
Your comments about your Husky really helped comfort my heart, for I too am struggling with the same issues with our senior dog of 14. Back in January she had a seizure and then recently started having them more often. She is just not the happy and snuggly girl she used to be 🙁 it breaks my heart thinking we may were being selfish with not letting her go sooner. Her passing appointment is today, and I can use all the strength and prayers given.
Dear Stacy,
My heart goes out to you with the recent loss of your senior girl. I hope her passing was peaceful and smooth. May her memory continue to be a blessing in your life. ♥
Last night I lost my baby girl (Yorkie) of 13.5 years. She was in very good condition. Perfect teeth and eyes only slightly clouded. Last June she developed a lump on her back which after being removed surgically turned out to be MST. In approx 3 months after the first surgery she developed a second tumor and I scheduled a second surgery. Before the day of the second surgery another lump appeared so they were removed. Before those stitches were removed more lumps appeared so that was the point at which I decided no more putting her under the knife. I kept her going to enjoy the time she had left but during that time she developed a huge mass the size and flatness of my hand and a golf sized tumor along with some other little ones. All under her skin on her left side. Anyway, she was going along fine and pain free when suddenly about a month ago, out of the blue she developed a stomach ulcer and pancreatitis . I took her to the vet and they have us pain and stomach meds. I was relieved when she came back to her normal bossy self. That was not to last for too long. On Friday I noticed she was breathing quickly and on Saturday it got to panting but she ate her morning meal so I was observing her. On Sunday she started groaning and I planned to take her today to the vet. I knew I would have had to make a choice to euthanize her before long as she was not going to be able to withstand chronic Pancreatitis every two weeks or so. Unfortunately, I was not able to give her that one last gift as she passed away overnight after being in much pain. I am devastated. I loved her more than anything. She was a good girl who loved and trusted me unconditionally. She was a loyal companion and was even protective in her own way. There will never be another one like her in my lifetime. Anyway the point of this post is that even though I was unable to give her the gift of an easy passing, I found this forum extremely helpful and my heart goes out to all of the people who posted and have lost a valuable family member in a pet. I’d like to think that she was making things easier for me so that I did not have to make that decision to euthanize her. I will love and remember her as long as my memory allows me to. I do have one consolation. I have her sister (Silky Terrier) to help me get over this loss.
Dear Gita,
My heart aches for you with the recent loss of your beloved pup. I can only imagine how much you miss her but am thankful you still have her sister by your side. Thank you for being willing to share your story with us. Just as you mentioned the forum was helpful for you, I am certain your words will be a source of comfort to others in a similar situation. I pray with time your heart will heal. May the memories you shared with your sweet girl live on and be with you always. Bless you. ♥
About 20 years ago, I had to put down my 14 year old female yellow lab lover, Amber. But it was obvious that she was suffering and had to go, as her kidneys had failed. I still recall looking into her eyes and soothing her as she went at the vet’s office. It was a powerful moment, frankly more intense that losing my mom.
I swore I would never get another dog and suffer that experience again, but a few years later, a friend hooked me up with a black lab rescue dog.
Now, I’m facing the same end of life decision with my 12 year old male black lab. Bouy. He’s been suffering sever arthritis and can hardly walk (for 6 moths now), but he’s still very loving and enjoys smelling things, eating whatever he comes across, and rolling in the grass. It’s not at all clear that he should go or wants to go, even though he sleeps a lot.
His arthritis is exacerbated by a prior severe injury to his left knee.
I feel so incredibly selfish and guilty that I’m frustrated in caring for him 24/7 and unable to play and take the walks we used to. It’s negatively impacting my own health now (I’m 66).
I find this incredibly disturbing and am losing sleep and normal life over it.
Any words of guidance out there? How does one know when to end a loving dog’s life? Can or should that be done because the dog has lost mobility?
Dear Bill,
My heart goes out to you with the difficult situation you are facing with Bouy. Without examining him myself, it is hard to know what things to suggest or what his quality of life truly is. There are many treatments and therapies available that can work wonders for dogs suffering from arthritis pain. But there is definitely a point where treatments just don’t work anymore and saying goodbye can be the most loving option. I will attach links to other articles with more information and great advice from other readers. You can also talk to your vet and see if they will schedule a quality-of-life exam for Bouy. I hope you can find the answers you need to make the best decision for you and your senior guy. Best wishes and bless you both.
1. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
2. How to Relieve Arthritis Pain in Dogs: The Ultimate Guide
3. When to Euthanize a Dog With Arthritis: A Vet’s Heartfelt Advice
I am in same boat with my Pit Bull jessie. She has falling in her own pee. I have to be with her 24/7. I do it have done it for last year in half. But i keep asking myself is she happy. Does she want yo run. I don’t sleep if she is not sleeping. I have made the call for tomorrow. My heart hurts that I did it. But she will be with my orher dog Jacob and they will run together in the clouds of heaven. Tear flowing typing this.
Dear Lorn,
I am sorry you had to say goodbye to Jessie. What a privilege it is to be able to offer a beloved pup freedom from their suffering. I can only imagine how much you miss her and Jacob but glad they both knew what it meant to be dearly loved. May the memories of the good times you shared be a blessing as you continue life’s journey.
I had scheduled an appointment for our dog, Angel, to be put to sleep tomorrow. I was acturally reading this article in preparation for tomorrow’s euthanization, when she passed away around 4:30pm today. I had been crying as I was reading about the prayer one of your children said to Luke in your other article. And when I realized Angel had passed away while I was reading, it was as if the prayer was for her… She had oral cancer and had a successful surgery last May, followed by a 6-month prognosis. She was a true fighter and our vet was pleasantly surprised she outlived the prognosis by quite a lot. Our other dog, Rocky, was unfortunately a quitter and was put down on January 24th after being diagnosed with diabetes and 4 days of hospitalization. That took us by surprise and totally devastated us. We spent 3 hours at the vet until we finally gave the “go ahead” to the final injection. It was scary thinking about going through that pain all over again so soon after… so I was reading your articles to help me cope with it. But… Angel, with all her love and care, must not want me to go through it again… After fighting for so long, she waited for me to got home (luckily I decided to leave work early today for her), drank some water, and quietly passed away an hour later, the day before her scheduled appointment. We are taking her for cremation tomorrow, and I really appreciate your heartfelt articles. We are lucky to have been loved by our pets. May all the pets and pet owners find peace. They are there patiently waiting by the door, for one day, the door opens, and we walk through to hug and kiss them again.
Dear Lin,
My heart goes out to you with your recent loss of Angel and Rocky. I am glad you were able to be home with your sweet girl in her last moments. Thank you for sharing your story with us and for the kind words about the articles. I hope the memories of your beloved pups will continue to be a blessing in your life. Praying for comfort for your heart and happier days ahead. ♥
This article was helpful. My dog is only 3 years old but after a very hard fight with a severe infection, we are putting her to sleep tomorrow. she is not eating, she barely drinks her water, she is lethargic and constantly trembling. She is not herself and I know she is in pain and tired of fighting. Her prognosis from the vet is extremely poor. I am just afraid because she is still so young and this was so unexpected. I hope I am doing right by her.
Dear Ashley,
I am so sorry for the recent loss of your young pup. You made a loving decision to allow your own heart to break so your sweet girl could find peace from her suffering. I can only imagine how much you miss her but hope you will find comfort in knowing you did everything you could. May her memory live on and be a blessing in your life. Praying for your heart to heal. ♥
Hello Everyone reading this, You are a good person and your furry baby that passed away knows how much you still care.
I wrote this for all of you and for myself. It is not easy and certain pains ( letting go our our furry baby) are maybe not meant to get better, it cut’s our heart deep and so we must accept this and craddle our hearts with unconditional love.
I lost my Samantha a Mastiff, she was my life, she had and still has my heart. I let her go after she had a knee injury for a few years that had ups and downs along with her hip displasia. At the end she no longer wanted her gabapentin and eat. The hemp induced prescribed cbd oil for dogs helped her relax her before her euthanasia administered at home with a Vet, I gave it to her an hour before the Vet arrived and do she was already very drowsy, I put some on her paw to lick and on her fur to relax her all over and inside her ears, she was feeling very good and was ready for the visit.
I tried giving the firsr needle that the vet gave me to give her on her buttox but she was all bones and I should of done it gently under the skin sideways but jabbed her broke the needle ( bent it ) and broke the plunger, my dog sat up kickly looking at me surprised wondering what was that silly pocking trick I had tried. It was a fail and so I suggest to ask the Vet to admister it instead of playing hero.
I relaxed my dog and placed a doona for her to relax but she faced the front door that time as she knew after the poke I was up to no good. I asked the Vet that was waiting outside my house with her kit to go through the backyard and had time before she walked around to place a comfy sheet on my dog and pat her, the Vet gave her the first injection with a shallow angle and my dog felt it but this time stayed down and just asked what was that in a light growl, I then slept on the floor next to her and looked at her one eye open and said kind words to her. And she closed her eyes as she was watching mine close as well.
The Vet gave her seceral other injuections to sedate her before giving her two in the belly as she could not find a vein in her back leg, perhaps because she was not using them much or because the sedation made them so relaxed.
I pat her but regret following the vet to chit chat with her outside for a minute before coming back in, I know that my dog knew I was there and she was under but I missed the second where her heart stopped as when I came back in the vet told me she was gone after taking her pulse.
She had a nice white body bag with handles and a zipper and while she went to get her car I gently backed my precious fur baby on the bottow side of the unzipped bag and essily closed it, urine and fluid came out of her and I saw two drops of blood. I know the vet ensured she would not feel her geart stop because she was pinching my dog’s toe a few times and waiting and pinching her toe again before deciding to add two in her belly.
When the Vet came back in we both carried two handles eached and my house was already full of ramps and my dog had already lost a lot of weight in her last 6 months and so it was easy to carry her into her car.
Except I really did not like the feeling that I had left the body of my Samantha with a stranger not knowing where the ashes would go but also not knowing if her body would be treated with respect. I also felt that I wanted her body back.
I knew deep down that it was best for me emotionaly to have the body gone and let go.
If she was not in pain I would of not minded all the extra care she needed helping walk at times and helikg her lift her when she wanted me to. But she had pain teo hours before her medications were due every 12 hours and plus I was spacing them to avoid interactions and so I had a lot of alarms to ensure to follow and would sometimes fail to be on exact time and so I was living with guilt of not being perfect. Also the Vet 6 months vefore her desth thought maybe Meloxicam was the cause of her on and of kidney infection and so I stopped goving her meloxicam between sept and dec and she lost most of her muscles and some bone mass. Finally the vet decided to order Cbd hemp induced hemp oil but it was too little too late, at almost 13 years old my dog could not rebuild her muscles, she was suspected to have pancreatis as she could no longer est fatty foods and so she hardly had anything to eat in her last week and a half of life and so I knew it was a good time to die,
She knew, she told me when she refused to est and take her meds and so I was the coach, I dropped the white towel and what was once a powerful and fast giant with the help of the Angel of death ( Vet) stayed immobiled on the ground, the bell rang and she Won her fight! She won her life, she was the best in my heart and she was loved by so many. The Vet told me it was the end, thar she was gone, but was she? I think it was the start for her of a new life without her painful body and on her terms!
I will remember Samantha your licks, your nibbles, how you backed your body next to me, how you stepped on my friend’s toes or stole kisses on the sofa quickly when they were distracted. I will remember you crazy agile speed and how you could master 5 soccer balls against two of us at once! I will rember your agile jumps and donuts innthe air as you raced against us and turned before bumping us as a puppy. I will remember how you listened to me in front of other dogs at the park to show off but played the clown alome with me always doing pit stops to sniff or trying to extend your walks hahaha and at the end being handicaped did not break your spirit you walked zillions of steps of your front legs as I would lift your back legs and you used to kick a little to go faster as you were so competitive.
At the wnd you could no longer jump after the birds and would let them wonder the grass around you eating all my grass seeds and the minute that you could hear me come out of the door you would do a quick bark jump with all your energy left to show me that you would always be there to protect me.
I will remember your heart, your humour, your loyalty, you knew me the best, you knew everything about me. You will never be replaced.
I wish you all the best, wathever path you take, may your soul follow the light, I promise that I will be able to protect myself and will be alright without you, I promise I won’t let anything happen to me even if you are no longer guarding my side.
If one day I do get another furry baby please know that it is not a gesture of replacement or to help me cope but a gesture that humans cannot begin to love like dogs can, I miss your love, but somehow when I close my eyes at night I can still hold you in my arms same as I was imagining doing when you were alive.
With all my love
Dear Samantha’s Mom,
Your words are beautiful, and it is clear your sweet girl was dearly loved. Thank you for sharing her story with us and offering support for others grieving the loss of a beloved pup. May Samantha’s memory be a blessing that stays with you forever. Wishing you the best as you continue life’s journey. ♥
We have made the decision to let our old dog go. Now I’m back on the Rollercoaster If I’m doing the right thing. The appointment is booked for Tuesday morning. She is 12 years. We believe she is sick. She can no longer swim, playball, go on walks, car rides are even out. But she does have bursts of energy followed by barely being able to move. Some days are better than others… there are times I feel like I’m making the right decision and other times I’m so confused!
Dear Terrylynn,
I understand the struggle to decide when the time is right to say goodbye to a beloved dog. You are not alone in this difficult decision. Make sure you lean on the advice and knowledge of your vet. You can ask them to assess your girl’s quality of life and let you know if she is suffering. I hope the appointment went smoothly and you were able to make the best choice for everyone involved. Praying for comfort for your heart. Bless you.
I just spoke to our veterinarian. My sweet chihuahua Lily is suffering from a tumor in her sinuses. The bone over the sinus has developed a hole a sinus fluid is collecting between her eyes, under the skin. She struggles to breathe. I scheduled her to be euthanized tomorrow morning. I am shattered. She will be 12 this year. She’s white and only weighs 5 pounds. she adores me and I her. I keep asking myself how I could do this to her….arrange her death. I feel horrible. Yet watching her struggle to breathe and how much that effort exhausts her is killing me. I feel so guilty for doing this….for choosing to end her life. I’m shattered.
Dear Christine,
My heart goes out to you with the recent loss of your little pup. I am so sorry you had to say goodbye, but know it was the most loving and unselfish choice you could make. You did the only thing you could to give your sweet girl peace and rest from her suffering. It is clear from your words just how much you loved her, and I am certain she knew. I pray with time your heart will heal. May her memory live on and be a blessing in your life.
I do so appreciate this information… we are preparing to help my Baxter cross the rainbow bridge and I just don’t know how I am going to be able to do this. He’s 10 years old but has a tumor between his bladder and prostate; I know it hurts him but he’s not suffering horribly at this point, I’m just afraid we’re keeping here more for us than him- and it’s only fair and decent of us to let him go.
Dear Tracey,
I am sorry Baxter’s health is declining and he is nearing the end of his life. I understand how difficult it is to make the decision about when to say goodbye. I always think it is better to let go one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. I will attach links to other articles with more information and advice. Praying for clarity and strength. Bless you all.
1. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
2. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
3. Dog Euthanasia: Knowing When to Say Goodbye
My 12 year old girl has been fine up until last week when she didn’t want to go on a walk or eat her food. Took her to the vets who did some tests and gave us the worst news imaginable yesterday that she has a sinister cancer all over her lungs which is compressing on her heart causing her to struggle to breathe. He has recommended euthanasia but has given us 7 days of steroids/gabapentin for the pain. He said that it’s likely going to make her seem better but without the meds she will be in a lot of pain. He said there’s no treatment they can do. She seems so much better today with the medicine. Eating her food and following us around as normal. We are heartbroken and in shock. We don’t know what to do. It just doesn’t seem like It’s the right time . She’s incredibly fearful and anxious of people and we are so worried that she will cry out when they have to clip her fur/inject her. She will be so stressed out and scared. My heart is broken.
Dear Hannah,
I am so sorry your senior girl has received such a devastating diagnosis. I know it is hard to face saying goodbye when the medications make her seem to feel so good. I understand your worry about your dog’s anxiety and comfort during the euthanasia process. These are valid concerns, but they can be easily managed with the right protocols and procedures. I highly recommend you contact your vet and ask about their euthanasia process. If sedation is not used, I would recommend asking if it can be added. With the right medications administered at the start, saying goodbye can be peaceful and smooth for everyone involved. You might even want to see if there is a house call vet in your area that specializes in in-home euthanasia, such as Lap of Love. I want you to be at peace with how things will go so you can focus on loving on your pup for the time she has left. Make the most of each day and take comfort in knowing you gave her a great life. Praying for your strength. Bless you both.
My beautiful Frankie left us recently. But I’m so grateful for our last hours together. I’m so thankful he chose us to be his family. We miss him so so much, some days it’s hard to bear. But I know it was his wish to leave this life – he was in late stage DM. Upon entering the room where would pass, he laid his head in my lap and closed his eyes … we talked to him and waited for the vet. When she entered and reached for his paw to insert the catheter, he opened his eyes and lifted his head just enough to reach her hand. He licked her hand 3 times then lowered his head back to my lap and never moved again – the meds were not yet dispensed. I almost think he had let himself go in that moment ..…at least his spirit. His departure was profoundly peaceful. I’m so grateful .…I see this scene in my head every day. But I know it was right and it was his wish.
Dear Lori,
This is such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. What a blessing for Frankie to have passed so peacefully. I have no doubt your presence was a comfort to him in those final moments. Your pup definitely sounds like he was a loving and beautiful soul. May his memory bring joy to your life and stay with you always. ♥
Dr. Buzby,
I just had to euthanize my 15 year old Chihuahua due to seizures that were no longer responsive to medications. I struggled and am still struggling with my decision even after the fact, because when she wasn’t having seizures she was still her typical self. I made the decision to euthanize her before her condition worsened and she was no longer “her” but I’m having a really tough time with my decision. The thought of her being confused as to what was happening and why, especially while she was still “her”, is weighing heavy on my heart but I just wanted her to leave this world with dignity. How do I find peace with this? I can’t help but feel doubtful that I made the right choice. Also, she became deaf and blind towards the end of her life, so although I was talking to her and telling her everything I wanted her to hear as she was leaving this world do you think she actually heard me or understood me? I hate thinking that she just left without knowing how much I loved her and how much she meant to me. These are things that are weighing heavy on my heart and I was hoping that you may be able to give me some peace. I appreciate you and the work you do.
Dear Keri,
My heart aches for you and the recent loss of your senior girl. I think the choice you made to say goodbye while your pup still had some dignity was an extreme act of love. What could be more unselfish than to allow your own heart to break just to give your sweet girl peace and freedom from her struggles? I always think it is better to let go one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. I know your little pup’s sight and hearing were not the best, but I am certain she could feel your presence and it was a comfort. I have no doubt she knew how much she was loved. That sort of thing doesn’t require words. ♥ May her memory live on and be a blessing to you as you continue life’s journey.
Your article on pet euthanasia was very comforting my dog Bloo was a Chihuahua
I had to have him euthanised on Sunday
I feel so guilty as they didn’t get the catheter in correctly the first time and had to do it again on the other leg after that was done my dog had to have 4 sedations as he was still snapping at them and one point got up and ran across the room. The procedure to me was so traumatising that I feel I have let my poor baby down when he needed me most. He had a heat condition stage C they called it but he was being sick and diarrhoea over 4 days and I thought it was time now I’m unsure due to the fight he put up after the sedations .
Dear Jane,
My heart aches for you with the recent loss of your little Chihuahua. I am so sorry his euthanasia did not go as you had hoped. I am certain the veterinary team did all they could to make the process as smooth as possible. Rest assured, the sedation once it finally takes effect does a great job of bringing peace and calm. You did not fail Bloo and I am sure your presence was a comfort to him during his final moments. I hope with time your heart will heal and you can allow yourself some grace. You loved your boy well. May his memory be a blessing in your life.
I’m struggling with making the decision to euthanize my 17 year old dog, Huckleberry. He is blind from cataracts and because of kidney issues is unable to have anesthesia. He exhibits all of the signs of senility. He has minor medical issues but my heart breaks watching him everyday and wondering if he is suffering. I don’t mind the extra work to take care of him, but I don’t want his life to be so very difficult annd not worth living. He used to be such an happy, energetic dog who adored me. The trouble with dementia is that it comes on so slowly and then all of a sudden it’s so life altering for the dog. Everyone close to me feels I should let him go. My heart is broken. I want to do what’s best for him.
Dear Michelle,
I understand your concern for your senior boy’s wellbeing. It is hard to watch their health and mental state slowly decline. Making the decision to say goodbye is emotional, difficult, and many times not very straight forward. From what you describe, euthanasia may be the best way to give your sweet boy relief from his struggles. My heart aches for you and this hard choice you are facing. I will attach links to other articles with more information and great advice. I hope you can find the answers you need to make the best decision for you and Huckleberry. Bless you both. ♥
1. Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
2. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
3. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
Dr. B-
I have made and cancelled two appointments to help my Jake cross the rainbow bridge. Jake is a rescue dog that has been my best buddy and the sweetest addition to our family. We have had Jakey for 12 years now and he developed Cushing’s recently. He has been deteriorating ever since. He has become blind and deaf and he is weak, and his legs sometimes give out on him. He has developed some nasal drainage recently, which the vet seems to think is evidence of a tumor. He is showing signs of Dementia and is up often at night walking in circles. He has lots of accidents in the house and sleeps/rests most of the day. As I write this, it seems very clear that he is not living a quality life, but knowing that and actually facing having to watch him pass is gut wrenching. How to I come to terms with this? How do I know that I’m making the best decision? How do I even imagine life without my Jake-my best friend? We rescued Jake from a horrible situation, and I don’t want to ruin all we have done to try to give him the best life possible by making a mistake here at the end and waiting too long to help him peacefully pass. Once thing I am certain about. I love him immeasurably. I can’t even make the call to schedule anything. I’ve read your article over and over and all of the comments here are so helpful, but I am so conflicted and sad. Also, I want to be there, holding Jake, at home when he passes, but I’m not sure I can make it through those last moments. Is there anything anyone can say to help me at this point? I appreciate any further words of wisdom from you, Dr. B., or any of your lovely readers who have gone through this emotionally impossible decision/time. I’ve been looking for help-for anyone who can say anything to help. I look forward to your responses. Thank you in advance.
Dear JJ,
I am so sorry Jake’s health is declining and he is nearing the end of his life. It is clear from your words just how much you love him, and I have no doubt he knows. I understand what a difficult decision you are facing. Letting go is hard but can sometimes be the most loving choice. I can’t think of a more selfless act than to allow your own heart to break so that your sweet boy can gain the peace and rest he deserves after a lifetime of devotion. We spend years trying to give our beloved dogs a good life and we also owe them a peaceful goodbye. I always think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. If you wait too long, the choice may be taken from you. In my experience, a “natural death” is not usually a pleasant experience. I will attach links to other articles with more information and great comments from other readers. I hope you can find the answers you need to make the best choice for you and Jake, and one you can be at peace with. Praying for your strength and comfort. Bless you both.
1. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
2. Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
3. In-Home Dog Euthanasia: Heartfelt Answers to 12 FAQs
4. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
I have rescued and provided end-of-life care to several senior Jack Russell Terriers. My current situation has an added element I find I am not prepared to deal with and could use advice. We took in two littermates in January 2020 when they were 10 years old. They will be 14 next month. The male, Jake, is in the early stages of dementia and has become increasing aggressive toward his sister, Jesse. It is heartbreaking to watch. Jesse is scared and on edge most of the time. Jake sleeps most of the day on pain killers and sedatives for anxiety, but he will not let us touch him or be near him and it gets worse into the evenings. I know the simple solution is to separate them and we keep them apart most of the time but it is taking a toll on everyone and both dogs are suffering in their own way.
Dear Peter,
I am sorry you are in this difficult situation with your two senior dogs. While it is clear that Jesse’s quality of life has been negatively impacted, I am also concerned for Jake. It may be to a point where the only way to give Jake peace from his mental struggles is to say goodbye. Here is a link to another article with great information: Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
I hope you can find the answers you need to make the best decision for everyone involved. Praying for clarity and strength. Bless you and your sweet pups.
Thank you for this article. This decision we have to make is impossibly hard and it feels like no matter what we do, there’s guilt and grief that bears heavy on us. I appreciate your honesty and letting us know what to expect when we get there.
Dear Julia,
I am sorry you are in this difficult situation. I hope you can find the advice you need to make a decision you can be at peace with. Bless you.
Dear Dr. Buzby,
Thank you for taking the time to write these articles. We have an appointment to put our almost 16 year old Chorkie named Lexie down this coming Friday, January 13th. She has dementia really bad and she has suffered from Canine Degenerative Disc Disease for years where now her back is arched and she has a difficult time walking and maintaining her balance.. She still has such an appetite and is drinking well, but her body has been failing her for sometime now. She was our first family dog together and has grown up with my daughter who was in first grade when we got Lexie and our daughter is now a senior in college. We are all so heartbroken, but we know it’s time and we don’t want her to suffer anymore. We had two cats years ago that we had to put to sleep a year apart from eachother and that was so difficult. Lexie grew up with those other two cats and was lonely when they were gone, so we ended up adopting 2 new kitties and all three of them have gotten along really well. I’m hopeful that our previous kitties, Buddy and Daisy, will be there to welcome Lexie and be with her again. If I could have one wish it’s that our pets could live longer because they offer the most purest form of unconditional love and acceptance. They truly are a gift to us all. Thank you again for the work that you do.
Sincerely,
Jessica
Dear Jessica,
I am sorry for your recent loss of Lexie. I can only imagine how much you must miss her, but what a blessing to have shared almost 16 years together! I hope her passing was smooth and peaceful. Thank you for the kind words. I am very appreciative of readers like yourself who are willing to share your experiences in hopes of being a comfort to others. May Lexie’s memory be a blessing to you and your family for years to come.
Your story is so very similar to mine right now. My dog, Roxie, has made it to the long age of 17. She has had dementia I believe for awhile- gets stuck under chairs, paces, has terrible incontinence issues, and walks with a back arched and legs often sliding behind her. Yet she occasionally gets this puppy look on her face and still loves food and drinks plenty of water. I know they say there is a right time so it does not go past that right time- but it never really feels right!
I hope your day brought you and your family peace. I know how difficult it probably was and still is. We have our appointment today- mostly due to finding a very abnormal growth on Roxie but over the weekend, my family discussed it might just be time to say goodbye to her. I still cannot accept this as happening but I know she is getting close to us feeling like we waited too long. You are right- it would be nice dogs lived longer since they are our family. I read something once where a little girl said after her pet passed that people have to live longer to make sure they love as much as they can- but dogs love so hard and so very much that it does not take as long for them to be here to give all their love. I think that is probably true.
Dear Kelly,
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Your words are so full of truth and love. Dogs really do love hard and give of themselves completely. Humans have a lot they could learn from dogs. I am sorry for your recent loss of Roxie. My thoughts are with you as you navigate this new path forward without her by your side. May her memory be a blessing in your life. Wishing you all the best for a bright future.
Thank you so much for this article and for the space to let people express their emotions. We say goodbye to Lars, our 13 year old Chihuahua/Pug mix, this coming Monday. His kidneys are failing and, like so many others who have written, I struggle about the timing. I am sure we could keep him going for another month or two, but he is so afraid of the vet clinic now after numerous tests and injections that I don’t want him to have to go through any more frightening treatments. My heart is breaking, but I have to say that I’ve never been through anything worse than having my little Chihuahua, Louie, die in my lap after a series of seizures, when our clinic was closed and I could do nothing for him but watch him suffer. I am grateful – terribly sad, but grateful – that on Monday a vet will come to our house and help me say goodbye to Lars gently and kindly, the way I wish would have been possible with Louie.
Dear Diane,
My heart aches for you with your recent loss of Lars. I am so glad you were able to say goodbye in your own home where he was most comfortable and surrounded by your presence. It is clear from your words how much you loved Lars, and I have no doubt he knew. I hope his passing was peaceful and smooth. Praying he is now at rest and with your sweet Louie. Thank you for being willing to share your story. Bless you and best wishes for a happy future.
Thank you this has given me some comfort as I lie awake ne t to my old dog at 3am after she woke up with a seizure. I’m preparing for the end and it’s a lonely time.
Dear Lucy,
My heart goes out to you as you face these difficult times ahead. You are not alone. Bless you and your senior girl. ♥
Dr. Buzby,
This was an excellent article and roadmap for me. I am comforted by your words and compassion when dealing with the impending loss of a pet. Simply remarkable! I know it won’t be an easy process but this article has helped me more than words can say!
Peace and Blessings
Regards,
Janet
Hi Janet,
I am glad you found the article to be helpful and comforting during this difficult time. Thank you for the kind words. Bless you. ♥
Thank you for these comforting words. Tomorrow we will help our sweet little pittie girl, Sloane, transition beyond her suffering before it becomes too immense. She’s so young and still full of joy and love, so it is incredibly difficult to say goodbye. She’s had a brief 6-7 week battle with aggressive B cell lymphoma and we’ve thrown everything at it despite an early misdiagnosis. It’s heartbreaking to see the rapid toll it’s taken despite our best efforts for remission. She’s brought us so much comfort and happiness in a dark time. Five and a half years is not enough. I will give myself grace knowing I’m not prolonging her suffering seeing her recent rapid decline and can give her peace without her experiencing any memories of substantial suffering. She has had the best days lately full of car rides, treats, and snuggles. Tomorrow will be devastating for our family.
Dear Tara,
My heart aches for you with your recent loss of Sloane. I know the decision to say goodbye was terribly difficult. What a blessing to have given her so much joy in her last days and it sounds like she lived a happy life. Thank you for sharing your story. It helps others to know they are not alone and gives them hope. My thoughts are with you as you navigate a new path forward. May Sloane’s memory be with you always.
Thank you for your compassionate words. I have known for some time that Toby has liver failure among other things. At nearly 17, this day has been inevitable, but I could not set up a time for euthanasia. It was a 3 seizure night. I am finally at peace and know the balance has tipped to a point where. he enjoys life less than he should. There is clarity.
Dear Rhonda,
I am sorry you are in such a difficult situation with Toby. It is hard to watch a beloved pup’s health slowly decline. I am glad you found the answers you needed to make this emotional choice. When the time comes, I hope Toby’s passing will be smooth and peaceful. I have no doubt he knows how much he is loved. Praying for your strength. Bless you both.
I’m really glad I read this, I am having the hardest time right now knowing that I have to let my baby go! My baby boy is only 4.5 years old but was diagnosed with lymphoma almost 5 months ago 😪 he was misdiagnosed 4 times over about a 2.5 month period which causes a lot of wasted time treating him for things that were unrelated to his cancer, which lead to the conclusion that by the time we knew exactly what he had it had progressed so rapidly & he had already been taking prednisone for so long that the other treatments we tried didn’t work & he has been in a rapid decline ever since! We finally made the call on Monday to schedule a quality of life assessment & to put him to rest tomorrow afternoon and I am just an emotional wreck at this moment! He is so young, he has always been so healthy and strong until this happened, and it literally happened over night and just completely took over his body so fast that I feel so guilty for not knowing what it was earlier so that he had a better chance with a treatment! I am just having a very hard time with this, it does help seeing some of your stories and comments & knowing I’m not alone. But my heart is just breaking more and more by the minute knowing that I had to make the decision to put him to rest, even though I know he is ready. He’s lost 20 pounds in 3 months, all his lymph nodes are swollen so big & he just refuses to eat. He’s starting to limp and it almost looks painful for him to walk because the nodes in his groin are so swollen. I know he’s ready to go, but it doesn’t make the decision any easier! Thank you for sharing this & for everyone else sharing your experiences with this, please keep my boy in your prayers as we get through his last day with us!
Dear Jessica,
My heart goes out to you with the recent loss of your boy. I know you would have done anything to spend some extra time with him, but it sounds like saying goodbye was the most loving option. I hope his last day was full of joy surrounded by those who loved him most. Thank you for sharing your story with our readers. Praying your heart will be comforted by the memories of all the good times spent together. Bless you.
I have an appointment tomorrow (December 29th) with my vet to find out if it’s time to say goodbye to my 12 year old sheltie. It’s been hard watching her struggle with her footing and looking like she’s almost constantly uncomfortable, her sight is beginning to go, I stopped walks because she seemed to have a hard time, she likely has cancer and she’s beginning to lose weight. But she still eats well, is bright and looks forward to treats, potties with no problems. So I don’t know if now’s the right time or what. But this article has really helped, and I’m glad I found it.
Hi Michelle,
I am sorry you are noticing a decline in your Sheltie’s health. I think it is a good thing you are having her evaluated by your vet. What did you find out? I am glad the article was helpful and offered some comfort. Praying for you and your sweet girl. ♥
Thank you for this ❤️ I have scheduled euthanasia in my home for my beloved Bill, a pit mix that I rescued 7 years ago. I was told that he was 8 at the time, but not sure that is true. Regardless, we have had the best 7 years together, he has been my true companion. He tore his ACL last year and we nursed it to health rather than doing the surgery. Things were going so well, he was no longer wearing a brace, and then he tore his other ACL and life started to get difficult. He was in so much pain, miserable just laying in bed, and requiring a lot more help from me in ways that aren’t sustainable, so we decided to schedule him. Since then, the drugs have helped so much but I realize it’s just a cover up. I’ve dealt with a lot of guilt and found myself needing external validation, as if I feel like I’m giving up on him. But there comes a point where we have to look at everyone’s quality of life, and it just isn’t the same. We are planning a burger night for his last night and will say goodbye to him on Saturday morning. I just hope he understands how much I love him and that’s why I’m doing this. ❤️🩹
Dear Kelly,
I am sorry you had to say goodbye to your beloved Bill. You made a loving choice to let go and give him relief from his struggles and pain. It is clear from your words that Bill was a big part of your life, and he was well cared for. I am certain he knew how much you loved him and was comforted by your presence. I hope his passing was smooth and peaceful. May Bill’s memory be a blessing as you continue life’s journey. Wishing you happier days ahead.
My mom passed away April of last year and my step dad in June of this year. Her little dog, Willie, did not recieve the best of care in my stepdads care. He wasn’t given his heartworm preventative and when I got him in June, he was heartwork positive, had glaucoma and was 10 years old. He had gotten worse and we have made the decison to let him go tomorrow. Its very difficult since he is my last connection to my mom. I really appreciate this information so I can be prepared for tomorrow.
Dear Misty,
My heart aches for you and all the losses you have endured over the last year. I hope Willie’s passing was smooth and peaceful. I pray with time your heart will heal and you will be comforted by all the memories of times you shared with your family. Bless you. ♥
Thank you for mentioning the part about administering a sedative before the final injection. This happened this way exactly on December 1st. My 12.9 year old lab was fine one minute then suddenly late in the evening entered into a medical crisis. I rushed her to emergency, and many tests later, it was confirmed she had a tumour on her spleen rupture. She was conscious but barely, and in shock. None of her vitals were good at all. At one point near the end, from being awake but non-responsive to any stimuli, she started to make light growly noises, and when the vet came back in the room, I told her “she’s not comfortable”. The vet said she would give her pain meds to help her feel more comfortable, and I was expecting to see my girl feel more at peace, but instead she started breathing really heavy and her eyes went grey. I had already consented to euthanasia but I didn’t realize that “pain medication” was actually the first injection to the process and that my girl would completely lose consciousness. I was there gripping her face/head the entire appointment, my head usually right on top of hers, but I didn’t say anything to her. I had nothing to say to her in those final moments, and wish I had known she was going to lose consciousness at that moment. I was so stunned about everything that seemed to be happening so fast that night, I was not really totally present either. I take peace in knowing I told my girl multiple times a day “I couldn’t possibly love you more, until tomorrow” and it was always so so true. I never left home without her since she was 7 weeks old. I truly hope she was not in pain or suffering, that her own level of consciousness and shock may have protected her during the 2 hours from when she fell ill to her final breath.
Dear I-lost-my-girl,
I am so sorry for the loss of your senior girl. I can only imagine the emotions and grief you are experiencing since saying goodby several weeks ago. I am sorry the level of sedation was a shock after the pain medication was administered. Even though your girl was seemingly unconscious, I have no doubt she knew you were right there with her and that your presence was a comfort. What a blessing you were able to stay by her side until her final moments. It is clear just how much she was loved, and I am certain she knew that too. May her memory be a blessing and I pray your heart will find peace.
We had to Say goodbye to our beautiful Maya a week ago. She was diagnosed only a month ago with kidney disease, and no matter the treatment her body just didn’t respond to it, her labs just kept getting worse, she had lost so much weight, would not eat anything, we were already in talks to help her cross over in the next few days since we didn’t see any improvements and it was obvious that her quality of life had greatly diminished, when very suddenly, after IV fluids she started to have trouble breathing, it sounded literally like she was choking, it was so horrible to watch and to this day it haunts me. in that moment with no time to really think about it we knew that it was time. That no matter how we tried to help her, her body was tired, was not responding to any treatment, and that she was suffering and sadly it was time to let her go.
Something that has been troubling me is that at the moment, we had ZERO doubts in our decision, we knew that we were advocating for her, and just helping her cross over to the other side, where she would not be in any pain, and just free to run and eat as she pleased…but as days passed I began to feel really guilty, thinking that maybe we could have done something to help with her breathing, that maybe there was still something to be done, to save her, and i just feel so bad at the possibility that we might have let her go too soon, it’s just such a difficult time for us as family, we miss her SO much, and i know that the guilt it’s probably part of the mourning process… but still, i just hope we are able to heal our hearts
Dear Fernanda,
I am so sorry for your loss of Maya. You made a loving decision to give her peace and rest from her suffering. I understand you are grieving and burdened by the “what ifs”. You did right by your girl and did not fail her. Even if you could have fought to prolong her life and she became stable, how long would it have lasted? A few days? I always think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary pain and struggling. I can only imagine how much she is missed. I pray with time your heart will heal. May Maya’s memory be a blessing to you and your family.
I’ve read your comments every day since the day we had to put down our first Doxie down 18 months ago. Since then we’ve lost 3 more Doxies, with the last being 2 days ago. All of them reached 17 years old or more. The sadness with everyone of them was always the same. We were always hopeful that we gave them the best life possible. The worst part was waiting for pain of missing them to ease up. It was different for each one. Thank You for listening!
Dear Nick,
I am so sorry you have been through the loss of all 4 of your sweet Doxies over the last 2 years. I can only imagine the emotions you are working through with this most recent goodbye. What a blessing you were able to share at least 17 years with each one of your pups. That’s a lot of good memories. ♥ I hope this new year will bring healing and comfort to your heart. Thank you for sharing.
My sweet furry baby is a 16.5yr old yorkie and his vet first gave me info about euthanizing in February of this year when she explained how his dementia was progressing along with congestive heart failure. He wears diapers 24/7 because he has no bladder or bowel control. He’s lost most of his hearing, vision and even sense of smell – but it’s just so hard to let go. Last week he had what was clearly a very painful (he was screaming!) seizure!! He’s NEVER done that before. The vet told me he’s really suffering. He doesn’t like to go on walks, he stares at doors/walls and really doesn’t even always recognize us. I’m praying God gives me strength to do what I know is right by him. I just feel so guilty. The vet has assured me I’ve done all I can for him, but I feel so unworthy to make a life/death decision. I just keep thinking if he’s still breathing and eating (a little) that he wants to live. Please assure me putting him to sleep is actually a final act of love as my vet has assured me it is. I am so heartbroken. 😢
Dear Wendy,
I am sorry your sweet boy is nearing the end of his life. I understand how difficult it is to make a choice to say goodbye. From what you describe, it does sound like he is struggling and letting go may be the only way to give him peace and rest. I always think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. I hope you can find the advice you need to make the best decision for you and your pup. Praying for your strength and comfort.
Sitting here crying reading the blog and the responses, but I thank everyone for their stories because it’s making me feel not so alone in this journey. Our 11-12 year old Boston started having seizures in mid-August. All of his bloodwork and x-rays came back fine (really healthy for his age, actually), which means most likely a brain or sinus tumor. Given his age we decided not to do anything invasive, but just focus on medication symptom management. The seizures have gotten progressively worse and have started to cluster, plus he is now having anxiety and disorientation. He is on multiple (strong) anti-seizure meds and we have upped the dose multiple times; it works for at most 10 days before he has another single seizure, then a day or so later there’s another cluster. He recently had a very bad cluster and we made the call for at home euthanasia scheduled for tomorrow. The problem is, as many others have shared, he has good days. He hasn’t had a full seizure in almost a week (although there have been some focal ones). He certainly isn’t his normal self, but he isn’t in pain and I am so guilt-riddled about saying goodbye because of that. At the same time, I know that the next cluster is probably days away and will be even worse. Knowing that other people are here, have been here, and have made the same decision makes me feel, if not better, at least validated that I’m doing what’s best for him (although it’s not great for me). Anyway, thanks for the post, the comments, and the space to “vent.”
Dear Taryn,
I am sorry you had to face the difficult decision to say goodbye to your beloved boy. Allowing your own heart to break to give your sweet guy peace and freedom from his suffering is the most unselfish and loving choice you could make. I am glad you found some comfort from the article and comments from other readers. I hope with time your heart will heal. May the memories of your senior guy be a blessing to you as you continue life’s journey.
Thank you for this blog … I found it while looking for something like this to give me some sort of peace…
Monday 12-12.22 we have scheduled to let go of our baby girl Noelle.. She is 16 1/2 and has deteriorated very much this past week. She’s a dachshund and our baby girl I can’t even believe that I’m writing this . She is blind and deaf, but was doing very well even with the disability. Monday of last week. Her front legs started to buckle every so often and although she is still walking and eating and drinking water. She seems tired and sad. She’s very uncomfortable even in her own bed tossing and turning to put her self in a comfortable position. As I sit here and I look at her, she looks for adorable self, but I don’t see that anymore when she’s up and about
When I take her out in our backyard, she will pee and then just stare and chooses not to move forward .
Last night I did not sleep as she had me up every hour and a half wanting to go out. She’s been drinking a lot more water than normal.
How do I live the next 48 hours doing that she will be gone after that? I don’t think I could bear to be in the same room when she takes her last breath.?
I can stop thinking that these moments will be coming to an end very soon.
The guilt of whether I’m making the right decision is consuming me. She has been with me through thick and thin the good the bad..
I know that she will not get better, but it still hurts to make this decision.
We chose in-house euthanasia because I don’t want her last moments to please put on a cold table set a roof is the familiar with But I don’t know if I could be next to her through the whole process, and that itself is killing me as I don’t want to leave her .
Dear Paula,
I am so sorry you had to say goodbye to your beloved Noelle. From what you described, you definitely made the right decision to give her peace and rest from her struggles. I hope her passing was smooth and you were able to find some comfort in the process as well. I know you are missing your sweet girl and her absence will leave a void in your life. I hope with time your heart will heal and Noelle’s memory will be a blessing. ♥
Thank you so much for this article Dr. Budzy. We recently put our 6.5 year old golden retriever down. He had a couple of occurrences with bladder stones. The first time a couple of months ago we found out through an ultrasound that he was experiencing them. The doctor did not suggest surgery at that time but they did give him meds to take a week prior and they seemed to have helped and he had been urinating normally and didn’t seem to be in any pain anymore so as time went on we thought they had passed. A few days ago he was asking to go out more than Normal and he was whining and seemed like he was in pain so having seen familiar behavior from his previous encounter, I went outside with him to watch him urinate and there was hardly anything coming out (it was like a dribble). So I called the vet hospital and we took him in and after X-rays they said there were 20 or more stones in his bladder and one being lodged in his urethra causing a bladder obstruction. He was in pain and he was pacing and panting and panicking because he couldnt urinate. It broke my heart to see him that way. They said he would need surgery to remove the stones and he would have to be on a special diet the rest of his life and that it’s very common for stones to reoccur after surgery resulting in the same outcome of surgery again. We asked a thousand questions because we were confused and scared all at the same time because we didn’t want to see him go through this pain and surgery just for it all to happen again. We didn’t want him to suffer anymore. We loved our sweet boy more than anything. He was our first baby and my first dog (my husbands second). There is so much guilt and uncertainty in this hard decision we made but we felt that we didn’t want to put him through anymore pain and suffering. We are broken by this and our house will never be the same without our sweet boy. He will forever be in our hearts. ❤️
Dear Jada,
I am sorry for your loss of your Golden boy. These decisions are so incredibly difficult, and nothing is straight forward. You made a loving decision to offer your sweet guy peace and freedom from his pain. I have no doubt he knew how much you cared about him. I hope you will find comfort knowing he lived a happy life full of joy. May his memory be a blessing to you and your husband.
Dear Jada,
I just wanted to share with you that my 4yo Yorkie had bladder stone surgery 3x and was facing a more invasive 4th when I chose to end his suffering. The surgeries were tough to heal from & left his bladder in bad shape & they always came back within 3 months. So please don’t feel guilty. It can easily be a never ending cycle of stones that is so painful for them. I hope you find comfort in all the good memories, Kim
I have a 3 year old Beagle, my Reese Cup. She had a bladder full of stones and had them surgically removed in January 2022. Then, had her recessed vulva surgically repaired a few months later because it was thought to be causing uti’s which then caused stones to form. We have had multiple vet visits between then and now to keep an eye on her urine and do X-rays. She was all clear as of February 2023. Until she had a few accidents in the house and peed out 9 stones in my bedroom floor. We had a vet visit today and found her bladder is full of stones again. We’ve done the special diet ever since the bladder stone removal surgery over a year ago. The vet says we can try to dissolve the stones with the wet version of the special food (Hills c/d Science diet) and antibiotics. If that doesn’t work, surgery would be needed. I’ve spent well over $3k over this past year. And ironically I developed kidney stones myself and have been battling them since January 2023 and have been in agony at times. I say all of this because I don’t know what to do. When is it time to stop the cycle?
Hi Jessica,
I understand why you are frustrated and concerned about Reese’s well-being. If you are starting to question her quality of life, it may be time to think about a referral to a specialist. They can let you know if there are other therapies or treatments to try that may not be readily available in general practice. Without examining your girl, myself, it is hard to make specific recommendations. I pray you can find a way to restore her health and give her a chance at a long and happy future. Wishing you strength and clarity. Bless you both.
On November 25th, I said goodbye to my 14 and a half year old rat terrier, Bella. I really have been struggling whether I made the right decision or not. I have four other dogs, four rat terriers that range in age from 10 weeks to 5 years old and a chocolate lab- Springer spaniel that’s almost 11 years old. I tell you this because over the last year or so, Bella had become more aggressive toward the chocolate lab/spaniel and the five-year-old rat terrier. We could not keep the lab and Bella together at all and had to stand guard, always on edge between her and the 5-year-old terrier. In the mix, I became collateral damage a half dozen times.
I had taken Bella to the vet two to three different times to see if there was anything that I could do because she had bitten me at least four times, One vet said that can’t happen and that Bella won’t change. The other vet just listened and said when it was time to humanely euthanize her, to let her know. The vet commented that sometimes a day too early is better than a day too late.
On Thanksgiving night, Bella attacked my lab again when she was let outside. In fear of my 16 year old daughter, myself or one of the other dogs being injured or even worse, I made the decision to euthanize her.
All of my dogs used to play so well together and had no problems, so the aggression was definitely a change in Bella’s demeanor. She had lost weight (another pound in a month) despite the fact she was still eating, It would take her 3 to 4 times to eat her bowl of food which she used to eat it all at once. I noticed an increase in her shaking all the time. I wondered if her pain hadn’t increased. Within the last 2-3 months, she seemed to have her days and nights mixed up too. She would get up three four times a night and randomly roam, scratch your back, drink some water, or want to go outside. She also seemed like she was confused at times and the vet suspected doggy dementia.
About 3-4 years ago, Bella had a mast cell cancerous tumor removed by her ear, but she bounced back really well. That vet said she could get it back in the same spot or maybe some place else, but I never noticed any lumps or bumps on her.
The last time I took her in, was a month ago. I wanted to make sure I exhausted all possibilities before making the devastating decision to put her to sleep. I had been giving her Rimadyl for pain and she was also on dasaquin because she had surgery to repair her knee. My intention was to do blood work, but the vet said sometimes knowing there’s nothing in the test results could make it more difficult because there’s no reason for her behavioral and physical changes. To calm her anxiety, I was also giving her a quarter tab of trazodone. sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t.
It’s been a struggle and I’ve been in constant tears wondering if I made the right decision for Bella. and you’re all feedback would be welcomed. I miss her so much and I find myself constantly looking at the last couple of pictures I took of her.
I found this article and read it after the fact and some of the things were mentioned that I wish I would have known and done beforehand. My daughter and I did take her for a short walk and fed her some chicken nuggets. She had a lot of allergies, so she didn’t get a lot of extras other than baby carrots which she loved. I regret not doing more for and with her before euthanizing her, and I sure hope she knew that she was loved! It is not an easy decision to make and I wonder constantly if I made the right decision on her behalf. I have so much grief and guilt!! Did I do the right thing?
Dear Shelley,
My heart goes out to you with your recent loss of Bella. Yes, you most definitely did the right thing. From what you describe, it sounds like most of Bella’s issues (including the aggression) may have been due to canine cognitive dysfunction/dementia just like your vet suspected. Your vet was right that more than likely her blood work would have been normal. It can be so hard to make decisions about quality of life when most of the issues are mental instead of physical. But mental suffering can be just as bad, if not worse, than physical suffering. You made the most unselfish and loving decision to give Bella peace and rest. You did not fail her, and I have no doubt she knew how much you cared about her. After over 14 years of love and devotion, you chose to allow your own heart to break so Bella could be freed from her suffering. That is THE definition of love. I hope with time you will allow yourself some grace and find comfort in the memories of the good days. Bless you. ♥
We’re putting our 18 year old rat terrier Pixie to sleep Monday afternoon. She is our world and we will miss her so very much!! She is not herself and is not happy any longer. I will spend the day tomorrow holding her.
Dear Donna,
My thoughts are with you as you go through these emotional days without Pixie. I hope her passing was peaceful and she was comforted with you by her side. What a blessing to have spent 18 years with your sweet girl. May her memory stay with you forever.
Our beloved Mitzy (12 year old Shitzu/Yorkie mix) is in final stages of renal failure. We recently started noticing rapid weight loss, refusal of food, refusal of treats, frequent urinating, excessive drinking and larthargy and took her to the vet last week. We had no idea at the time what her ailment was. They admitted her for a few days of IV fluids because her creatinine, Bun & phosphorus were high. Her levels didn’t decrease much constant IV fluids. We brought her home after 3 days of intensive care. Our vet was optimistic that she may do well for a little while as long as we took her in for subcutaneous fluids once a week & even offered to teach us how to do at home. She was home one day and things started going down hill again the next. When we took her back 2 days later, her labs showed rapid decline as Creatinine and Bun were now off the chart meaning that she would not be able to be off IV fluids at all. We were asked if we were ready to make the decision to euthanize but neither of us could make that decision at that given moment. She was admitted again overnight on IV fluids. We cried all evening yesterday & this morning knowing that the best decision is to say goodbye. Our vet called this morning to tell us how she is doing and offered that he can get her full of fluids and allow us to take her home for Thanksgiving but advised that we will want to bring her back first thing Friday morning because she will be in the same state or worse again. We know this is not the answer so we have decided to have her euthanized this afternoon. This is the saddest day I’ve had in a very long time. It’s the hardest decision I’ve had to make. We’ve had our Mitzy Boo since she was only 8 weeks old and weighed only 1.3 lbs. She helped us thru empty nest syndrome the first year we had her and has been such a joy to us ever since. She’s our little girl. I sure wish there was a magic cure (I know there isn’t) and that our fur babies could live as long as we do. I swear she is the sweetest little dog that ever existed, not a mean bone in her body. I will forever love my girl and will miss her so much. My heart hurts so bad! I’m sorry for rambling….this is just so hard! I hate that her last days were at the vet also but I just can’t stand the thought of bringing her home again, her suffering more & the thought of having to take her back for that reason only kills my soul so I feel it’s best to let her go without all that. After reading your blog, I have decided to take her bed and to get her a chicken tender (her absolute favorite thing is chicken) as a last treat. I’m not sure she will eat it but I want her to feel our love and have the opportunity for that one last bite of her favorite thing. I’m so glad I stumbled up on this. It really helps to have read it. .
Dear Dina,
My heart goes out to you as you grieve the loss of sweet Mitzy. I agree you made the right decision to give her rest and end her struggles. I am glad you found some comfort from the article and hope Mitzy was able to enjoy her chicken. What a blessing to be by her side until her final moment. I have no doubt she knew how much she was loved. I hope with time your heart will heal. May her memory stay with you forever. ♥
Hi,
I just wanted to comment because this is exactly what I’m going through with my 12 1/2 year old chug. We’ve been giving her fluids at home but her numbers worsened instead of improving and she has been doing all the things you listed as well. We have an appointment to put her down today and I have been physically sick and sobbing. I don’t really know what the point of my comment is but I wanted to thank you for yours because it is really reassuring and comforting to see someone who has a similar situation as I’m feeling a lot of guilt and hesitance. I’m sorry if this is just my ramblings but I’m so sorry for your loss and thank you
Dear Ana,
I am sorry for the loss of your sweet girl. I am glad you were able to find some comfort in knowing you are not alone. I hope your senior girl’s passing was peaceful. May your heart be comforted by the memories of the good times shared together. ♥
Our little man is approximately 19-20 years old. He’s a rescue, I’ve had him almost 18 years. The vet said he was approximately 1 1/2 to 2 years old at the time. The first years of his life were awful, he was beaten badly and had been left on the street to die when found. He’s been deaf the whole time we’ve had him, assume he was born that way but potentially from the beating. The last almost 18 years of his life were very different. He was afraid of us at first, we learned that if we sat down he would feel safer to approach. He’s been loved on by my sons and I as a single Mom, and then by our blended family for the last 8 years. He always knew who was hurting over something and would give them extra love. He’s walked us through divorces and betrayal and death of family members. He’s never been aggressive in spite of how badly he was initially treated. One day I overheard my son that was 13 at the time say , you picked me because you knew I didn’t have any friends…. Little Bear did choose that son first to trust. I had to put one dog down before but there was no choice involved. Choosing to let go of this little guy that has been there so much for our family is killing me. We’ve been trying everything, but now his vision is gone too and his balance. I’ll come home to find him standing in a corner whimpering. He’s only 25 lbs, for the last few months I’ve had to carry him outside to do his business but he could walk around well out there, not anymore. Sorry this is so long. The kids are coming home for Thanksgiving- my husband says I should put him down first. I think they should say goodbye. I did appreciate your article a lot. Thank you…
Dear Sue,
I can feel the emotion in your words as you describe just how much Little Bear means to you and your family. I am sorry his body and mind are failing him but glad he is still surrounded by those who love him most. I understand how difficult this decision can be and my heart goes out to you as you navigate this tough path. I hope you can find the “right time” to say goodbye to your sweet boy. Praying for comfort for your heart and for your kids. Bless you and thank you for sharing your story with us. ♥
Thank you for this blog, we have a Russian sheperd she is 2 years old, she is a very big dog but also very territorial. She is not a pet for a home, sadly my boyfriend got her as a puppy and he rehome her and then got her back. She have a lot of anxiety, fear agression. We love her deeply but we have so many different accidents because she is unpredictable. She guard the door most of the times and doesnt want to let us go out and tried to byte several times. She want to attack other dogs specially small and female too. She doesn’t do well we strangers we cannot bring any people to our apartment either. Sometimes she is obedient but most of the times she dont even let us put the leash on. We also got an accident with my boyfriend Mom’s, we went to visit them but she was on a kennel and it was not the bes situation and she end up byte her and it was not ok. We end up in very hard situation of putting her down, she can be trained but she is not going to be able to be “fixed” and stop being so territorial. Sometimes she is a sweetheart but most of the times she can be uncontrollable and unpredictable. My boyfriend decided to put her down this upcoming Monday, because no shelter will receive her specially because she have a byte history already. I feel so devastated and guilty for not giving her more time, I did a lot of research about her breed and they are a very rare breed dont not always end up in a family. I just want to feel we are doing the right thing, and that we tried, I love her so much and for me is so hard to let her go and think we are doing the right thing. Is so hard in many situations with her even to put her on a kennel and not to know what she is going to do next. Thank you everyone, and I hope someone can read my message and find some comfort words after this.
Dear Lucyl,
My heart aches for you and this difficult decision you have had to make about your young Shepherd. Aggression issues are very serious and cause suffering for everyone involved, including your pup. I know the decision to say goodbye was extremely difficult, but I feel like you did what was best. Try not to dwell on all the “what ifs” and allow yourself some grace. I hope with time your heart will heal. Bless you. ♥
Yesterday we had to say goodbye to our sweet 15 year old Pugoo. He was diagnosed three weeks ago with Stage 3 renal failure, two small masses in liver and gallstones, Also had a heart murmur detected two years ago. We decided to observe him over the holidays and saw that he had difficulty breathing, his rib cage expand, losing weight, extremely fatigued and clingy. It hurt us to see him suffering and the look of pain was overwhelming. I sensed him saying “Mom let me go”. The day before his appointment I took him to his favorite place -the beach. He enjoyed sniffing the grass, kelp, driftwood and sand. I gave him all the time in the world and let him lead the way. He was content and free exploring. Bet it was one of the happiest days for him. I gave him tri tip his favorite food. The next morning we went to the Vet and he knew something was up as he was shaking like crazy. Been there for many visits and familiar but that day was different for him. He knew. We elected to have him put to sleep there because we thought it would be less traumatic for our kids. Wish I had him put to sleep at the beach instead. I requested that the Vet allow me to hold Sam during sedation but opted to not be present during euthanasia. The thought of him gasping for his last breath was unsettling. Also being the highly emotional type I didn’t want Sam to sense my deep sadness and angst. He quickly melted in my arms during the sedation and the Doctor took him away. The last memory of my sweet boy was seeing him limp and sleeping. We immediately left and I wailed in the car in total disbelief that I let him go. Why? I now feel guilty that I should have been there while he took his last breath. I wish I could rewrite the ending. There are so many “what ifs”. Wish I could have done more for him. Did he look for me when he took his last breath? I feel like I failed him.
Dear Cher,
My heart goes out to you as you work through your grief of losing Sam. I can only imagine how much you miss him. What a blessing you were able to spend one last wonderful day together at the beach. I have no doubt Sam knew how much he was loved. Please don’t beat yourself up over saying goodbye after the sedation. I am certain the sedative had your sweet boy completely relaxed and he was comforted by the presence and voices of the veterinary staff. I have done many euthanasia’s without the owner present, and we always make sure to love on those pups and see they are well cared for until their last breath. I hope with time your heart will heal and you can allow yourself some grace. May Sam’s memory be a blessing to you and your family as you continue life’s journey. ♥
Hello and thank you for your article. Even though I’ve had to put several dogs down it does not get any easier for me. Our 7 year old choc lab, Max, was being treated for allergies since August. When allergy medicine wasn’t working and he was actually getting sicker (reverse sneezing started) we went to vet for CT scan. It was a nasal tumor which I have learned is one of the most painful of cancers for dogs. I will be putting him down this Friday and it’s so hard seeing him now knowing he won’t be here Friday night. It’s heartbreaking. I sure hope dog heaven exists and I sure hope I can see him again some day. Dogs are taken way too soon. In such a short period of time they leave such a lifetime of love though. Love you forever Max!
Hi Kris,
I am so sorry you had to say goodbye to Max. You made an unselfish choice to free him from his suffering and struggles. I can only imagine how much he will be missed but have no doubt he was well loved. Thank you for being willing to share your experience with us. May Max’s memory live on and give you peace.
Thank you for this article. Our, (I can’t even put it into words), baby Savannah is leaving us tomorrow. I’m sad that she has declined so fast that her greatest joy, food isn’t a pleasure to her anymore and we don’t get to have a really good send off for her last day. That’s so hard! I am glad she won’t be in pain any longer and I appreciate you mentioning that hearing is one of the last things to go, so we’ll be telling her how much she’s meant to us and how much we’ll miss her. I don’t know what lies beyond but I hope she finds my Mom and jumps all over her with kisses like she used to love to do. Anyway, Thank you. And thank YOU Savvy Jane for coming into our lives and changing it forever and for the best. ❤️
Dear Jen,
My heart aches for you and your recent loss of Savannah. I am glad you were with her during her final moments. I am sure it was a comfort for her to hear your voice and feel your presence. I have no doubt she knew how much she was loved. May her memory be a blessing that follows you the rest of your life. ♥
I feel your pain, our Husky (sitka) is 11, what started as a nasal infection I thought was really the worst. Sitkas left eye is bulging and does not push in, her head is swollen, and she went through the nose bleeds and reverse sneezes. She is the most kind and gentle dog I have ever had. She would never hurt a fly, and still jumps and plays. We have an appointment to put her down tomorrow, and it’s killing me inside, hence why Im on this site. Trying to keep my mind off things but I can’t believe im doing this. Just font want any more bad days ( nose bleeds and sneezes) she is a trooper and would probably tske the pain just so I can see her every day
Dear Anthony,
I am so sorry for your loss of Sitka. I can only imagine the grief you must be experiencing without your girl by your side. You made a loving and selfless choice to allow your own heart to break so she could find peace and rest. I hope her passing was smooth and she was comforted by your presence. May her memory be a blessing as you continue life’s journey.
I had to say goodbye to my best friend and soul dog yesterday morning. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done in my life. He had mast cell tumor and the vets said they would be surprise if eh lived past 2 months past surgery given how aggressive the cancer was. He was able to live 4 months, I’m so proud of him, of the fighter he was, how much he loved life and for all the things he taught me.. The last 3 weeks things changed extremely drastic, his tumor grew and spread on his face, it was manageable October 15th but a few days later it just got worse and worse, he was bleeding, in pain and although he still loved eating, laying at the balcony, going to the parks, I could tell that the pain was bigger than the happy moments. I felt so guilty having to ask them to come the next day (I contacted them on Wednesday), I barely had time to properly be with him because I couldn’t get home from work until close to 5pm. I made him a special dinner: steak, mashed potatoes, veggies and hotdogs and blueberry muffins for dessert. He ate like a champ and anything I was eating and he would as I gave it to him. The next day I gave him chicken and veggies, muffins, his dad and step mom got at my house about 30 min before the vet arrived. Gave him Turkey meat, hugged him. The vet arrived and he was extremely kind and we felt extremely comfortable with him. I couldn’t help but feel I was betraying Smokey, by introducing him to a “friend” and thinking he was coming to visit. The vet explained the procedure, we went to the balcony, hugged him kept feeding him while the vet applied the sedative on his neck, Smokey is strong and fought the sedative, after a few minutes he gave him a bit more of the sedative. Smokey kept eating, I kept petting him, hugged him but all of sudden he started to show fear, he kept trying to go away from his bed as if he was trying to scape, the vet explained he would probably fall on the hard floor if we let him walk so we kept putting him on his bed, the same time saying it’s ok baby, go night night but he wouldn’t stop trying to get out. So eventually I set on his bed and placed his had and paws on top of my leg, he still tried getting out a few times while being held and I kept telling him everything was ok and holding more as of a hug but still in place. I can’t help but be traumatized with the thought that my dog’s last feeling was fear. I can only imagine what it feels like to be in fear, not know what’s going on and be held in place. I wanted to ask if that’s normal, did I do the right thing by holding him so he wouldn’t fall in the concrete balcony floor. Did I let my dog go on fear? I wanted to stop it so bad but I knew my dog was in pain and that letting him rest was the best decision for him but the last moment of his life traumatized me because I prayed so much he would have a tranquil and peaceful passage. I just want to make sure he didn’t think I was hurting him by not letting him run away.. and that he didn’t leave this world witu fear.
I miss him dearly, I see him everywhere in the house. I have a knot in my stomach and a feeling of emptiness, guilty and many other feelings all at once. Smokey was my best friend and soul dog and I never felt a love like I felt for him.
Thank you for taking the time reading my comment ❤️
Dear Valeria,
My heart aches for you with your recent loss of Smokey. From what you are describing, Smokey’s reaction sounds like what I have seen many times with my own patients during euthanasia. They try to walk around, not out of fear but more out of feeling a little “drunk”. The sedative takes away pain but also can make them feel a bit dizzy and uncoordinated. I definitely do not think you caused any type of trauma by holding him in your arms. This was probably the most comforting thing you could have done for your sweet boy. I truly don’t feel like Smokey’s last moments were negative or fearful in anyway. What a blessing for you to be by his side. I have no doubt he knew how much he was loved. Try not to dwell on the “what ifs” and allow yourself some grace. You made the most loving and selfless choice you could which gave your pup the peace and rest he deserved after a lifetime of devotion. May his memory be a blessing as you continue life’s journey.
Smokey loved you more than anything else in the whole world. He loved you more than he loved himself. He knew you would never, ever hurt him. Give yourself peace knowing that you looked after your loyal friend till the end. The decision is never easy.
Thank you for this article. Tomorrow it is looking like my sweet Bongo will be crossing the rainbow bridge. I am shattered, he’s been my boy for the last 10 years. I had another dog when I was a kid that I didn’t get to say goodbye to and it left this giant hole in my heart. Enter Bongo, I saved him from a kill shelter when he was just a few months old. He’s been with me through my first marriage which didn’t end well and into my second marriage, two babies, and the loss of my grandparents just a few months ago, plus an interstate move. He’s been my everything and my best friend through everything and I am SO unbelievably heartbroken. I plan to hold his paw and continue to tell him how much I love him, although we have another dog already she isn’t my Bongo and he will be missed for the rest of time.
Dear Nicole,
I am sorry for your recent loss of Bongo. He sounds like a once in a lifetime kind of pup and I know how difficult it can be to continue on without a beloved dog by your side. I am glad you were with him during his last moments. I have no doubt he was comforted by your presence and knew how much he was loved. I hope with time your heart will heal. May Bongo’s memory be a blessing that stays with you for the rest of your life. ♥
Thank you for this article. It has helped me find a little bit of comfort in making the decision to say goodbye to my sweet sweet girl Dixie.
She is only 3 years old and was diagnosed with Lymphoma at the beginning of July this year. It just doesn’t seem fair that we have to say goodbye to her at such a young age, but I know she was put on this earth for a reason. This weekend we went ahead and gave her her fun day and baked a cake for her to celebrate her 4th birthday. While her birthday isn’t until December 15th, I thought it would be a nice way to celebrate her. She has been the light in my life since the day I got her. She loves to cuddle and play with her brother Jack. This is the hardest decision I have ever had to make but I know it is the right one.
Thank you for sharing this wisdom with us grieving pet parents and I hope others can find comfort like I did from this article.
Dear Christina,
I am so sorry you are having to say goodbye to Dixie after only 3 years together. Cancer can be so cruel, and my heart goes out to you as you deal with this emotional decision. I am glad your sweet girl was able to enjoy her early birthday party. Praying her final days will be filled with love and joy. Bless you and your pup.
My heart goes out to you, I am in the same situation with my 4.5 year old boxer/bully mix 😪 he was diagnosed with lymphoma almost 5 months ago and tomorrow we have to say goodbye to him. They misdiagnosed him 4 times before we found out it was cancer so by the time we found out it was too late for any treatment to help him. I know it’s the right decision, but it doesn’t make it any easier having to make it! I’m making him a cake today & cooking him a steak for dinner! I’m going to try to make this the best day ever for him! Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I will be euthanising my 16 year old border collie in an hour. I spent all day with her today told her everything I wanted her to hear, the great memories we made, adventures we shared, the travels around Asia before making it back to Oz. We had salmon for b’fast and lean beef burgers for dinner last night.
She is suffering now I felt her pain during the night and noted her deterioration over the weekend just gone. You know when its time. Its still a damn hard road to go down with them everything is going in slow motion today and you wish time would just go a little slower. I loved reading about one of the owners putting their hand on their heart I will do that and thank you for the preparation steps. I’m scared shitless she is a smart dog and will know what’s going on soon, its the kind thing to do a gift of peace calm and eternal rest. I hope she gets her legs and speed back up in dog heaven maybe even herd some sheep.
Dear Isa,
Thank you for being willing to share your thoughts and feelings with us. Your girl was lucky to have had you in her life for so long. It sounds like it was an amazing life full of joy and adventure. I hope her passing was smooth and peaceful. My heart goes out to you as you navigate this new path forward. May her memory be a blessing.
This article is wonderful and soothing–thank you.
I am preparing for my Kirby’s loss. He turned 17 in August ( he is a shepherd, hound, ?? mix) and has been a blessing and exasperation every day of his life. And I wouldn’t change a thing. I do realize that it is amazing that he is still here and I daily remind myself of that even as I begin to grieve his upcoming loss.
About two years ago, he started with fecal incontinence (thankfully, it’s always well formed and easy to deal with) and then added in some weakness in his back legs– we started the toe grips, which are life savers. That along with Paw Friction, Acupuncture, Chinese herbs, some dog rehab, and some cold laser therapy that I do at home daily, have given us these past two years since he first stumbled (three if we make it to January-which I doubt). Kirby is NOT in pain, and my vets, and rehab person agree-if he was that decision would have already been made and I wouldn’t be doing all these other therapies. But since he isn’t in pain, I want to know that I have done all that I could for him.
Kirby is engaged– he wants to run ,and can until he stumbles, then I have to pick him up and have him balance again. As long as that cognition is there and he’s not in pain we will ride this roller coaster.
I call it a roller coaster because there have been a couple of times that I thought it was time to make the call– but with a change in meds, he rallied and still goes on.
The most recent one was last week. A major change in weather (95 to 45) hit him hard and he couldn’t walk at all. I actually had someone come and dig his hole on Monday. With winter coming, I’m glad I did because it will be ready when it is time. (and it will keep me from delaying once his time is obvious.). But it isn’t quite yet.
I discovered he had a double ear infection and that was why he didn’t have any balance–never been so happy to have a dog with an ear infection before.
We added in some gabapentin and that along with his Novox and Adamantine, has helped.
He is weak and getting up on those back legs is difficult. He is more frustrated than anything and as long as that is the main issue, we will continue.
But it is hard, especially when you know it is imminent…
Caregiver exhaustion is real and since I am his only human, it does fall to me. In the mornings when he is stiff when he needs to be lifted up one more time, I wonder when it will end–but the next moment I am thrilled that it hasn’t yet.
When the time does come, one thing I have learned is that it is a gift– I used to think I was paying someone to kill a family member– I no longer feel that way and in some ways hope that I do get to make the decision and he doesn’t go on is own..so that I am with him and he knows he is safe.
When I lost my yorkie Blu a few years ago, I was holding her and happened to have my hand on her heart and could actually feel when it stopped–I will attempt to do that again, with Kirby and my others when their time comes– it was a horrible, beautiful moment and actually helped to give me some peace. But that is my coping mechanism– find the one that works for you and know you are doing one last loving act with your baby.
Will Kirby make it another week , month, year??? — who knows, but I do know that I do have a plan in place for when it does happen. And no matter when, I will be devastated but thankful.
Dear Eva,
Thank you for sharing your experience with our readers. It is clear how much you love Kirby, and he is a lucky boy to have lived his life with you by his side. I hope when the time comes everything will be peaceful and go smoothly. Praying for your strength and comfort for your heart. Give your sweet boy a hug for me. ♥
I’m so sad to say that tomorrow I’m euthanizing my 19 years old Jack Russell terrier Mickey, he’s blind and deaf, his hind legs give out all the time, he has dementia/CCD, I have to carry him outside to go to the bathroom, he stopped eating 3 days ago, I don’t sleep much anymore because I’m up with him all the time, this is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, I’ve made arrangements for the vet to come to my house to put him to sleep.
Dear Rene,
My heart goes out to you as you work through the emotions of saying goodbye to your senior pup. I am glad you were able to have the vet come to your house and allow your sweet boy to stay where he was most comfortable. I hope his passing was smooth and peaceful. May Mickey’s memory be a blessing.
Hi Eva,
I have a similar scenario. My pug is 16 and 4 days ago started having problems with his back legs and sometimes his front. Last night he had a very rough night where he started getting scared when he wasn’t able to move, and would cry and screech. It kept me up alllll night and I am 20 weeks pregnant. He was shaken up all day long and the vet recommended it be time. In my heart I don’t feel it is time. We took him home today and he started walking occasionally on the carpet!
I am wondering if he will be similar to your Kirby in that he will have stumbling days and good days. I have to carry him everywhere and I worry about his quality of life and if I’m being selfish. But I’m glad I didn’t let him go today. I have never had to do this before but I think it will be based on a a lot of heart and intuition.
Thank you for your comment, it has given me some confidence in my decision making.
Dear Taylor,
I am glad you were able to find comfort in the experiences of other readers. You are absolutely correct that deciding when to say goodbye is often based on intuition and a gut feeling that can’t adequately be described. I am glad you still have your little buddy with you, and he has made some improvements over the last few days. Wising you both the best. Bless you and congrats on your pregnancy!
With a heavy heart my friend has to put her loving companion down this coming Monday. Max is more than a companion, but her service dog as well. They both can’t be apart from the other. We chose Monday so all that has been close to Max can have a funeral and say our final good byes. He’s had arthritis for years and he’s now falling when taking walks, slow moving and even today besides diarrhea he was secreting a watery mix of yellow pussy looking with a bit of blood from his rear So he must be suffering as he’s now 14 years old. My friend even took a quiz and most of the answers were yes. Everyone says it’s time. She had him since he was 7 to 8 years old. His previous owner was elderly and had to give him up. Max was able to reconcile with his original owner a few years ago before Covid. The joy to see them both reunited was priceless. So I’m there to offer comfort and support to both Max and my best friend to help her with this difficult decision. However she did make arrangements ahead of time as ‘Lap of Love’ will be coming in for a home euthanizatiion. Then her local ‘Pet Passages’ will pick him up to be privately creamated. I read your blog and it reminded me of my pit bull mix named Sandy. She was only 7 when she was put to sleep. I didn’t even know home Euthanasia existed before now. I held her even after her last breath in the vets office. I wish I could had offered her more comfort. It was so fast. It was also on ‘Good Friday’. That we had to put her to sleep. We have another dog now but he’s 12, though you’d never know it as most think he’s a puppy as he jumps, loves walks and loves to run. However I’ll never forget my Sandy as I remember the day we picked her up as she was the runt of the litter. Though thank you as reading this blog will help with the preparations of Max.
Hi Ann,
I am sorry your friend had to say goodbye to her beloved pup, Max. From what you described, it sounds like his health was declining fast and letting go was the only way to give him peace and relief from suffering. I am sure it is comforting to have you by her side through this difficult process. Thank you for the kind words about the article. Bless you both.
this is hard. ive been thru ot a few times n it never gets easier now its almost time to put my baby boy monkey down he gunna be the hardest one he was like MY first baby boy a family dog but my dog he went EVERYWHERE with me he even saved my life a few times n i saved him a few times also he is a tuff boy who has been thru alot his esophagas or trach is collapsed he contstsntly coughing hacking n panting his tounge starts turning blue from lack of oxyget he got a bad back n back legs he not walking more then like 3 steps n stumbling or stopping to b picked up he cant hold his pee in he still eating fine n barks wen he wants ur attention or growls n barks like a maniac wen u do something he dont like he is one of a kind dog very moody but not vicious 😞 i swear he caused his own collapesd trach because all his non stop barking b!+ching n growling . this is hard at times i feel is his time i kno he tired 😫 and then i feel he not ready yet chiding to end a life is one of the hardest things its great our pets don’t have to suffer in pain like us humans do until we just drop but having to decide wen sucks n u always question was it the right time did i do it to soon or to late? is he ready to leave us? the whole thing just sucks
Dear Melissa,
I am so sorry your sweet boy is nearing his final days. You are right that this decision is never easy and sometimes isn’t clear. Have you talked to your vet about your dog’s quality of life? They should be able to help guide you and let you know if they think saying goodbye is the most loving option. Even if you are not ready to let go yet, you can look into hospice care to make sure your boy is as comfortable as possible during these last days. I hope you can find the answers you need to make the best choice for you and your pup. Wishing you strength and comfort during this difficult and emotional time.
This is the first time me and my husband are having to make this kind of decision. Our GSD dog is nearly 9 years old, he has food allergies, skin allergies and hip dysplasia, he has been on medication for nearly 4 years now, managing his skin issues, a special diet managing his food allergies and pain killers for his hips.
More recently his skin issues have worsened with sores, on his hind legs and covering all of his underneath, he is itchy and uncomfortable and his back legs have become weaker, struggling to get up the stairs comfortably and can no longer do a short block walk without his left hind leg scraping along the floor.
We are at the stage now where the steroids he has been on for the past 3+ years are causing him more internal damage than good and the old and new medication for his skin just isn’t getting his sores from his skin allergies under control.
The vet has told us that she will fully support the decision to put our poor boy to rest, she predicts only another 12 months if that before his back legs completely fail on him.
I know deep down it is the right thing to do but I can’t help but feel like I am “putting a healthy dog down” even though the poor boy is far from that, but his mind doesn’t know that, he still greets you wanting to play and with a huge wagging tail but at the same time is so uncomfortable, itchy and tiers easy.
I really like the article, in particular giving your dog a special treat just before their last moments as our poor boy is so very, very limited on what he can eat.
I know I have done everything I can to keep him as comfortable as he has been for the past 3+ years with medication, time and effection. I guess I am looking for some kind of reassurance, someone who has been in a similar situation to us? to know this awful guilt isn’t because we will be doing the wrong thing but because it is quite simply one of the hardest things any pet owner will have to decide to do.
Has anyone had to make a decision to let their dog go because they have many bad health problems which can no longer be controlled by medication but still has a dog that seems fit and well in their mind, how did you get through the guilt and knowing deep down it was for your dogs benefit?
Dear Yeliz,
My heart goes out to you as you face this most difficult decision. It is clear from your words just how much you love your senior guy. I know it is hard when there is no absolute right or wrong answer. Here is a link to another article about evaluating quality of life: Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
I hope you can find the answers you need to make the best decision for your sweet boy and one you can be at peace with. Sometimes saying goodbye is the most loving option and the only way to give a beloved pup relief from their suffering. It is not wrong to let go if the bad days are outweighing the good. Hoping you can find clarity and comfort in this emotional time. Bless you both.
Lily is all cataracts, dementia, wobbling on her hind legs, she gone deaf and rambles about aimlessly. She took a hard fall off of our small retaining wall onto the sidewalk, and the double thud was horrible. She lay there almost knocked out. This fall was the worst of many she’s had in the past few months. I grabbed her, walked inside to my Wife and said we’d have to put her down tomorrow. The problem is my hard headed Wife always says “No”. The dog is “gone”, getting worse, and my wife is in this denial. And worse, Lily “ones” and “twos” all over the house. I am shampooing 2 to three times a day even though we take Lily out frequently to do here thing, and there are pee pads all over the house. I hug the dog often, but she always shakes it off and is only at a comfortable peace in my Wife’s arms or lap. Lately, they don’t sleep together, as we trap Lily in the office to contain her messes in there. It is easier to clean off of the wooden floor. I love the dog, but I can’t do this anymore. It is a burden to clean so often, and it hard to watch Lily deteriorate. If I take it upon myself to have Lily euthanized, Carmen will hate me. Also, I will be a sobbing mess, even though I’ve read your tips on how to prepare for bye bye. I need Carmen to be on the same page, and stop being selfish. Lily is in bad shape, and I am sure she was hurt by tonight’s fall. and it’s just going to get progressively worse.
I am stuck between a rock and a hard place, and have been pouring tears reading your article and the associated comments. But I am better prepared thanks them. What shall I do?
Dear Glenster,
My heart goes out to you with this difficult situation you are in with Lily. It definitely sounds like her health is deteriorating and she is nearing the end of her days. I am not sure there is much I can do to help your wife come to terms with this impending goodbye. The only thing I have to offer is information. I will attach links to other articles with more details and advice/comments from other readers that may help to make this hard decision more bearable. I do think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. There is no greater act of selflessness and love than to allow your own heart to break so that your dog can find peace and rest. I am sorry you even have to make this choice. I pray for your strength and comfort as you navigate the unknown road ahead. Wishing the best to everyone involved.
1. Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
2. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
3. How Will You Know When It’s Time to Euthanize Your Dog? 5 Caring, Heartfelt Messages
4. Dog Euthanasia: Knowing When to Say Goodbye
We said goodbye to our sweet, gorgeous boy Samson today and it was so so hard. Everything went as you described, but we still feel guilty and really hope he was at peace. He had kidney failure and deteriorated very quickly so we know it was the best thing for him. Our house feels empty and our hearts hurt – sending love to everyone who has lost a fluff-ball, and big hugs.
Dear Nena,
My heart goes out to you as you work through your grief over the loss of Samson. Praying for your healing and comfort. May his memory be a blessing.
Hi Dr Buzby, thank yo for writing your articles. I have found them to be very helpful and calming during this time.
My dog Max is a Lab Retriever and just turned 13 a few weeks ago. Max has had very bad arthritis and has been on pain medication for the past few years along with thyroid medication. He struggles to get up on his own and sometimes needs assistance from us. Sometimes after a little work on his own he can get up on his own. He is in pain from the years of arthritis, but still enjoys his short walks even tho his back feet drag more now. When he stands we can head the crackling noises from the arthritis. It’s been a tough few months as he recovered from GDV about 5 months ago. He still has a very good appetite almost devouring it as soon as it’s sat down in front of him. We are planning to move forward with euthanizing here in a few days, but I am really struggling if now is the right time and if it’s too early. He still seems to have good days which makes me question if it’s the right time. I however know that he will continue to be in pain as the arthritis progresses.
Dear Brittany,
I am sorry Max is struggling from arthritis pain and mobility issues. He has been through so much recently and I think it is very loving of you to want to spare him from any future suffering. I would rather say goodbye a day early than a day too late. I hope you will find comfort knowing you gave Max a long happy life. Praying for your strength during this difficult process. May his memory be a blessing.
This story has brought me the comfort I’ve been looking for for weeks. My bulldog pit mix turned 14 three months ago and has had nerve pain & arthritis for a few years. We are at the point of either putting him on more drugs or saying goodbye. Tomorrow he will be put at rest and I’ve had panic attacks for two weeks over it. I feel like I’m letting him down.. but I own him peace. He’s been my therapy dog and my rock since I adopted him when he was 8. He’s helped me with my anxiety disorder and depression. I have two other younger dogs that will& do bring me comfort, but nothing can ever replace Buddy. It’s the “good days” that has made this complete torture. Am I giving up? … I know I’m not, but the guilt has been overwhelming. I’m hoping I can continue to cope and find peace. Thank you Dr Buzby and Brittany so much.
Dear Alayna,
My heart goes out to you as you navigate this new path forward without Buddy. I hope his passing was peaceful and I have no doubt he knew how much he was loved. Your sweet boy sounds like a once in a lifetime kind of pup. May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you very much for this. Tomorrow morning I’m saying goodbye to my little lhasa, Ry. It’s been a really difficult decision because it’s been so hard to figure out if he’s going to recover after the surgeries he has had. But he’s in so much pain and so scared and I’d rather spare him any more suffering, even if sticking it out could mean a little more time. I’ve been having a hard time not thinking that I’m giving up on him or something though. I don’t feel like I even have room in my body for how much I love him. But it’s comforting to know that the guilt and uncertainty is so common. I read somewhere else from a vet tech that it’s better to make the decision early than too late and I’ve been reminding myself of that. Thank you for this kind post.
Dear Devon,
My heart goes out to you as you work through the emotions of saying goodbye to your little guy. It sounds like letting go was the only way to spare your pup from additional struggling and pain. You made the most difficult decision from a place of love, and I have no doubt that Ry knew how much you loved him. I hope everything was smooth and peaceful. May his memory be a blessing and a comfort to your heart.
Thank you SO MUCH for writing this!!! I just found out today that I am going to have to put my 17 yo vizsla down…..my FIRST DOG EVER (I had no idea I could love something THIS much…..or that anything could love me as much as she does……..I am 46 yo single female w/o kids…..she IS my kid….I owe her my life, she single handedly got me thru a hellacious divorce and subsequent depression…..she was the only reason I had to get out of bed most days). Anyways…..she has developed cancer that is in the bladder, spleen and liver…..but is not yet in pain. I have planned how I will be putting her down, at home, coordinated with my vet and what to do afterwards (cremation etc)….where I’m lost and really need help is the WHEN. My vet has said that if she was her dog, she would enjoy her for the time I have and then when she stops eating and becomes somewhat lethargic (as she says most likely this is what the end will look like), then it’s time. That how she would personally handle it. But there’s a huge part of me that doesn’t wish to let it get to that point. The mass in her spleen could rupture and that just sounds painful. She’s had pancreatitis, which was also painful…..I just need help. Should I perhaps do it sooner rather than later, while she’s happy, feels good, has an appetite? There was a quote in the letters above “a month early is better than a day late”……..I can’t get that out of my head. I want to spare her as much suffering as possible. Do you have any advice regarding this matter? I feel like I’m losing my child.. I’m a mess. But I can’t imagine I’m ever going to be ready. It’s taking all the strength I have to not put her through chemo and radiation just to keep her alive longer……which just seems like the more natural thing to do. But I know it’s the quality of her life that I need to prioritize. Any thoughts? Suggestions? Thank you again for writing on this most painful, stressful, and difficult of topics. I haven’t felt this “not alone” in months.
Cheers
Lynnsie
Dear Lynnsie,
I am sorry your sweet girl is nearing the end of her life. What a blessing to have shared 17 years together. She truly sounds like a once in a lifetime kind of pup. I think it is such a loving and unselfish act to be considering saying goodbye to your girl before she is really suffering. Allowing her to find peace and rest with some dignity still intact would be such a gift. I know letting go will be painful, but you are right…. it’s all about her quality of life. If she were my own beloved pup, I would want to avoid her spleen rupturing and a bleeding event any way I could. I hope you can find the advice you need to make the best decision for you and your senior girl. Praying for your strength and comfort. Bless you both. ♥
Thank you for this story. I made the appointment today to put down my 10 year old big baby boy. He has been such a blessing in my life and will be the second dog I’ve had to put down. My first I now feel like I waited too long for selfish reasons. I didn’t want to let her go. She lost a lot of weight, eventually lost her sight and couldn’t control her urination. I waited too long. Now my boy is diagnosed with prostate cancer and is unable to urinate on his own. He is still the happiest boy which makes this so much more stressful and sad and insanely unfair. Appetite is still there, still loves playing with his ball outside and just wants to still cuddle. It makes me feel guilty and I’m constantly questioning if it’s too soon. But I keep replaying the first time. I don’t want to see him deteriorate further.
Thank you again. This has made me feel slightly better.
Dear Marlene,
My heart goes out to you as you face this difficult decision about your dog’s quality of life. I am sorry cancer has caused him to struggle and will make you say goodbye way too soon. I am glad you found some comfort from the article and comments from other readers. May your sweet boy’s passing be smooth and peaceful. Bless you both. ♥
I feel that it was meant for me to find this blog, because I really need help and advice to make the most difficult decision. I have read each and every comment and every reply. My sweet girl, Lucy will be 15 in February. She has been my constant companion and has always loved hiking, walking, and of course chasing squirrels! Now, she doesn’t enjoy any of those things. She has become very clingy and disoriented. Today, I couldn’t find her and she was standing behind the door in the laundry room, just staring at the wall. When she goes outside it’s like she can’t find the door and goes to the opposite side. I know she isn’t blind, because sometimes she still barks when someone walks by the house. She shakes constantly, even when she is under a warm blanket. It is heartbreaking. She has had a full blood panel ran and nothing is unusual, but she has had a very foul nasal discharge and sneezes out horrible chunks of awful stuff from her nasal passage. Our vet suspects a nasal tumor, because allergy meds and antibiotics have not cleared the condition. She has taken antibiotics for almost 2 years. Unfortunately, vet visits are extremely traumatic for her, due to a terrible experience at a groomer. Her vet is wonderful and will come to our home when I feel that is time. Unfortunately, I just don’t know if it’s time. Lucy still eats most days, goes to the bathroom outside and I haven’t known her to ever have an accident. However, today when I was cleaning her bed I found evidence that she has been defecating in her bed. This is NOT like her at all. I did read one reply that said it is better to let them go sooner than later. I made that mistake with my last dachshund and it was a gut wrenching experience that I have always regretted. Now here I am just agonizing of what is the right time? Any advice will be very appreciated and welcomed.
Hi Teresa,
I am sorry Lucy is struggling and her health is declining. Some of these new issues sound like symptoms of Canine Cognitive Dysfunction/Dementia. I will post links to other articles that offer additional information and great comments from other readers. With what you are describing, it would not be a bad decision to start planning your final goodbye with Lucy. The choice is rarely straight forward and is different for each situation. The main goal is to offer peace and rest and prevent unwanted suffering. If you are getting a gut feeling that your sweet girl is nearing her final days and her mental health is poor, then letting go may be the most loving option. I hope you can find the advice you need to make this emotional decision a bit easier. Bless you and your sweet Lucy.
1. Canine Cognitive Dysfunction in Dogs: Signs, Symptoms, Solutions
2. Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
I am preparing to have my Great Dane and my two Moodles ages 13-12-10 all down tomorrow I feel so guilty but understand I am doing this for them but omg it is so heartbreaking to lose all three at once I can’t even bring myself to go to bed and sleep all three dogs sleep in my room and I am sitting here asking myself how can you do this they have been my life I have just turned 70 and will feel so lost without them
Dear Sandra,
I cannot even imagine how difficult and emotional this has been for you. How are you holding up? My heart aches for your recent loss of all three of your pups. I hope with time your heart will heal. May their memories be a blessing that stays with you forever.
I sit here with tears streaming down my face, knowing my time with Donnie is coming to an end. I have been struggling with this decision for about a month. We have had our sweet boy for 17yrs, blessed years. Donnie is a Silky Terrier and was our first “kid” as a married couple. He has always been a healthy and happy pup, up until 1.5yrs ago. I noticed changes in his behavior obsessive sniffing the door, pacing the house all day, forgotten how to drink out of the water bowl, up all night sleeping all day, getting stuck under furniture. I’m up with him most nights because lately he might wake up and be anxious or disoriented and panics and tries to move to quickly and bumps into stuff. He has cataracts in both eyes now and his hearing is mostly gone. It’s heartbreaking and I feel selfish cause I’m not wanting to let him go, even though I know it’s the right thing to do. I had to put our cat to sleep 6yrs ago and it broke me, I don’t want to feel that grief again, even though I know I will. I’m trying to get my head ready for this and my heart won’t agree. My husband is not there yet and it’s that subject I find myself bringing up more these last couple weeks to him and he says he just wishes we didn’t have to make that decision and our sweet boy would pass peacefully in his sleep. After reading this I know that may not be what happens and I would be more devastated,
as you put it to give him a final great day early than a day late and never have that last great day.
Thank you for this forum and ability to learn more and help those of us struggling with this.
Dear Michelle,
My heart goes out to you with this difficult decision you are facing. It sounds like Donnie’s health is declining and he is suffering from the effects of Canine Cognitive Dysfunction/Dementia. I understand the heartache and grief that comes with saying goodbye to a beloved dog. What a blessing to have had 17 years of memories made together. I am glad the article has been insightful and brought some clarity to your situation. I will attach some links to other articles with additional information (may help with talking to your husband) and great comments from other readers. I hope you can find the strength to give your sweet boy the peace and rest he has earned after a lifetime of devotion and love. Bless you both.
1. Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
2. In-Home Dog Euthanasia: Heartfelt Answers to 12 FAQs
3. Grieving the Loss of a Dog After Euthanasia (& Finding Peace)
Thank you for writing this article. I have had my dog, Max since he was a puppy and I was a teenager. He is anywhere from 16 or 17 years old. I always dreaded on the day I would lose him. In May 2022, Max lost his vision and his behavior started to change. I spoke with the vet and she figured he might have a brain tumor. She recommended I put him down as he would only deteriorate. I refused to accept his departure and kept him. Unfortunately, he has only been deteriorating as days go by. He can’t do much and he can’t eat much either. I came to the realization that there might be no other choice but to put him down and it has been haunting me every day. I was always opposed on putting a dog down, but I’m now in those same shoes and it is horrifying. I feel like a bad dog mom for not allowing him to stay alive until he passes on his own, but seeing how much he keeps hurting himself and how he struggles makes me feel even worse. I had my boyfriend already call Lap of Love to find out information on how to euthanize him in my home. But I’m so scared and sad to lose my baby. 🙁
Dear Angie,
I understand your grief over this difficult decision. I know it would make it easier for you if Max would pass on his own, but a natural death for a dog is not usually a peaceful event. By making a decision to say goodbye, you can make sure Max doesn’t suffer needlessly and assure his passing will be peaceful with the ones he loves the most there by his side. I have no doubt he knows how much you love him. Letting go can be the most loving and unselfish thing we can do for a beloved dog. After 16 years of devotion, you have the ability to offer your sweet boy peace and rest. I hope you find the answers and advice you need to make the best decision for you and Max. Wishing you strength and clarity. Bless you both.
I have been grappling with this decision for weeks but I think the end for my sweet baby is drawing nearer than I want it to. In October she would be 7 years old but I just don’t know if we can make it until then. She started having health issues at two years old and they’ve become significantly debilitating over the last four. From vasculitis on her pads causing her to have daily bandage changes on her feet, to being on long-term steroids which have now led us into Diabetes and Cushings disease. Being in the late stages of her illness, I’ve noticed such a change in her. She’s not able to play or run, her diseases make her act as if she is starving/thirsty constantly, she’s becoming blind. She’s also unable to hold her urine or bowels, often going in the house multiple times a day or even on herself. It’s hard to come to terms with not having my best friend anymore.. she saved me and I’ve tried so hard to do the same in return. But maybe the best thing for her is not putting her through any more.. I’m so heartbroken but I can’t help but look in her eyes and see such exhaustion… I don’t want to see her suffer anymore, even if that means a lifetime of heartache for me. 💔
Dear Brooklyn,
My heart aches for you and this difficult situation you are in with your pup. It sounds like you have done everything in your power to give her as much quality time as you could. From what you describe, it does sound like your dog’s health is declining rapidly and saying goodbye may be the most loving option at this point. I can only imagine how much you will miss her but have no doubt she knows how much she is loved. You have the ability to offer her peace and rest for her weary body. Making this hard choice is the most unselfish thing you could do. I hope you find the answers you need to feel at peace with your decision. Praying for strength and comfort for your heart.
Could really use some advice right now.
I cannot stop crying-the anticipatory grief is nearly unbearable. The things I think I will struggle with the most are the days right before-how on earth do you pick a time and date? How do you not count down the hours? How do you not spiral down the “this is the last mealtime with her”, “this is our last walk together”, ”this is our last morning together” rabbit hole??
I want to stay present for her, but it is really, really hard. I keep worrying I won’t be strong enough to make this decision when she needs me to make it.
Any general advice, or books/ articles/ podcasts/ whatever that might help? How do you reframe that grief into a peaceful energy for your fur/feather/scale babe in their last days?
Thank you so much for this article, and all that you do.
Dear B,
My heart goes out to you during this emotional and difficult time. I have felt the grief you describe and hope to offer you commiseration and understanding. The only way to face this decision is by keeping in mind you are making this choice from a place of love. Your sweet girl has devoted her life to you and now you have the opportunity to give her the peace and rest she has earned. A natural death for a dog is usually not pretty or peaceful. So, by making the decision now, you can make sure her passing happens in a calm environment with you by her side. You don’t want to wait too long and have that choice taken away from you. It is always better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late and allow unnecessary suffering. Once you pick a day you can make sure these last days are the best they can possibly be. Spend quality time together and make some memories. Spoil your girl and find joy in the process. There are many support groups online that can offer additional guidance. Also, there is great information on the website for Lap of Love. I hope you find the answers you need to make the best decision for you and your pup. Praying for strength and comfort for your heart.
I adopted a 6 yr old Cocker Terrier mix almost 6 years ago. He has been going down hill this past year. Besides being in pain from arthritis (he is on pain mgmt), the last 6 mos i have noticed strange behaviors that has gotten alot worse and after speaking to my vet and researching myself, i know he has CCD. he has ALL the symptoms and last night i slept on couch with him — to try to keep him more comfortable at night. he uses the bathroom ALL the time inside in front of us and he NEVER ever did that until about 6 mos ago and now it’s 5-6 x a day. It is breaking my heart but i made the appt to say goodbye to her 9 days from now so we can have one more weekend to spoil him and love on him. I know it’s for the best but i feel so guilty. I”m crying now writing this. But even his bully sticks that he used to devour and his Kong with treats stuck inside do not interest him…anything he has to exert effort for he wont’ do anymore — not to say he doesn’t like treats…lol…as long as its not any work for him. THank you for your info here. It’s has helped me know i’m doing the right thing.
Dear Marietta,
My heart goes out to you with this most difficult decision you have had to make for your senior guy. Cognitive dysfunction can be so cruel to our beloved dogs. It is hard to watch them suffer mentally knowing there is only so much you can do to help. It sounds like you are making the most loving and unselfish choice to give your sweet boy peace and rest. I hope his last weekend is filled with love and joy. Praying for comfort for your heart. Bless you both.
This was very well written and explained.
I am contemplating euthanising my pet. He is incompetent and cannot urinate on his own, we’ve been catheterising him for over a year now. He is just 2.5 years old and due to a doctors mistake in a surgery (he cut into the urinary tract and stitched it at multiple places). He’s been living with a UTI for over a year. He Has so much life in him but at the same time he is in so much pain and discomfort as he is always trying to urinate throughout the day for a year now. His urine is always bloody (Practically black). The catheter doesn’t pass in smoothly due to the random cuts and strictures formed inside( the doctor didn’t tell us anything about the procedure) Inspite of all this,TURBO is soooooo resilient he was absolutely unaffected by this until recently. It is so hard to let him go but he is losing himself and he doesn’t recognise us sometimes or he randomly attacks us and is extremely extremely reactive (biting without warnings) after which he is very normal, not knowing what he did and asking for cuddles.
I cannot imagine what my baby is going through but my family needs time to say goodbye. As there is nothing else we can do for him and for the sake of our own safety we can’t help him anymore (he’s had 6 surgeries and stents placed in his urinary tract which didn’t work).
My baby fought so hard for so long and he’s still fighting and he just won’t stop fighting so it’s our call to make. A very tough call.
Dear Sasha,
I am so sorry for the tragic situation you are in with your young pup. It does sound like he is struggling and saying goodbye may be the most loving option at this point. I understand your need for some time to process this decision and allow your family to deal with strong emotions. It might be a good idea to reach out to a house call vet that can offer hospice care and when the time comes, in-home euthanasia. I will attach some links to other articles that may offer additional information and great comments from other readers. It is easy to see in your words just how much you love your sweet boy. I hope he can find the peace and rest he so deserves. Bless you and your family.
1. In-Home Dog Euthanasia: Heartfelt Answers to 12 FAQs
2. Dog Hospice Care Can Bring Peace and Dignity to Your Dog’s Final Days
3. Grieving the Loss of a Dog After Euthanasia (& Finding Peace)
Thank you for sharing this. I’m going through this for the first time. I have to put my beloved boxer mix Banjo down tomorrow afternoon. He was diagnosed with a Glioma 5 months ago and it’s gotten the best of him. I want him to stay so bad. I’ve questioned myself time and time again. I’m laying next to him and I find a little comfort knowing what to expect tomorrow. I had a baby in April and I firmly believe he’s stayed as long as he can for her and I. He’s only about 9, I adopted him at 1, I will miss him everyday.
Dear Courtney,
I am so sorry for your recent loss of Banjo. I am glad you found the article helpful during this emotional time. I hope his transition was smooth and peaceful. I have no doubt he knew how much he was loved. What a blessing for him to have met your new baby girl. ♥ Praying for comfort for your heart. May his memory stay with you always.
We had the hard duty of putting our dog down a couple days ago and there was only one thing that truly haunted me leaving me feel guilt but more so my husband during the process. We let our dog eat treats of junk food and candy right before the sedation was injected and I should’ve asked for more minutes before the sedation but just let it go and half way through the injection of the sedation my dog jolted his head up from eating seemingly confused almost like he was looking at the other side of the room like there was a ghost but then I watched as he looked at my husband like what happening dad and then he laid his head down. Is it common for dogs to jerk like that before fully sedated or could my dog truly just have been confused as if he was looking to my husband for help? It’s eating away at us every time we think about that particular moment leaving us feel guilty even though we know he’s pain free now. Thanks for any insight and your article.
Dear Laura,
I am sorry for the recent loss of your pup. I am glad you have reached out about this experience so I can hopefully give you some peace of mind. It is common for dogs to be “caught off guard” when the sedation starts to take effect. It is not thought to be a fearful reaction or feeling, but rather just a strange loopy, dizzy feeling. Please don’t carry around the unnecessary burden of guilt over this reaction from your sweet boy. I am glad that even during his last moments he was surrounded by the people who love him most. I hope with time your heart will be comforted knowing you gave him peace and rest. May his memory be a blessing. ♥
I’m so glad I found this article. I haven’t seen anyone else dealing with my situation. My 9 yr. old Schnauzer mix had a spontaneous pneumothorax 5 days ago. I took her to an emergency vet where she had a chest tube inserted and was stabilized.. Then I drove her 3 hrs. to the closest veterinary school where she could get a CT scan. It broke my heart to leave her behind, but it was a Friday and they couldn’t do the scan until Monday. She has since then had more 2 more chest tubes. The CT scan indicated her pneumothorax was idiopathic. She is still leaking air, has bloody diarrhea and isn’t eating. They have upped her pain meds because she doesn’t want to walk and seems to be in pain. How much do you put a dog through medically before deciding she’s had enough? It’s especially distressing because I am 3 hours away and haven’t seen her. I don’t know her prognosis, and I’m not getting a lot of information from the vets. They have suggested explorative surgery by opening her chest, but I am not going to put her through that. They are always so busy and communication is not good. I am going to drive there tomorrow with the intention of seeing her and assessing her for myself. I am considering taking her out and going to a nearby motel to see if she’ll do better if I am close by – or driving her home and arranging for a home euthanasia. I am torn between wanting to give her every chance to survive, and giving her peace. So much of my concern is because we’re not together. I am angry because I feel like for the amount of money I am spending there should be answers, and because she’s at a vet school I don’t want her used as a guinea pig. I am so torn as to what to do, and am heartbroken atvthe turn of events. A week ago she was perfectly healthy and chasing squirrels.
Dear Cheri,
I am so sorry your senior girl is struggling with these severe issues. I understand your concern with her quality of life and the difficulty of deciding how much is enough. Make sure the clinicians that are in charge of your girl’s case are aware you need more detailed communication. They may not realize you are unhappy with service you have received. You know your pup best, and if you think saying goodbye is the most loving option, don’t hesitate to put an end to the testing and treatment process. I hope you were able to visit your pup and offer her love and comfort. I am praying there is still hope for a full recovery. Feel free to leave an update if you have a chance. Bless you both.
It’s my last day with my precious girl. She turned 16 years old 2 weeks ago. She has slowed down due to heart disease, and our diligent and exacting care could not stay death’s bidding. A small stroke yesterday predicates more to come in the future. We will not have her suffer. I am in agony. She played with new toys last night, and will be feasting on tenderloin all day tomorrow. The waiting is the worst. How sad for these beautiful, loving creatures to not have the privilege of simply dying peacefully in their sleep. After a lifetime of unconditional love they deserve a gentle death, but I am forced into an unwelcomed framework of home euthanasia. I cannot do better for this loyal, faithful, and most beloved companion, despite my ardent wishes. Godspeed, Chloe, to your little sisters who await you in paradise. I will hold you again one day, my precious, precious girl.
Dear Lexi,
My heart goes out to you with the recent passing of your beloved Chloe. She was lucky to share her life with you and have you advocate for her comfort and wellbeing. I can only imagine the emotions and grief you must be experiencing without her by your side. I hope with time your heart will heal and her memory will continue to be a blessing in your life.
Thank you for the article. I am having a hard time knowing when to say goodbye to my 16 year old Jug mix. He hasn’t had much joy in life recently, and I feel like if I say it out loud I will feel better about my decision. He has been quite anxious lately. His tail constantly between his legs. He paces and pants all day long. If he doesn’t think anyone is home he will howl. Physically he is in perfect health. Still mobile, able to jump in the couch. But mentally I can tell he is suffering. He is also becoming incontinent and urinating and deficating in the house multiple times a day, even after long walks. I know it is time but it is still a hard decision to make.
Dear Ashley,
I understand your concern for your senior boy and his declining mental health. What you are describing sounds like symptoms commonly seen in dogs that suffer from canine cognitive dysfunction/dementia. Making the decision to say goodbye is incredible difficult, but especially when most of the issues are mental rather than physical. It is ok to consider euthanasia for dogs struggling with dementia like your little pup. You have the ability to make the most loving and unselfish choice to give him peace and rest after a lifetime of love and devotion. Here is a link to another article with more information and great comments from other readers: Dementia in Dogs: When to Euthanize Your Beloved Senior Dog
I pray for your strength and comfort in this most difficult time. Bless you both.
Our vet does not use sedation before euthanasia, is this common? Is this even humane? Please help.
Hi Vicki,
Yes, it is still common to perform euthanasia without prior sedation. It is humane and the euthanasia solution does not cause pain as it is injected. The main reason it has become more favorable to give sedation prior to euthanasia is to try and prevent some of the things that can be seen after a dog has already passed. Once a dog has peacefully passed, the muscles/cells use up the last of their remaining energy. This can be seen as muscle twitching. An owner could see this twitching and assume their beloved dog is still alive and having some negative effects or feeling pain, though this is not the case. The diaphragm that controls breathing is also a muscle, so if it “twitches” it can look like the dog has taken a breath or is gasping for air, though this is also not the case. Sedation prior to euthanasia makes it more smooth for the owner and also can help keep the dog calm. If the dog is calmer, then it will make the veterinarian’s job of finding a vein easier as well. So ultimately, the use of sedation prior to euthanasia depends on veterinarian preference. Please know, if you have to have one of your own dog’s euthanized and would prefer it to be sedated prior, make this wish known to your vet. Even if this is not standard protocol for your vet, they may still be happy to add this at your request for an additional fee.
I found your blog post because I was looking up the drug Amantadine as my vet is going to prescribe this drug for my 8 yr old greyhound. He was diagnosed with osteosarcoma on Mother’s Day weekend. I was devastated as this is my third greyhound to be diagnosed with this horrible disease. I have opted to give him palliative care (like I did with my two previous greyhounds). as I have learned that even with chemotherapy and amputation the quality of life post-treatment is poor. I am a nurse, I have cared for cancer patients/hospice patients, and I can’t bear to put my dog through the traditional cancer treatment. As I read your tips, I was crying. I have been so distraught, hoping that I would not have to venture down the cancer road with another greyhound.
Dear Sharon,
I am so sorry you are facing such a devastating diagnosis with your senior guy. My heart goes out to you with the emotional decisions you have ahead. I hope the addition of Amantadine will be able to keep your sweet boy comfortable and allow him to find joy in these last days. Here is a link to another article that may have the information you were looking for: Amantadine for Dogs: Everything You Need To Know About This Pain Medication
I am praying for strength for you as you navigate this difficult path. Give your big boy a hug for me.♥
I so needed this article. I’m tearing up even as I write this comment. We are having to prepare to lose one of our sweet girls, Dixie. She was diagnosed with cancer and the last few weeks have been filled with tears and a lot of love. This is my first time going through this as a dog owner. I remember being there with my dad when he had to make the hard decision to put down our family dog. I was there when the vet came to the house and we said our goodbyes. We buried our old girl under the shade tree where she loved to lay. That was tough then, but this is so much more difficult. I have two young daughters who adore this dog. They are constantly hugging and kissing her, talking to her and laying beside her on the floor. They are going to be devastated. I am dreading that day for two very difficult reasons.
But, I’m grateful for what I learned here and feel so much more prepared. I just hope I know when the right time to say goodbye is.
Dear Clint,
I am glad you found the article to be helpful with this emotional decision you are facing. I know that saying goodbye to Dixie will leave you heartbroken, but it will give her the peace and rest she deserves after a lifetime of devotion to you and your family. The “right time” is different for everyone and every dog. I always think it is better to let go one day too early rather than one day too late and allow them to suffer needlessly. I hope Dixie’s last days will be filled with comfort and love. Praying things will be as smooth and easy as possible with your little girls. Bless you and your family. ♥
I came across this article whilst looking for comfort in my decision. My 15 year old Springer Whiskey was given peace on Monday, after recovery from severe pancreatitis 6 months ago. He never got back to full health, but was managing his recovery ok. It recently started to flare up again & I had to take the decision to let him go. It’s been just me & him for 14 years. He was there on the bed when I woke up, he’d be on my heels all day, come to work, and still be there when we went to bed. I dont have any immediate human family, so he was my family, my rock, a blessing in every sense. He was such a gentle little boy. And I’d give anything to see his little smile again. Or to give him “kissies” on his cheek. He was showing signs of the pancreatitis returning last week, and he’d gone from 18kg down to 10kg in 6 months, and his rear legs weren’t great at times. He was still very happy to go for walks, but I often used to say it takes twice the time to do half the distance. I love him so much & it’s so difficult knowing he could have had more time with me. When he started to show issues again, I decided to stay at home with him on Friday to see if that helped. I told myself then that if it doesn’t show any significant improvement by Monday, then I would have to make that call. I am so grateful that we got to spend 4 solid days together, 3 of which were spent visiting his favourites walks. We just sat there on the beach, in the woods & and the park for ages. I picked him up, not something I’d usually do on a walk, and carried him round, as the distance would have been too much for him. And I took so many photos & videos to remember him by. Monday came, and I had to make the hardest phone call & decision of my life. I called the vets in the morning & they said they could come to the house at 5.30pm. We had the most wonderful day. We visited 3 of his favourite walks again, and then we spent ages just laying on the bed making a fuss of each other. I had time to say my goodbyes, which I’m so grateful for. If he’d have gotten sick in the middle of the night, and had to finish his life on a vets table unexpectedly, I would never have forgiven myself. But to see him go on the sofa where he spent many hours dozing next to me was very comforting. Due to the pancreatitis, he had to stop his favourite treats last year. So I gave him a dentastick & a bit of biscuit just before he went. I had time to make those final memories. For that, I am forever grateful. Could I have had another day, week or month with my boy? Yes, I think so. Do I regret not giving him medication & seeing how it went, yes, 100%. But I have to keep reminding myself that it could have got worse even that evening, and then we wouldn’t have had the final moments we did, and the poor little man would’ve had anxious & stress as his last feelings at the vets. I’m so glad I got to plan his final days & say goodbye to him at home. I have no idea how I’ll get over this, and I’m prepared for the fact I won’t. I’ll just have to learn to live with it. I’m gutted beyond words. But I know he’s never going to feel pain or anxiety ever again. He’s not going to miss chasing the ball any longer. He’s not going to miss his favourite treats any longer. He was my life. And I’m glad of the last memories we made together. That’s what special friends can do for each other. Night night buddy. Love ya loads.
Dear David,
I can only imagine the emotions you are going through since saying goodbye to Whiskey last week. He sounds like such a special boy, and I have no doubt he knew how much he was loved. What a blessing to be able to give him an amazing last weekend together. Spending time in all his favorite places and getting to eat those forbidden treats must have brought him such joy. I hope with time your heart will heal and you will find comfort in all the wonderful memories you made together. Best wishes as you continue on life’s journey.
Yesterday, I made one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make. This Saturday I will be parting ways with my 13 year old chihuahua pomeranian. My handsome boy’s case doesn’t seem so black and white. Rather it falls in a grey area. For years he’s had problems with his pancreas, kidney, and arthritis. But with medications and many vet visits he’s been pushing through quite well. He is still able to walk around and has rare bursts of energy to play with his siblings. To visitors he looks like a dog who still has that sparkle in his eyes. Yet for the past two weeks he’s been vomiting every day and now has lost his appetite completely. Recently, he’s been doing a cough/ gagging sound and it’s rare to catch him not panting. During my last conversation with the vet she explained to me that there is things like anti vomiting medication and iv’s that can help him, but in a few months or less he’ll most likely be right back to how he is now or worse. There is no cure to his problems, there are only things she can do to slow the process down and soothe symptoms for short periods of time. My biggest fear is that if I don’t euthanize him now then I will just be prolonging his pain. Waiting for the worst of days to come. I know that this is the best decision I can make for my best friend, but I am struggling between acceptance and trying to hold on. The fear of euthanizing too early Is almost as painful as the thought of euthanizing too late.
Dear Tawnie,
I understand the heartbreak and internal struggle of the decision you made. From what you described; I would have made the same choice for one of my own. You are making the unselfish choice to let go to prevent pain and suffering rather than hanging on longer for personal comfort. I hope your sweet boy’s last day was filled with love and peace. May the memories of the good days bring comfort to your heart. Bless you.
That was my biggest concern euthanizing too early or too late oh my goodness you really help me feel more comfortable about my decision and while I was so torn thank you so much.I’m so sorry about your loss but your testimony was very helpful for me.
Thank you for this article. I’m euthanizing my best friend of 14 years this afternoon. It’s time to let her go and it’s so hard. This article helps to bring some comfort to my aching heart. I have lost around 10 dogs in my lifetime, only a couple by euthanasia, but this one hurts different. I’ve had her since I was 20 years old (now 35) and she’s moved around to many places with me and has seen a lot of the world. She’s my “velcro” dog as my husband says because she would (not now because she lost her mobility a few months ago) follow every step I took whether to the bathroom or any car trip she could beg her way into. She’s one of the smart ones that understands humans in regular conversation it seems. I’m hoping I will somehow see her again someday!
Dear Brandi,
I am sorry you had to say goodbye to your beloved senior girl. I know what it’s like to find that one in a million “heart” dog. I hope her last moments were filled with love and comfort. Praying for peace for your heart as you continue to move forward in life. May her memory be a blessing. ♥
I am so confused and heartbroken. My lovely healthy 14 month old GSD was taken to be spayed last week and now and the supposedly routine general anaesthetic/ drugs have caused an acute kidney injury she apparently cannot recover from. I now have to face ´the decision to put her to sleep. Only a week ago there was nothing wrong with her. I am reeling from shock and distress. I thought I was doing the best thing for my big baby girl. If I had not taken her this would not have happened.
I cannot bear to be losing her after only a year. In that time she came everywhere with me and was my soulmate. I never expected this, I am utterly distraught at the impending euthanasia. I feel so alone in this grief.
Dear Catherine,
My heart breaks for you and this tragic turn of events with your young pup. I can’t imagine how distraught you must be facing this most difficult decision to say goodbye. We (veterinarians) try so hard to prevent anesthesia complications such as kidney injuries, but unfortunately even with pre-anesthetic testing and diligence, they sometimes cannot be avoided. You made a choice that I would have made for my own beloved dog, to have her spayed. The risks of a uterine infection, mammary cancer, and other reproductive complications are all good reasons to pursue spaying a female dog. I know that none of this takes away your grief, but I hope it will allow you to put down the burden of guilt you are carrying. I pray with time your heart will heal. Bless you both. ♥
We have a 17 1/2 year old Doxie. Last year she was diagnosed with pancreatitis. We thought we were going to lose her. But, with hydration and a special diet, she pulled through. She has had pancreatitis 4 times since that time. She is also now completely blind and has renal failure. Her body is failing. Her appetite is not good. She eats very little but is still drinking a lot.
I know it’s probably time but it’s so hard to make that decision. She still snuggles up to me on the sofa and attempts to play with her toys.
How do you know when to make the call? I don’t want her to suffer.
Dear Lindsey,
I am sorry your sweet girl is nearing the end of her life. I know you want to do what is best and that is difficult when things are not clear. In these circumstances, there may be no right or wrong answer as to when is best to say goodbye. I will attach some links to other articles that may offer additional information and advice. It is clear how much you love your little pup, and I am certain she knows. Praying for your strength and comfort for you both.
1. Using a Quality of Life Scale for Dogs
2. Signs Your Dog is Dying: A Caring Message to Bring You Peace
3. Dog Kidney Failure: When to Euthanize Your Dear Dog
Hey there,
I have been dreading this moment since the day I got my baby girl Luna. A beautiful, silly, amazing shih tzu mix.
I had the absolute blessing to pick her up February of last year .
Regretfully, first week of May, suddenly one issue and then another began to arise. Took her into the ER and different hospitals several times and over trials and errors, tests and labs, biopsies and all, nothing has been found and my little fluffball continues to whither as she continues to lose more and more weight.
I pray for a miracle before the end of the week, but I am also bracing for tragedy. Thank you for this post with great Information to prepare me and my family for the loss of our first doggo.
Dear Luis,
My heart goes out to you as you face this most difficult decision. I am so sorry that despite trying everything you could, there are still no good answers for Luna’s suffering. I am also praying for a miracle for your sweet girl. Please feel free to leave an update if you have a chance. Bless you both. ♥
Tomorrow at 4:30 saying goodbye to my baby girl pomeranian Boo Bella. She was a gift from God I have no doubt., Had her for many incredible years. God bless you doctor and all the commenters on this page. I am devastated. There will never be another one like her.
Dear Suzanne,
I am sorry for the recent passing of your sweet girl Boo Bella. I hope that as the days go by you will be comforted by her memory. Bless you and wishing you happiness for the future.
We will be saying goodbye tomorrow to our 11 year old Jack Russ Jackson who was diagnosed with an aggressive mast cell tumor. Within 3 months it has grown so big and now all he does is chew at the tumor until it bleeds,, He also has a pretty significant heart murmur. While he is still so energetic and willing to play he is declining. The vet said more than likely his chewing on the tumor and opening it up would be what causes us to make the decision faster than his actual decline in health which makes this decision all that more difficult. We know this is best for him though. We DON’T want him to start having pain ( although the ulcer on the tumor has got to be so PAINFULL!!) Dogs that I have helped cross the Rainbow Bridge before have been pretty old and miserable so it was much easier. This one is killing me…..My heart goes out to all of you writing comments.
Dear Jenny,
I am so sorry you are facing this emotional decision. It sounds like you are truly doing what is best for Jackson and preventing him from suffering needlessly. My thoughts are with you as you spend this last day with your sweet boy. Praying everything goes smoothly and is peaceful. Bless you both.
Im so sorry for your loss. We are experiencing the same thing for our 13 year old Boxer, Fred. We are planning an in home Euthanasia Saturday and we are struggling so bad to cope because he seems like his normal self, but the tumor has gotten necrosis at the bottom. We are so heartbroken and making this decision has been probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do. ❤️ Sending my love to your beloved baby.
Dear Victoria,
I can only imagine how difficult yesterday must have been for you and your family. You made such a loving and unselfish decision for your sweet Boxer boy. I hope everything went smoothly and was peaceful for Fred’s last moments. May his memory be a blessing.
Today I said goodbye to Norby, my 19 yr old baby. At his age he had many health issues, but what is bothering me the most is how happy and active he still was. He still scampered around the house and wagged his tail- even at the vets office just a moment before he died. I feel like I took that joy away from him.
But he also had the unpleasantness of leaking pee, diarrhea, taking medicine and eye drops several times a day and the newest was to be subcutaneous fluids 2-3 times a week.
Dear Julie,
I understand the grief that comes with saying goodbye to a beloved senior pup. It sounds like you made the right decision, and it came from a place of love. Try not to look at it like you took joy away from him, but rather allowed him to find peace and rest and prevented unnecessary suffering. I always think it is better to let go one day too early rather than one day too late. I hope with time your heart will heal. May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you for your wonderful article. I am sadly struggling with the fact that my lovely 10 yr old maltipoo to sleep. She has been my everything and I just can’t seem to let her go. She strayed with bladder stones and a mass her stomach which was determined to be cancer. The cancer spread to her stomach and now her lungs. Chemo didn’t work. My oncologist vet and primary vet both say it is time to say goodbye because she is having trouble breathing (lungs have been drained of fluid twice but comes right back) and is suffering. I have pain meds for her and when I look in her eyes she looks so sad but I am her protector, how can I be her killer?? I am torn apart inside not knowing what to do. It’s selfish to keep her alive but I
Know in my heart she doesn’t want to die and I can’t bear the thought!
I apologize for using some wrong words like strayed instead of started. Dang auto-correct
Dear Sherry,
I am sorry you are facing such a difficult decision with your senior girl. Cancer can be so cruel, and it sounds like your pup is really struggling. I know you want what is best for her and want to make sure you don’t cause any harm. Choosing euthanasia now will allow your sweet girl to find peace and rest without having to suffer through declining health to the point she can no longer breath and passes in a painful manner. I always think it is better to say goodbye one day too early rather than one day too late. I hope you can find the answers you need to make the best decision for you and your sweet girl. Whatever you decide, I have no doubt she knows how much she is loved. Praying for peace and clarity. Bless you both.
Thank you for this beautifully written article that brings me peace in my decision to go forward with euthanizing our beloved 13 year old golden retriever late Sunday afternoon. All the family will join us in a celebratory send-off with lots of love, hugs, photos and treats tomorrow before her appointment. I am filled with grief but know I’m doing the very best thing for her and it pains me to see her decline with arthritis, GI issues,weight loss, incontinence and her increasing lack of joy. Although she doesn’t seem to be in obvious pain, there are plenty of signs that indicate she is may be more uncomfortable than she’s letting on and I don’t want her to suffer. Having watched parents die in hospice and in the hospital, I do not want that kind of ending for my beautiful Sophie. I want her last meal to be ice cream and chocolate, not cold, tasteless eggs. I want her to be able to walk in her last moments and not carried. I want to see her smiling eyes, not eyes filled with pain. It may be too early but I abhor the thought of her enduring unnecessary suffering. She has been the best pet and will live in our hearts forever.
Dear Michelle,
All I can think is what a wonderful and beautiful send off this sounds like. ♥ I hope everything went smoothly and am so glad Sophie was surrounded by the ones that love her the most. I know your heart is sad today without her by your side. Praying you will be comforted knowing your beloved girl did not have to suffer and is joyful once more. May her memory be a blessing as you continue life’s journey!
My heart is breaking as I write this and prepare myself to say goodbye to my beautiful goldendoodle, Beau. I can’t find the words to describe the pain I feel. Eight months ago, I learned he has terminal stomach cancer and there has not been one single day in those eight months when I have not given him pills, hand fed him home-made food, played his favourite games, taken him for a walk, or put my arms around him and felt the warmth of his dear, familiar body. What will I do without this beautiful soul beside me in this life? I know that I should take comfort in the fact that he has lived two months past his six months prognosis and I do take some comfort in that. I know I should be grateful for the almost thirteen years I’ve had with him, and I am. But it’s not long enough. I don’t want to let him go but I can’t ignore the reality that for the past few weeks, he has been straining to go to the bathroom. I know he is not going to get better, only worse. It’s now time for me to be brave and rescue him from suffering. But every time I go to make an appointment, I can’t stop crying. I feel physically sick. I feel like I must consent to killing this beloved dog when all I want to do is save him.
Dear Deb,
My heart goes out to you while you are trying to make this most difficult decision. Even forever would not be long enough with your sweet Beau. It does sound like his health is starting to decline and he is struggling more. I understand how it can feel like you are betraying him by consenting to “let go”. Instead, I hope you are comforted by the knowledge that you are releasing him from his suffering. You are making the most loving and unselfish choice to allow your own heart to break so he can find the peace and rest he deserves after giving you 13 years of love and devotion. I pray with time your heart will heal and the memories of the good times will be a blessing to your life.
Deb you put what I’m feeling into words. I would do absolutely anything to help/save my sweet Rosie. But I know that her health will never improve. I am working with a wonderful hospice vet…. but this decision is unbearable. I’m not a stranger to it., having done it 3x previously….. and an unexpected loss of my youngest dog (aka my very BFF) weeks ago. I hate it…. it is the worst part of life. But I love my Rosie so very much I do not want her know suffering. God bless you and I hope you find peace in knowing the pain you feel of losing your beloved Beau is a direct reflection of how much you loved him…. and how lucky are you and Beau to have experienced that kind of unconditional love.